Why are some people always in such a rush?

Or maybe I’m just moving in slow motion? Though, honestly, I don't think that's it...

I seriously don't get why some people lose their minds if everything isn't finished this exact second, or if a project doesn't start immediately, or if you don't knock out every single task today instead of leaving it for tomorrow. Like, chill out.

I can't stand it when people try to rush me through things that aren't even urgent enough to matter whether they're done today or next week! 😠 It’s not like I’m sprinting to catch a Greyhound bus; there’s always another one rolling into the station ten minutes later anyway, so what's the big deal?

I really prefer doing things at my own pace, and I just don't understand the obsession with getting everything done right this instant... (my mom is driving me absolutely insane lately).
It's like everyone thinks they have to pull an all-nighter like some Wall Street intern, instead of just finishing up by 3 PM like a normal human being.

Okay, but... what's actually going on here?
Am I just lazy? Am I like that grasshopper from the fable who kept putting everything off until tomorrow, only to freeze to death once winter hit?
Or is it that the people constantly rushing around have some kind of disorder, or they're just incredibly impatient, or whatever...🤷

Is it just that people have this weird psychological need to turn every little thing into a high-stress crisis, or am I actually just being lazy? :/

Morgan Bishop4 said:Or maybe I’m just moving in slow motion? Though, honestly, I don't think that's it...

I seriously don't get why some people lose their minds if everything isn't finished this exact second, or if a project doesn't start immediately, or if you don't knock out every single task today instead of leaving it for tomorrow. Like, chill out.

I can't stand it when people try to rush me through things that aren't even urgent enough to matter whether they're done today or next week! 😠 It’s not like I’m sprinting to catch a Greyhound bus; there’s always another one rolling into the station ten minutes later anyway, so what's the big deal?

I really prefer doing things at my own pace, and I just don't understand the obsession with getting everything done right this instant... (my mom is driving me absolutely insane lately).
It's like everyone thinks they have to pull an all-nighter like some Wall Street intern, instead of just finishing up by 3 PM like a normal human being.

Okay, but... what's actually going on here?
Am I just lazy? Am I like that grasshopper from the fable who kept putting everything off until tomorrow, only to freeze to death once winter hit?
Or is it that the people constantly rushing around have some kind of disorder, or they're just incredibly impatient, or whatever...🤷

Is it just that people have this weird psychological need to turn every little thing into a high-stress crisis, or am I actually just being lazy? :/

Look, I've noticed that I'm constantly rushing. And that's mostly because I have a mountain of responsibilities (which is totally my own fault since I keep piling them on myself). Since you don't really care which "flight" you catch—not in a bad way, obviously—it's probably because you don't have as many obligations. I'm guessing you're still in college or high school? Sure, organization is key, but sometimes when your schedule isn't entirely under your control, you end up rushing all the time. I don't know about anyone else, but for me, that's just how it goes...

I’m definitely one of those people who’s constantly on the move, just grinding through everything right now because I can’t stand leaving stuff for tomorrow. Honestly, I love being this way; it’s paid off big time for me, both in my career and just navigating my personal life. But man, passive people absolutely drive me up the wall—I make sure they don't even make the cut when I'm picking my inner circle, though obviously, I'm stuck with certain family members 🙂....
The only real hurdle was tracking down a partner who could actually keep pace with my chaos, or better yet, someone who could actually take the lead and stay a step ahead of me... but thank God, I finally found him. Around him, I actually get to be the one who's taken care of for once... 🙂🙂🙂

The answer is pretty straightforward. It’s because my schedule tomorrow is already stacked, and the day after that is just as bad. If I push something off today, tomorrow becomes an absolute nightmare.

Blessed are those who actually manage to find free time these days. I have no clue how they pull it off—unless they aren't busy raising kids, I guess. If you don't have little ones constantly needing something, then sure, maybe it's possible.

I’m looking forward to my first real break in about twenty years once the kids finally grow up. Though, by then, relaxing will probably be impossible anyway. Old habits die hard.

Honestly, @amberscout6, I find it incredibly difficult to connect with anyone who can't keep up. 🤷

People who are perpetually in a rush—to me—seem to lack any sense of priority; everything feels equally urgent to them. Plus, there is the matter of temperament—some people thrive on a fast pace, while others prefer a more relaxed, steady rhythm. I realize that workloads can spike suddenly, making a bit of a scramble inevitable, but we are talking about those individuals who are CONSTANTLY rushing through life.

