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Michael Miller39 Michael Miller39 Member
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#21 ·
@Kyle Lee7
My mistake. Read it wrong. :-(

Nathan Kelly5 said:So that explains why most people around here land jobs through "referrals"—which is really just a polite way of saying "who you know." It might be slightly less common in the private sector than in government agencies, but it’s certainly more prevalent in domestic companies compared to major US corporations. That says quite a bit on its own.

America is only just beginning its transition from a capital-driven economy to a knowledge-based one—a shift the developed world completed roughly seventeen years ago. Most employers aren't intentionally sabotaging their own success; rather, they are doing so unconsciously. Because a vast majority lack the necessary educational foundation, they remain oblivious to the true value of human capital. They simply don't realize the damage they're causing.

Do you realize that the first major studies on how human factors drive corporate productivity were conducted in the U.S. between 1927 and 1932? It’s striking that while Americans were uncovering these insights nearly a century ago, we didn't even begin to consider them until after the fall of communism—and even then, only really within the last decade. It feels like we're still struggling to accept what they realized eighty years ago. There is still this prevailing mindset here that people naturally dislike working or avoiding responsibility, so why bother giving them autonomy or influence? Instead, the standard practice remains rooted in rigid hierarchies and micromanagement, attempting to force execution through strict control rather than engagement.

Please don't try to tell me otherwise. I’ve spent the last four years auditing domestic companies, and I can tell you that management incompetence here has reached an entirely new dimension. It's honestly tragic; most people who actually know what they're doing lack any real leverage because, in this country, the line between executive roles and ownership is far too blurred.

Here is a fresh example where anonymity is guaranteed, but let’s assume we are talking about one of those big-name corporations. Loans are maturing in foreign currency while leasing payments come in in USD, leading to millions in losses. You point out the discrepancy, but they aren't exactly eager to fix it. What else is there to say about the American economy? They won't risk their massive profits by simply correcting the books, and frankly, the human element seems pretty insignificant to them at that scale. I'll give credit where it's due—there are exceptions, of course, as there are still capable and driven employers in this country—but they represent a tiny fraction. In many ways, incompetence is just synonymous with how business is done here. And it isn't even strictly a mindset issue; looking at how much more efficient the Canadians are compared to us tells you everything you need to know. Look at how they handled the fallout when Walmart faced restructuring issues; it was obvious that any major player would try to dominate the market, which would naturally shake up the local food industry. Instead, we tend to hand over advantages that allow outsiders to dismantle us rather than trying to protect our own interests.

Everything I’ve laid out just highlights how nonsensical modern hiring practices have become. Take my old firm, for example: we had a guy who crushed every technical assessment we threw at him, yet they passed on him simply because he showed up to the interview in jeans. They viewed it as a lack of discipline. It’s absurd. About thirty years ago, a major study was conducted—one that most people here wouldn't be familiar with—analyzing the common traits of about 40 of the most successful long-term corporations. One key finding was that these companies actually tolerated eccentricity over rigid discipline. Yet today, companies hire based on sheer self-confidence, charisma, and "personality" rather than actual expertise. The root cause is pure arrogance. Managers are so convinced of their own abilities that they prioritize hiring people who are easy to manage and delegate to. It’s a total failure, and frankly, it feels like we're sliding thirty or forty years backward.

I won't even begin to explain how little they actually understand about employee motivation. The most basic rule when dealing with people on a manufacturing floor is simple: don't drown them in unproductive busywork, like endless administrative reports and such. Yet, 90% of employers do exactly that—mostly because they lack the insight, and frankly, they aren't even trying to find it. We could go on about this for days...

It’s hilarious to me. Even today, you see high-paid management types obsessing over whether someone clocked in at 9:00 sharp or if they "sneaked out" at 5:00 instead of staying until 6:00. They treat punctuality as a measure of work ethic—not talking about some cashier closing up early, but someone doing intellectual work that isn't tied to a client or specific hours. And this is happening at a massive private corporation. Unbelievable.

And they actually "track" it. Instead of evaluating the quality or completion of the actual task—or questioning what the supervisor is even doing if an employee leaves early—they just watch the clock. It’s pathetic. American management is a weak link.

