Always the underdog!

so, have you ever actually been the first one there?

mellowseal20 said:I’ve gotta say, I don't really see it that way. When the human psyche is functioning the way it's supposed to, the goal is pretty simple: to be happy. And to me, that means finding freedom from pain, trauma, and all that suffering.

Look, I'm not naive—life isn't perfect and people go through hell. But if anyone tries to tell me there's some inherent beauty in starving or being sick compared to just feeling full and healthy? Yeah, I'm not buying it.

A bit late to the party here, but here’s my take:
What I actually wrote was that there is beauty in productive suffering, meaning when you’re "climbing the mountain" to reach a specific goal. If fasting serves a purpose or improves your well-being, then it’s a worthwhile struggle. Think about a woman in labor; she’s in immense pain, but she knows exactly why it’s happening. To me, suffering itself doesn't have an inherent label of "good" or "bad"—it’s the objective behind it that gives it its meaning.

Man, if you guys could hear what we women are thinking. I remember asking this one girl back in the day, and she just looked me straight in the eye and told me I was always the second choice. Just the perpetual runner-up. 🤣