Regarding the concept of laziness—the only thing that truly matters is whether you are fulfilling your responsibilities correctly. You don't have to dance to someone else's frantic tempo. As long as you are getting your work done properly, you aren't being lazy.

silverwalker27 said:People who are perpetually in a rush—to me—seem to lack any sense of priority; everything feels equally urgent to them. Plus, there is the matter of temperament—some people thrive on a fast pace, while others prefer a more relaxed, steady rhythm. I realize that workloads can spike suddenly, making a bit of a scramble inevitable, but we are talking about those individuals who are CONSTANTLY rushing through life.

Regarding the concept of laziness—the only thing that truly matters is whether you are fulfilling your responsibilities correctly. You don't have to dance to someone else's frantic tempo. As long as you are getting your work done properly, you aren't being lazy.

You still haven't answered my question about what you do for a living.

Kimberly Perez3 said:You still haven't answered my question about what you do for a living.

?

I think there was a slight misunderstanding.

I handle whatever an investor requires—it’s just a "serious business" sort of thing. I know things get hectic, but if the rush is constant, it usually points to something else—either a personal choice (some people just thrive on chaos and hate sitting still) or simply a lack of clear priorities.

We all only have 24 hours in a day; pretending otherwise is pointless. Plans have to be realistic within those constraints—otherwise, they aren't really plans at all.

silverwalker27 said:?

I think there was a slight misunderstanding.

I handle whatever an investor requires—it’s just a "serious business" sort of thing. I know things get hectic, but if the rush is constant, it usually points to something else—either a personal choice (some people just thrive on chaos and hate sitting still) or simply a lack of clear priorities.

We all only have 24 hours in a day; pretending otherwise is pointless. Plans have to be realistic within those constraints—otherwise, they aren't really plans at all.

You can get a massive amount done in 24 hours, or you can decide to prioritize your own laziness. People hate admitting they're lazy, so they invent excuses about "shifting priorities" instead.

Do you have kids? Probably not, since they aren't a priority...☕

If you had two or three kids running around, your maneuvering room would shrink fast. Daily activities wouldn't be a matter of choosing priorities anymore; they'd just be a routine you're forced to follow, regardless of what you want.

silverwalker27 said:?

I think there was a slight misunderstanding.

I handle whatever an investor requires—it’s just a "serious business" sort of thing. I know things get hectic, but if the rush is constant, it usually points to something else—either a personal choice (some people just thrive on chaos and hate sitting still) or simply a lack of clear priorities.

We all only have 24 hours in a day; pretending otherwise is pointless. Plans have to be realistic within those constraints—otherwise, they aren't really plans at all.

Ugh, my bad 😁 I totally messed up—I mixed you up with the original author 🙂

I was talking about those moments where a rush is unavoidable, but me? Being in a constant state of frantic hurry isn't really my thing. Though, I will admit, I've got a bit of a high-strung temperament—kind of a "fast lane" person. Honestly, nothing bugs me more than people who move at a snail's pace. They just come off as clumsy or half-baked to me, though I can't quite put my finger on why.🤷

Morgan Bishop4 said:Or maybe I’m just moving in slow motion? Though, honestly, I don't think that's it...

I seriously don't get why some people lose their minds if everything isn't finished this exact second, or if a project doesn't start immediately, or if you don't knock out every single task today instead of leaving it for tomorrow. Like, chill out.

I can't stand it when people try to rush me through things that aren't even urgent enough to matter whether they're done today or next week! 😠 It’s not like I’m sprinting to catch a Greyhound bus; there’s always another one rolling into the station ten minutes later anyway, so what's the big deal?

I really prefer doing things at my own pace, and I just don't understand the obsession with getting everything done right this instant... (my mom is driving me absolutely insane lately).
It's like everyone thinks they have to pull an all-nighter like some Wall Street intern, instead of just finishing up by 3 PM like a normal human being.

Okay, but... what's actually going on here?
Am I just lazy? Am I like that grasshopper from the fable who kept putting everything off until tomorrow, only to freeze to death once winter hit?
Or is it that the people constantly rushing around have some kind of disorder, or they're just incredibly impatient, or whatever...🤷

Is it just that people have this weird psychological need to turn every little thing into a high-stress crisis, or am I actually just being lazy? :/

Speaking from experience—yeah. 😍 I am pathologically impatient and high-strung. It gets pretty extreme, too. Like, if I'm on a call and my phone dies, my hands actually start shaking from pure frustration until I can get back online! 🙄 🤷

I consider myself one of those high-octane, fast-paced types. My inner circle actually calls me "The Human Hurricane." I simply don't have an ounce of patience; once I get an idea, I’m fully committed instantly. That’s just how I navigate my life and my career.