Anyway, that's off-topic. Back to the point. I don't get why psychologists ask the exact same generic questions for every single profession. It’s always the same superficial nonsense. Then you end up stuck in some mindless job you could have done with half the credentials.
Nathan Kelly5 Nathan Kelly5 Active Member
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#22 ·
Michael Miller39 said:@Kyle Lee7
My mistake. Read it wrong. :-(

It’s hilarious to me. Even today, you see high-paid management types obsessing over whether someone clocked in at 9:00 sharp or if they "sneaked out" at 5:00 instead of staying until 6:00. They treat punctuality as a measure of work ethic—not talking about some cashier closing up early, but someone doing intellectual work that isn't tied to a client or specific hours. And this is happening at a massive private corporation. Unbelievable.

And they actually "track" it. Instead of evaluating the quality or completion of the actual task—or questioning what the supervisor is even doing if an employee leaves early—they just watch the clock. It’s pathetic. American management is a weak link.

Anyway, that's off-topic. Back to the point. I don't get why psychologists ask the exact same generic questions for every single profession. It’s always the same superficial nonsense. Then you end up stuck in some mindless job you could have done with half the credentials.

I didn't intend for my post to be taken as an indictment that they do nothing, earn huge checks, and know nothing (though there are certainly plenty of those types—you see directors paying themselves bonuses for summer vacations while the company struggles with debt, or accounting heads who couldn't manage a lemonade stand). Even the executive level has it tough; they carry heavy responsibilities, yet the board sets vague goals that don't serve the long-term interest of the firm. The leadership isn't respected enough, so the company drifts without a strategy beyond chasing short-term profit. When that happens, the executives stop caring; they just do enough to secure their bonuses, and they couldn't care less if the whole thing goes downhill as long as the money hits their accounts... but again, this is straying from the topic and won't help the author, so we should probably move on.
Michael Miller39 Michael Miller39 Member
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#23 ·
Nathan Kelly5 said:I didn't intend for my post to be taken as an indictment that they do nothing, earn huge checks, and know nothing (though there are certainly plenty of those types—you see directors paying themselves bonuses for summer vacations while the company struggles with debt, or accounting heads who couldn't manage a lemonade stand). Even the executive level has it tough; they carry heavy responsibilities, yet the board sets vague goals that don't serve the long-term interest of the firm. The leadership isn't respected enough, so the company drifts without a strategy beyond chasing short-term profit. When that happens, the executives stop caring; they just do enough to secure their bonuses, and they couldn't care less if the whole thing goes downhill as long as the money hits their accounts... but again, this is straying from the topic and won't help the author, so we should probably move on.

In my mind, they all fall under the "management" umbrella...
Which is precisely the point—we're constantly dealing with nonsensical decisions.

Anyway, back to the main topic.
ambermason16 ambermason16 Active Member
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#24 ·
Alright, you guys have veered off-topic on an epic scale... recruitment psychology? Really? Give me a break!
Kyle Lee7 Kyle Lee7 Active Member
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#25 ·
Look, you can complain all you want about how everything here is broken, unfair, or just plain terrible. And sure, there are issues—especially in the public sector, where breaking through as a genuine expert is often much harder than simply being "well-connected."
But at the end of the day, talented people find their way. They land great roles and climb the ladder because they actually have what it takes, and more importantly, they have the grit to chase what they want.

Think about it: an employer who genuinely needs someone capable—someone who can own their role, fit into the culture, and ultimately provide real value—isn't looking for someone to recite rehearsed clichés or put on a theatrical performance during an interview. I say this as someone who has been on both sides of the hiring table multiple times. I’ve seen colleagues and friends who are incredibly skilled secure amazing positions and skyrocket in their careers. They didn't get there by pulling strings or memorizing a list of five strengths and weaknesses; they got there because they are intelligent, educated, and driven professionals. They aren't just sitting around complaining about how unfair the world is or how incompetent bosses can be.

Yes, the world can be incredibly unfair sometimes. But that doesn't mean you're stuck, and it certainly doesn't mean you should pretend to be someone you're not just to get ahead.
Michael Miller39 Michael Miller39 Member
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#26 ·
Kyle Lee7 said:Look, you can complain all you want about how everything here is broken, unfair, or just plain terrible. And sure, there are issues—especially in the public sector, where breaking through as a genuine expert is often much harder than simply being "well-connected."
But at the end of the day, talented people find their way. They land great roles and climb the ladder because they actually have what it takes, and more importantly, they have the grit to chase what they want.

Think about it: an employer who genuinely needs someone capable—someone who can own their role, fit into the culture, and ultimately provide real value—isn't looking for someone to recite rehearsed clichés or put on a theatrical performance during an interview. I say this as someone who has been on both sides of the hiring table multiple times. I’ve seen colleagues and friends who are incredibly skilled secure amazing positions and skyrocket in their careers. They didn't get there by pulling strings or memorizing a list of five strengths and weaknesses; they got there because they are intelligent, educated, and driven professionals. They aren't just sitting around complaining about how unfair the world is or how incompetent bosses can be.

