People who rely on lowbrow humor and constant swearing

It’s an old one, but man, was it creative. Even without leaning heavily on profanity, the imagery is incredibly vivid...

In my tight-knit circle of friends, everything we say is basically just a constant stream of profanity and sexual jokes—honestly, some of them get so absurd they’re practically grotesque. We spend half our time trying to outdo each other with the most bizarre, ridiculous anatomical puns we can dream up, and we have a blast doing it. It gets pretty childish sometimes, too, like seeing who can let out the loudest burp or racing to see how far through the alphabet we can get while belching.

The thing is, I struggle when I'm hanging out with different crowds because those habits tend to stick with me, and I occasionally end up blurting something out at the worst possible moment that definitely isn't what people expect from me. :/

Honestly, you just need a tiny, microscopic shred of common sense to realize when a setting isn't appropriate—like, I don't know, a baseline level of social intelligence? You shouldn't be acting out while talking to foreign colleagues, or your boss at a Christmas party, or even just some kids playing in the park, or that sweet old lady from down the street who drops by with some homemade comfort food on a Saturday... you don't just start being crude, or vulgar, or throwing out sexual innuendos.

I'm mistyotter13, and yeah, I can be vulgar. I hang out with people who are vulgar. When I'm in a good mood, I'm vulgar because it’s fun—when I'm in a bad mood, I'm vulgar because it's fun—but when the situation calls for decorum, I'm not being vulgar. Period. People who don't get that and react poorly to me? They aren't my crowd, and I'm certainly not theirs. Of course, if they push it, I'll just tell them where to shove it and wish them a long, miserable life... ☕

That’s pretty much it 🙂

For me, it’s mostly just a habit, and honestly, it really depends on where I am.
Appletini pretty much nailed it with her explanation.

Look, I can be foul-mouthed, vulgar, or make jokes about sex if I feel like it, but I can also just be a totally normal social human being who keeps things polite when the situation calls for it.

Most people in my life don't really care, though if I notice someone's getting a little uncomfortable (looking at you, Grandma 👋), then I'll just dial it back.
My God, it's not like I'm incapable of thinking before I open my mouth.

There's a time and a place for everything, but let's be real—I probably wouldn't vibe with someone who gets totally scandalized just because I drop an F-bomb once in a while. ☕

I definitely don't act that way around my older relatives or when I'm in a professional setting, like at my job near downtown Chicago; I know that kind of language isn't appropriate there. Just because I swear doesn't mean I'm not smart.
But when I'm hanging out with friends privately? I don't always want to constantly filter myself or worry about hurting someone's feelings. Sorry, but it's exhausting, and I just want to be able to relax.

Honestly, when things go south—like watching a terrible play at a Dallas Cowboys game—I get so heated I just want to swear at God or someone's mother.

But sexual jokes? Most of the time, they're just exhausting, along with anything else that feels forced or tries way too hard. It’s not like you can shock anyone with that stuff anymore, and let’s be real, hardly anyone (especially guys) actually pulls it off with any class. For me, it's all about the style, the spontaneity, and the timing. If someone actually nails it, I'll laugh, but those moments are pretty rare.

Joseph Bailey41 said:What makes you so "sure" it isn't normal? Did someone just tell you that? ☕

It’s usually not considered "normal" for women. Speaking from my own experience, I can tell you I've been told countless times that I'm crude and that it isn't feminine—which, honestly, I actually agree with.
Do you really think someone who swears constantly every single day can ever completely kick the habit?

Hannah Kim5 said:It’s usually not considered "normal" for women. Speaking from my own experience, I can tell you I've been told countless times that I'm crude and that it isn't feminine—which, honestly, I actually agree with.
Do you really think someone who swears constantly every single day can ever completely kick the habit?

I don't buy it. It’s a deep-seated habit, and I doubt anyone can just snap out of it entirely.

Personally, I prefer subtle, sophisticated double entendres, though I'm certainly not a prude. That said, crude language isn't really my style. I only swear when the situation absolutely demands it.

I can't stand those hyper-masculine "edgelords" who think being crude is a substitute for having a personality. And don't even get me started on that brand of modern art where some guy spends half an hour cracking the same tired jokes about anatomy... Ha ha ha, look how edgy you are, mocking the Church with the same old tropes and dropping profanity every thirty seconds. So clever. Truly creative. But tell me, what’s your actual solution for making life better? Oh right, just more profanity.

I'm a serious person with a sense of humor. I'm not some clown who needs to rely on vulgarity just to prove how "open-minded" or sophisticated I am.

Bravo 👍

I honestly can't stand lowbrow humor or people being vulgar for no reason because nothing about that trash is actually funny to me, and that goes for both men and women alike.
I only resort to swearing when I stub my toe on something!

Alexander Adams94 said:I can't stand those hyper-masculine "edgelords" who think being crude is a substitute for having a personality. And don't even get me started on that brand of modern art where some guy spends half an hour cracking the same tired jokes about anatomy... Ha ha ha, look how edgy you are, mocking the Church with the same old tropes and dropping profanity every thirty seconds. So clever. Truly creative. But tell me, what’s your actual solution for making life better? Oh right, just more profanity.

I'm a serious person with a sense of humor. I'm not some clown who needs to rely on vulgarity just to prove how "open-minded" or sophisticated I am.

You're breaking my heart here. ☕

Kyle Vaughn8 said:We all know that one person who just can't seem to keep it clean—always leaning into the dirty jokes or coarse language, right?

What’s your take on people like that? You know, the ones who constantly push the envelope with vulgarity or constant sexual innuendos just to get a reaction out of the group?
What kind of personality does that actually point to, and how do you guys really feel when you're hanging out with them?