Slow people drive me absolutely insane. Honestly, I can't wrap my head around how they function. If I operated at their speed, I’d never get anything accomplished in this lifetime. I’d practically need two executive assistants just to keep up with my own schedule.

My approach is simple: if it needs doing, I do it right then. No procrastination, no "I'll get to it later." Either I tackle it immediately, or I risk forgetting it entirely, missing a deadline, or—even worse—carrying the mental weight of it around, which just adds unnecessary stress.

Unfortunately, only a tiny fraction of the people I work with share this mindset. It occasionally makes me wonder... am I perhaps a bit neurotic?😁

To me, putting off tasks or obligations is just a symptom of laziness. Now, look, we all have lazy moments, but I have a nagging suspicion that those who move at a snail's pace are just perpetually lazy.🤷

Yeah, true... I’m currently unemployed and living with my parents, so I’ve got way too much time on my hands right now...
But honestly, I don't know, whenever I actually *do* need to get something done, I just can't stand it when people try to push me or force me to do it this second. I hate starting things immediately. There's always going to be another five minutes of just chilling first...
Back when I was in college, if something wasn't an absolute emergency, there was plenty of time. Then, at the very last minute, if I had to pull an all-nighter—like, stay up all night and then through the next day and night—fine, no biggie... you always find a way to squeeze it all in eventually.
The thing is, people who are constantly rushing tend to rush even when they're supposed to be relaxing. For instance, how many people do you know who, when their vacation finally rolls around, have absolutely no clue what to do with themselves because they're so used to being in work mode?
Or like, when Thanksgiving or Christmas or whatever holiday is coming up, everyone starts scrambling to bake all the cookies and get everything ready as fast as possible just to get it over with.
Even though, honestly, nobody would complain if we only made three types of cookies instead of ten.
I feel like some people just pile work onto themselves that doesn't even need to be there...
Take cleaning the house, for example—that's a never-ending job, and obviously, you have to clean up so you aren't living in a pigsty. But some people will basically torture themselves by deciding they need to vacuum every single day, wash the windows and the curtains every week, and whatnot... and then they spend the whole time whining about how busy they are, when they're the ones who piled it on (I’m not talking about basic stuff like making lunch or doing the dishes, obviously).
And then, at the end of the day, even when people go on vacation, they're still rushing around. One year, I totally lost it because my cousin kept waking me up at 8 or 9 in the morning just so we could get to the beach as early as possible to "make the most of every second!" That's just not my vibe. Of course, if I'm going on a huge trip to see something once-in-a-lifetime (like, I don't know, flying out to see the Grand Canyon or something), then yeah, I want to make the most of the time... but if we're just spending a week or two at the coast... why the hell are we rushing? Every day you can just swim, swim, and swim again.
And I think it’s better for your mental health if you just relax a little more and say—screw the windows, they look fine...
I'm not saying you should be a total couch potato your entire life and procrastinate on everything, but if certain things aren't even that important, why panic and stress yourself out trying to get them finished right away?

Morgan Bishop4 said:Yeah, true... I’m currently unemployed and living with my parents, so I’ve got way too much time on my hands right now...
But honestly, I don't know, whenever I actually *do* need to get something done, I just can't stand it when people try to push me or force me to do it this second. I hate starting things immediately. There's always going to be another five minutes of just chilling first...
Back when I was in college, if something wasn't an absolute emergency, there was plenty of time. Then, at the very last minute, if I had to pull an all-nighter—like, stay up all night and then through the next day and night—fine, no biggie... you always find a way to squeeze it all in eventually.
The thing is, people who are constantly rushing tend to rush even when they're supposed to be relaxing. For instance, how many people do you know who, when their vacation finally rolls around, have absolutely no clue what to do with themselves because they're so used to being in work mode?
Or like, when Thanksgiving or Christmas or whatever holiday is coming up, everyone starts scrambling to bake all the cookies and get everything ready as fast as possible just to get it over with.
Even though, honestly, nobody would complain if we only made three types of cookies instead of ten.
I feel like some people just pile work onto themselves that doesn't even need to be there...
Take cleaning the house, for example—that's a never-ending job, and obviously, you have to clean up so you aren't living in a pigsty. But some people will basically torture themselves by deciding they need to vacuum every single day, wash the windows and the curtains every week, and whatnot... and then they spend the whole time whining about how busy they are, when they're the ones who piled it on (I’m not talking about basic stuff like making lunch or doing the dishes, obviously).
And then, at the end of the day, even when people go on vacation, they're still rushing around. One year, I totally lost it because my cousin kept waking me up at 8 or 9 in the morning just so we could get to the beach as early as possible to "make the most of every second!" That's just not my vibe. Of course, if I'm going on a huge trip to see something once-in-a-lifetime (like, I don't know, flying out to see the Grand Canyon or something), then yeah, I want to make the most of the time... but if we're just spending a week or two at the coast... why the hell are we rushing? Every day you can just swim, swim, and swim again.
And I think it’s better for your mental health if you just relax a little more and say—screw the windows, they look fine...
I'm not saying you should be a total couch potato your entire life and procrastinate on everything, but if certain things aren't even that important, why panic and stress yourself out trying to get them finished right away?

