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velvethawk6 said:And what on earth was the motivation behind that suicide attempt? 🍿
Looking at it from that perspective, it’s somewhat more apparent why they insist on treating you like an immature child. 🤔
It appears you'll just have to swallow your pride and endure some unpleasantness until your financial situation is sorted out—or rather, until you manage to sort it out yourself—and once that's settled, you can finally head straight toward independence.
Is moving into an apartment with your girlfriend really off the table? Is it not an option?
Honestly, try to be out of the house as much as humanly possible just to minimize the friction.
You aren't going to change them, after all. 🤷
Go for walks, dive into some hobbies, lose yourself in a library, hang out with friends, maybe even pick up some freelance gig... just anything to keep you away from them so you don't waste energy on these incredibly unproductive arguments.
Nothing actually gets resolved; you're all just grating on each other's nerves.
Those are the classic dead-end fights where nobody achieves anything, yet everyone feels a little better after venting, almost as if seeing the other person get upset provides some twisted sense of relief that helps ease the tension in the house. 🤣
The second someone drops a popcorn emoji, I know exactly what’s happening—they think they’re watching some big cinematic drama unfold, when really, they’re just being obnoxious. In this case, it's pretty obvious you're just here for the entertainment value, so honestly? I’m going to skip your entire post. Go ahead and take that "main character" energy somewhere else—maybe find another thread to stir the pot in. By the way, I liked your old avatar better.
Nancy Cruz3 said:I don't get one thing.
You claim you won't be able to go anywhere for at least a year.
So why even bother arguing about moving out with your dad—when you know damn well that move isn't actually happening?
How does that even land with them—telling them you're leaving, only to end up doing absolutely nothing?
To me, it sounds exactly like those 18-year-olds shouting, "You can't tell me what to do, I'm an adult!"—even though they have zero career, zero job, and zero savings, and within three days, they're practically begging their parents for grocery money.
Threatening to move out is pointless if there's no actual foundation behind it.
Honestly, it’s pointless even when there is.
Your only real move is to just lay low—put your head down for a year until things settle, mind your own business, stop the arguments (which means swallowing your pride a lot), and work your ass off so you can actually afford to live on your own.
I’m telling you, I’ll head over to the apartment eventually—but definitely not tomorrow. If I show up even a second earlier than expected, he’s going to absolutely lose his mind because he'll think I actually moved back in. forever Home. You feel me? 🙂
Dennis Adams said:LOL, I knew a few kids back in the day who felt the exact same way at 18—thinking they were totally ready to go solo. That whole "rebel teen" phase is such a classic move (and yeah, let’s be real, at 18 you're still basically a kid, just like I was back then). Until you're actually ready to foot the bill for your own life, you're gonna have to deal with all the crap your "old school" parents throw your way. They're the ones keeping you afloat, so they're the ones making the rules. Thank God the world hasn't gone so completely sideways yet that kids being supported by their families get to dictate terms to the people paying the bills. Take that as your wake-up call: go find a job, you and your girlfriend, and move into your own place together. That’s when the real struggles start. If you can actually make it through that, then you guys are meant to be.
edit: Just realized you aren't even 18 yet, but honestly, it's the same story. My advice stays the same: you and your girl need to find some work, grab an apartment, and start living on your own.
My girlfriend actually has a job, but since she isn't getting a steady paycheck right now, we’re basically fighting a constant uphill battle just to stay afloat. As for me, I pick up various freelance gigs or side hustles whenever they pop up—you know, those little jobs that come along every now and then. The problem is, there are almost zero student employment opportunities out there that offer anything more than a quick month of work. I’m always hunting for something more substantial—something that might last six months or so—because if her paychecks were actually hitting our bank account on schedule, we wouldn't be in this mess. Do you see why we're so screwed? Honestly, the system is just rigged against us from every single angle. 😢 And then you've got those frail old folks.
Look, I am not some dependent living off my parents. Every single month, I manage to land at least three different gigs, and they actually have the nerve to ask me to pay them back for whatever little things I spend—which, honestly, would be the absolute peak of jerk behavior on their part. I barely eat more than one small meal a day, so I’m certainly not running up a massive grocery bill. I don't ask them for a dime, they don't give me any money, and they don't buy me anything. If they really expected me to chip in for these tiny little household expenses, then I’d expect my sister to be doing the exact same thing, considering she’s the one still actually living in that house.
So, is there actually a way—some kind of strategy or logical comeback—to use when he starts bashing the whole idea of independence again? I need something solid so that when he inevitably starts clutching his pearls and accusing me of "just philosophizing" or talking like some uneducated rube, I actually have a point.