Why do you think some people feel this massive urge to stand out by being crude or talking about sex non-stop? 🤷

What are they actually trying to achieve there... is it just a sign of something deeper? Like, are there certain character traits that always seem to travel with that kind of behavior?

I actually have a woman in my circle like this.
She is constantly dragging in this crude, sexualized humor, interpreting everything as a double entendre, and she does it totally on purpose because she genuinely loves watching everyone else get caught off guard or feel awkward (especially people who don't even know her yet).

Total strangers would probably assume she’s living some wild, high-octane sex life, but honestly, that couldn't be further from the truth. She's got a massive mouth, but when it comes to actual action, she’s got absolutely nothing going on.

Basically, these people are just desperate for attention! They’re dealing with a super intense inferiority complex, so they try to compensate by exaggerating things that society finds a bit uncomfortable or taboo.

Look, cracking a joke about sex once in a while isn't a crime, but making it your entire personality is definitely a red flag.

I suppose I can be quite blunt when things are casual and low-key.
You know, shit, fuck, damn.😁
At work, though, I stay strictly professional.

I imagine there’s at least a baseline level of social intelligence required to understand when to speak, how to talk, and where the line for good taste actually lies.

As for that crude, vulgar way some women swear, I reject it entirely. It’s distasteful.🤣
I once had a brief run-in with a guy who told me "it isn't lady-like to swear," even though he was constantly dropping F-bombs with every woman he met.
Honestly, men like that are just Neanderthals.
Pardon my french.

I swear like a sailor, but honestly, it’s purely for my own health... I truly believe that if I didn't have this outlet—aside from maybe some old-school leech therapy or bloodletting—my blood pressure would spike to a thousand during a crisis, and I'd end up having a stroke before I even get the chance to enjoy being this young and beautiful.

It isn't like I'm swearing all the time, though; I can definitely keep it under control when I need to. It's certainly not because I'm uneducated, illiterate, or just too lazy to find better words... it's simply that letting it out brings me such a sense of joy, providing a sort of verbal catharsis that helps me blow off a little steam here and there. After all, isn't a well-placed curse word much better than losing my cool entirely?

Hannah Kim5 said:It’s usually not considered "normal" for women. Speaking from my own experience, I can tell you I've been told countless times that I'm crude and that it isn't feminine—which, honestly, I actually agree with.
Do you really think someone who swears constantly every single day can ever completely kick the habit?

Yeah.
If people can quit smoking or get clean from drugs, why wouldn't they be able to stop swearing? 🤣.

Sean Cruz said:I don't buy it. It’s a deep-seated habit, and I doubt anyone can just snap out of it entirely.

Personally, I prefer subtle, sophisticated double entendres, though I'm certainly not a prude. That said, crude language isn't really my style. I only swear when the situation absolutely demands it.

People fix speech impediments or even smooth out an accent all the time.

It’s really just about being mindful of what you're saying and making a conscious effort to change how you express yourself.
For me, most swear words are basically just filler. Sure, it's a habit, but it's not a massive issue if you've got half a brain.

I managed to drop some of my verbal tics just by deciding I wasn't going to say them anymore. It wasn't exactly rocket science.
I bet I could stop swearing too, if I actually gave a damn about it.
But I don't.

Still, I'm sticking to my point: if people can walk away from heroin, they can definitely quit this crap.

Christian White10 said:I swear like a sailor, but honestly, it’s purely for my own health... I truly believe that if I didn't have this outlet—aside from maybe some old-school leech therapy or bloodletting—my blood pressure would spike to a thousand during a crisis, and I'd end up having a stroke before I even get the chance to enjoy being this young and beautiful.

It isn't like I'm swearing all the time, though; I can definitely keep it under control when I need to. It's certainly not because I'm uneducated, illiterate, or just too lazy to find better words... it's simply that letting it out brings me such a sense of joy, providing a sort of verbal catharsis that helps me blow off a little steam here and there. After all, isn't a well-placed curse word much better than losing my cool entirely?

Exactly. 👍 For those moments, I keep a massive, colorful vocabulary tucked away, much like some high-class streetwalker in a port town in Spain. Purely for health reasons, of course. It turns out being vocal is far more useful than just popping a Xanax.

I know it’s not exactly classy, but I find myself swearing every now and then just to take the edge off. There are moments when I even end up losing my temper with God, though I can usually hold myself back if there's a religious person nearby or someone else who might be offended by it. But once I've had a little bit to drink... well, things get a lot louder. Still, I've heard it's much better to vent with words than to actually get into a fight, so I try to stick to that philosophy. 😒

Look, it’s simple. We aren't being vulgar or rude at all. Honestly, we are just incredibly peaceful people, for crying out loud... 🙂

Brandon Lopez6 said:Yeah.
If people can quit smoking or get clean from drugs, why wouldn't they be able to stop swearing? 🤣.

People fix speech impediments or even smooth out an accent all the time.

It’s really just about being mindful of what you're saying and making a conscious effort to change how you express yourself.
For me, most swear words are basically just filler. Sure, it's a habit, but it's not a massive issue if you've got half a brain.

I managed to drop some of my verbal tics just by deciding I wasn't going to say them anymore. It wasn't exactly rocket science.
I bet I could stop swearing too, if I actually gave a damn about it.
But I don't.

Still, I'm sticking to my point: if people can walk away from heroin, they can definitely quit this crap.

That really depends on what stage of addiction they're in. 😁 🤣

Joseph Bailey41 said:You're breaking my heart here. ☕

It doesn't say anywhere that I can't just put it back together.