True, I agree with you. So many people load themselves up with nonsense obligations just to act like they're incredibly busy. Especially those trivial household chores. For example, I told my mom to stop making such a huge production out of Christmas or Easter with ten different kinds of cookies. She was exhausting herself, and for what? The whole point is to hang out and be in good spirits, right?

And regarding vacations, I'm with you. My time off looks just as high-energy, but that's just my personality. I'm always wandering somewhere, but I let others lie around like cows all day if they want to. That would be a death sentence for me.

However, I disagree regarding work. I haven't ever received a task that I didn't start the exact second I got it, unless I already had something else in progress, in which case it would wait a moment. I mean, you're at work; the whole purpose is to work. Why would you be expected to relax there?😕 From what you've written, maybe your issue is that you're a procrastinator. That was always a source of stress for me—the guessing game. I'd rather just do everything and be at peace, rather than being at peace and then bleeding blood trying to meet a deadline. For you, it's the opposite. Your stress comes from the "right now, immediately" aspect.

And listen, if you're hitting your targets at work and meeting deadlines, then you're simply the type of person who performs better under pressure. There's nothing weird or wrong with that. It's just how you do your job. To avoid any misunderstandings at work, whenever you get a task, just ask your boss to be decisive about when the finished product is due. If they start hovering or rushing you in the meantime, just tell them you'll have it to them by the time you said it would be ready.😉

Jamie Newman5 said:The answer is pretty straightforward. It’s because my schedule tomorrow is already stacked, and the day after that is just as bad. If I push something off today, tomorrow becomes an absolute nightmare.

Blessed are those who actually manage to find free time these days. I have no clue how they pull it off—unless they aren't busy raising kids, I guess. If you don't have little ones constantly needing something, then sure, maybe it's possible.

I’m looking forward to my first real break in about twenty years once the kids finally grow up. Though, by then, relaxing will probably be impossible anyway. Old habits die hard.

Honestly, @amberscout6, I find it incredibly difficult to connect with anyone who can't keep up. 🤷

I’m one of those people who is always in a rush—though I won't try to sell you on the idea that it's because I have a million responsibilities... sorry, but someone actually living in a constant hell of obligations wouldn't have managed to rack up 2,826 posts on this forum.
The people who are always in a frantic rush? They’re usually the ones with the thinnest skin—honestly, they just can't handle a little breathing room.🙂

He’s always rushing people who are just waiting around. I wish he’d just chill out for a second... honestly, I know I could use the break myself

I honestly feel like people who rush through their day just to get to the "relaxing" part end up totally missing the point of actually relaxing in the first place... though maybe they do enjoy it, I don't even know anymore...
For me, the real kick comes from doing something I definitely shouldn't be doing because there's actual work piling up on my desk... because let's face it, once you finally wrap up a project, you always find some tiny little error or a random detail you need to tweak, so you end up spiraling anyway... and by the end of it, "resting" basically just turns into sprinting toward my bed so I can pass out as fast as possible.

Jamie Newman5 said:You can get a massive amount done in 24 hours, or you can decide to prioritize your own laziness. People hate admitting they're lazy, so they invent excuses about "shifting priorities" instead.

Do you have kids? Probably not, since they aren't a priority...☕

If you had two or three kids running around, your maneuvering room would shrink fast. Daily activities wouldn't be a matter of choosing priorities anymore; they'd just be a routine you're forced to follow, regardless of what you want.