Yes, the world can be incredibly unfair sometimes. But that doesn't mean you're stuck, and it certainly doesn't mean you should pretend to be someone you're not just to get ahead.

I'm exactly the same way. 🙂 I’m definitely not one of those entitled hires. I’ve moved up through different companies and handled hiring myself. And those personality tests? I breeze through them every single time.

Still, my point stands: management here just takes a couple of seminars and suddenly thinks they're experts. Their actual skill set is nonexistent. It's baffling why these cliché psychological assessments even exist.

Every time, I get the same sixteen questions—one being the "strengths and weaknesses" thing. I've never struggled with them, mostly because I don't see the point. Since I'm not a psychologist, I assume it isn't really about the specific traits themselves. It's about self-perception—whether you're too full of yourself, too self-critical, or possess some delusional level of confidence. Unless, of course, you give an absurd answer like, "I lose my temper and slam my fist on the desk every time..."
Carl Cox3 Carl Cox3 Active Member
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#27 ·
It would be wonderful if a psychologist specializing in this field could offer some guidance on how to present oneself and behave during a psychological assessment for a job interview.

I have been advised to dress casually, smile, and provide concise answers—simply "yes" or "no"—without offering explanations unless specifically prompted.

Where should I look? Is it a disadvantage to pause and look away while thinking? What is the ideal posture? Where should my hands be placed? Should I cross my legs or not?

Forum members are welcome to share their own experiences with psychologists, provided they pertain strictly to employment interviews rather than general consultations.
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Nicole Alvarez81 Nicole Alvarez81 Newcomer
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#28 ·
I mean, I honestly think it's just better to be 100% yourself without trying too hard to put on an act or anything.
feralranger feralranger Regular
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#29 ·
Carl Cox3 said:It would be wonderful if a psychologist specializing in this field could offer some guidance on how to present oneself and behave during a psychological assessment for a job interview.

I have been advised to dress casually, smile, and provide concise answers—simply "yes" or "no"—without offering explanations unless specifically prompted.

Where should I look? Is it a disadvantage to pause and look away while thinking? What is the ideal posture? Where should my hands be placed? Should I cross my legs or not?

Forum members are welcome to share their own experiences with psychologists, provided they pertain strictly to employment interviews rather than general consultations.
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In truth, what you are asking is how to choreograph your responses and gestures—essentially, how to deceive a psychologist... hmm...

That is quite similar, for example, to when Biden works with his advisors to figure out how to mask his arrogance, becoming significantly more polished at it than he was during the elections four years prior... Though, naturally, he remains incredibly arrogant; he has simply learned how to manage his media presence to conceal it, all for the purpose of (clearly successful) voter deception...

What you are inquiring about is fundamentally the same thing, except you are attempting to mislead a psychologist (by learning the specific answers and gestures they wish to hear or see...).

In reality, we live in a world of deception, a world built upon the construction of impressions... in such a pathologically false world, it is hardly surprising that people wonder how to mislead voters, recruiters, or even a boyfriend or girlfriend on a first date...
Carl Cox3 Carl Cox3 Active Member
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#30 ·
Nicole Alvarez81 said:I mean, I honestly think it's just better to be 100% yourself without trying too hard to put on an act or anything.

I wouldn't quite agree.😁
feralranger said:In truth, what you are asking is how to choreograph your responses and gestures—essentially, how to deceive a psychologist... hmm...

That is quite similar, for example, to when Biden works with his advisors to figure out how to mask his arrogance, becoming significantly more polished at it than he was during the elections four years prior... Though, naturally, he remains incredibly arrogant; he has simply learned how to manage his media presence to conceal it, all for the purpose of (clearly successful) voter deception...

What you are inquiring about is fundamentally the same thing, except you are attempting to mislead a psychologist (by learning the specific answers and gestures they wish to hear or see...).

In reality, we live in a world of deception, a world built upon the construction of impressions... in such a pathologically false world, it is hardly surprising that people wonder how to mislead voters, recruiters, or even a boyfriend or girlfriend on a first date...

Actually, yes. It isn't that I am some lunatic who would never be hired, but wouldn't it be helpful to know certain cues that signal "I am the best candidate for this job!"? Surely there are tricks that appeal to psychologists when they decide whom to hire.
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Maria Reyes4 Maria Reyes4 Member
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#31 ·
Carl Cox3 said:I wouldn't quite agree.😁

Actually, yes. It isn't that I am some lunatic who would never be hired, but wouldn't it be helpful to know certain cues that signal "I am the best candidate for this job!"? Surely there are tricks that appeal to psychologists when they decide whom to hire.
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Every role demands a specific persona—sometimes you need fire, sometimes you need calm.

