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casualridge8 said:@Jeffrey Fisher5, I think you might have missed the mark on this topic. There are actually a few different threads floating around here specifically about ungrateful kids, so maybe give those a look?
What I’m really trying to get at is how people handle that heavy, natural sense of guilt that kicks in when they move away from their parents. And isn't that feeling so much more intense if your parents were actually good to you? It’s a different beast entirely compared to when the relationship was toxic...
How do you all deal with that weight?
Personally, I don't think it's "natural" at all—like, there's no rule saying you *have* to feel that way. And I'm right along with the folks who say parents often project that guilt onto their kids. When I moved out at 18, I didn't feel guilty one bit.🤷 My parents were totally cool with me striking out on my own; if they hadn't been, they would've been the weird ones.😁
Not trying to offend anyone here, but I'd feel like a total loser if I’d just stayed stuck at home with my parents. Weird, I know—but that's just me.🤣