Having kids is a personal choice. I honestly find it hilarious when parents whine about being too busy, as if they didn't choose this life themselves. 🙄Nobody forced anyone into anything.☕ Life turns out however you manage your own schedule. We're all rushing somewhere, but some people act like being perpetually busy makes them superior, constantly fishing for sympathy or validation from others. Or the ones bragging about working three jobs. You're doing that for yourself, not me. Some things I tackle right away, some I put off. Whatever. Either way, I don't sit around complaining about my responsibilities.

...I’m never really in a rush... but I always get things done right on schedule...
...When you're part of a team, you have to match the pace everyone else is setting... but at the end of the day, the bottom line is just making sure everything is finished on time and done well... regardless of what the job actually is. It feels like over the last 20 years, the tempo has just kept ramping up across basically every industry in the US. Working under constant stress has become the standard... which isn't great for people, but I guess it's great for capital. Just squeeze every bit of productivity out of us until there's nothing left...

Tyler Rogers4 said:I’m definitely one of those people who’s constantly on the move, just grinding through everything right now because I can’t stand leaving stuff for tomorrow. Honestly, I love being this way; it’s paid off big time for me, both in my career and just navigating my personal life. But man, passive people absolutely drive me up the wall—I make sure they don't even make the cut when I'm picking my inner circle, though obviously, I'm stuck with certain family members 🙂....
The only real hurdle was tracking down a partner who could actually keep pace with my chaos, or better yet, someone who could actually take the lead and stay a step ahead of me... but thank God, I finally found him. Around him, I actually get to be the one who's taken care of for once... 🙂🙂🙂

Look, I wouldn't say I'm rushing *all* the time, but I definitely can't sit still for long or just lounge around doing nothing...
I always need to be dreaming up something new. Like, if I sit down on the couch to watch some Netflix, my brain starts racing with a million other ideas and I just have to get up and
look something up online, research a project, hustle a bit, you know how it is...
I really can't stand passive people, and they aren't part of my friend group at all...
It drives me crazy when people complain non-stop but won't lift a finger to fix their own lives...
I hate it when people moan about being broke while they just sit on the couch waiting for a handout to fall from the sky...
I try to make something happen every single chance I get...
I'm not some money-obsessed materialist, but I honestly love the thrill of buying and flipping stuff, and I love networking with people
who share that same energy. I'll even go in for job interviews even when I don't strictly need a new gig...
Basically, I'm always in gear...
And I can't stand sitting around talking to other women about kids for hours (maybe it's because I don't have any, but let's be real, I just don't have the time for it)
I can't deal with empty, mindless small talk. I want to talk business, stocks, new trends...
At the end of the day, I just don't get people who do nothing, have no interests, and zero drive... I don't want anything to do with them. It feels totally unnatural to me to stay stationary...

amberscout6 said:Look, I wouldn't say I'm rushing *all* the time, but I definitely can't sit still for long or just lounge around doing nothing...
I always need to be dreaming up something new. Like, if I sit down on the couch to watch some Netflix, my brain starts racing with a million other ideas and I just have to get up and
look something up online, research a project, hustle a bit, you know how it is...
I really can't stand passive people, and they aren't part of my friend group at all...
It drives me crazy when people complain non-stop but won't lift a finger to fix their own lives...
I hate it when people moan about being broke while they just sit on the couch waiting for a handout to fall from the sky...
I try to make something happen every single chance I get...
I'm not some money-obsessed materialist, but I honestly love the thrill of buying and flipping stuff, and I love networking with people
who share that same energy. I'll even go in for job interviews even when I don't strictly need a new gig...
Basically, I'm always in gear...
And I can't stand sitting around talking to other women about kids for hours (maybe it's because I don't have any, but let's be real, I just don't have the time for it)
I can't deal with empty, mindless small talk. I want to talk business, stocks, new trends...
At the end of the day, I just don't get people who do nothing, have no interests, and zero drive... I don't want anything to do with them. It feels totally unnatural to me to stay stationary...

Look, being curious about things and being in a rush don't necessarily have to go hand in hand.
I'm interested in basically everything, and sometimes I can be in constant motion, grinding away without feeling the strain, but if I don't have anything productive on my plate, I can easily waste an entire day messing around with nonsense.
Someone can be totally uninterested in most things yet still be constantly rushing, just like someone else can be fascinated by everything but prefer to move through life at a much more laid-back pace.