There’s no such thing as a "perfect" candidate for everything. You can be an absolute superstar in one field and a total disaster in another.

The qualities most employers claim to want are so incredibly basic it's almost insulting to even list them—just be punctual, polite, organized... that's about it.
Carl Cox3 Carl Cox3 Active Member
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#32 ·
But really, isn't it worth knowing even the smallest details? Matters like tone of voice, body language, and how one should dress—those are the things that truly interest me.
feralranger feralranger Regular
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#33 ·
Maria Reyes4 said:Every role demands a specific persona—sometimes you need fire, sometimes you need calm.

There’s no such thing as a "perfect" candidate for everything. You can be an absolute superstar in one field and a total disaster in another.

The qualities most employers claim to want are so incredibly basic it's almost insulting to even list them—just be punctual, polite, organized... that's about it.

Well, I wouldn't call it quite so 'obvious'...

One has to navigate the subtle complexities of where to place one's hands, what to do with their fingers, how to carry oneself, how to position their legs, where to direct their gaze... deciding whether to glance somewhere first before offering an answer... choosing whether to respond impulsively or to take a deliberate pause to formulate a more coherent reply when the question isn't a simple yes or no... and so on, and so forth.
driftingmaker driftingmaker Member
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#34 ·
Check out this link. Though, the more you overthink things, the less spontaneous you become—it's pretty easy to spot. 😉

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AyhlUCxtNKY
Carl Cox3 Carl Cox3 Active Member
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#35 ·
driftingmaker said:Check out this link. Though, the more you overthink things, the less spontaneous you become—it's pretty easy to spot. 😉

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AyhlUCxtNKY

I watched it. She didn't say anything useful besides the idea of filming ourselves to review.
Wouldn't it be better if a psychologist provided actual, concrete advice on how to make a good impression? 🙂
feralranger feralranger Regular
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#36 ·
Carl Cox3 said:I watched it. She didn't say anything useful besides the idea of filming ourselves to review.
Wouldn't it be better if a psychologist provided actual, concrete advice on how to make a good impression? 🙂

In a situation like this, a psychologist is essentially working on behalf of the employer...

If your boss happened to have a mindset similar to Clinton or perhaps Cuomo (both of whom were known for leading hardline factions), they wouldn't be looking for talent; they’d be looking for someone to follow orders without question.

On the other hand, a different employer might actually be searching for someone with true character, and in that case, the psychologist would evaluate you accordingly...

So, one can't really frame this as a universal truth; it all depends heavily on the nature of the job and the specific temperament of the person in charge.
Carl Cox3 Carl Cox3 Active Member
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#37 ·
I request that this thread be restored to its original state. An employer and a psychologist have nothing to do with one another during a job interview. They are two entirely separate matters. Thank you!
Eric Gray2 Eric Gray2 Regular
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#38 ·
Carl Cox3 said:I request that this thread be restored to its original state. An employer and a psychologist have nothing to do with one another during a job interview. They are two entirely separate matters. Thank you!

Actually, they kind of are. A psychologist brought into a job interview is essentially working for the employer—which means, at the end of the day, they're there to protect the company's interests.
Carl Cox3 Carl Cox3 Active Member
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#39 ·
No, that's not how it works. In major American corporations, you first meet with a psychologist. Only if they determine you possess the necessary traits—which an employer isn't qualified to judge themselves—do you move on to the final interview with the hiring manager. You essentially face two separate evaluations. The psychologist focuses on your background and behavioral history, while the employer assesses entirely different criteria.

And this headline is even more nonsensical than the last one. How is anyone supposed to understand what the topic is about?😕
Maria Reyes4 Maria Reyes4 Member
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#40 ·
Carl Cox3 said:No, that's not how it works. In major American corporations, you first meet with a psychologist. Only if they determine you possess the necessary traits—which an employer isn't qualified to judge themselves—do you move on to the final interview with the hiring manager. You essentially face two separate evaluations. The psychologist focuses on your background and behavioral history, while the employer assesses entirely different criteria.

And this headline is even more nonsensical than the last one. How is anyone supposed to understand what the topic is about?😕

Are you actually suggesting the employer hand-picks the psychologist?

And that this psychologist operates strictly on the employer's whims—rather than some lofty ideal of global peace?

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