Office meltdown

Ryan Wood98 said:Do yourself and your colleagues a massive favor: look for a different job.

Immediately.

It seems you aren't suited for working with others, especially not for a leadership position. Perhaps you should seek out a role where you can work independently, without the need for teamwork.

I am being serious here; I am not joking.

therapy for managing/getting rid of anger
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hiddenstag said:To be honest, I’m at a loss for how to handle my own rage. I’ve always been one of those people who, once I set my mind to something, I see it through to the end. If things don't go according to plan, my first instinct is usually to go off on someone. I’ve actually climbed quite high in my career, and I hold a pretty senior management position now. But what really gets under my skin—what I struggle with most—is seeing people half-ass their jobs or just totally slack off. It throws me completely out of whack, and I feel like I lose all control. There are moments where I just want to smash everything in sight, and it takes me a long time to finally settle down.
I just don't know how to find some calm.

The truth is, you don't know how to handle yourself. At some point, you’re going to get fired, and honestly, it’s coming. Nobody is going to put up with your outbursts, and they certainly won't tolerate your attitude. You should probably walk away from that job before you completely blow it. Managers need to actually know their stuff—they need to understand the production tech or the core business, and more importantly, they need to know how to lead people. You have to be able to make the best of any situation. This primitive behavior of yours, this breaking of things? It’s only going to come back to haunt you. Once the executives or the owners see that productivity is tanking because of your incompetence and your temper, it's over. If people are being disrespectful, they’ll keep pushing until someone stops them, and mark my words, this is the beginning of the end for you at that company. You’d be better off leaving with your head held high while you still can...👎☕

wiredfalcon21 said:You’re just your typical aggressive, capitalist mobber who didn't actually climb the ladder through talent, but through elbowing people aside, playing politics, and using connections—exactly how people get ahead in this country.👎

Spot on observation and description...😉👍

Michael Diaz4 said:Spot on observation and description...😉👍

That is an excellent username, 😉👍

He was actually my childhood idol 🤣

hiddenstag said:To be honest, I’m at a loss for how to handle my own rage. I’ve always been one of those people who, once I set my mind to something, I see it through to the end. If things don't go according to plan, my first instinct is usually to go off on someone. I’ve actually climbed quite high in my career, and I hold a pretty senior management position now. But what really gets under my skin—what I struggle with most—is seeing people half-ass their jobs or just totally slack off. It throws me completely out of whack, and I feel like I lose all control. There are moments where I just want to smash everything in sight, and it takes me a long time to finally settle down.
I just don't know how to find some calm.

Well, let’s say you accidentally take someone out, but then your buddy comes back and hits you three times harder, which ends up putting both you and your fancy "management role" in check... and there you were, thinking you could just yell at everyone... how many people did you actually go off on like that?...
...what are you, some high-ranking Colonel in the old military or something? Who do you think you're commanding?
you seem to have a massive ego, and honestly, most of the time it feels like it's totally unearned.
I’ve definitely held much higher authority positions than you throughout my entire career, but I’ve never once raised my voice at my coworkers. I never had issues with them, and the job always got done... whether it was easy or hard... doesn't really matter...
...look, there are days when you just can't do it, you're just not feeling it, and everything feels like a total drag... so what do you expect, for people to burn themselves out just because you're the boss and you've got this huge ego?
...you are basically the perfect little cog in the "corporate madness" machine, grinding away without even realizing you're being crushed by it...
...people who take their anger out on "subordinates"—even if those people actually messed up at work—are nothing more than massive cowards. Honestly, I doubt you'll stay in that management spot for very long... nobody is obligated to deal with your stress and your temper, and that feedback is going to come crashing back at you real fast... and they'll be well within their rights to do it...
...maybe try calming down by actually getting in the trenches and doing the same grunt work those people are doing... maybe you'll finally see the world from their perspective for once...

hiddenstag said:To be honest, I’m at a loss for how to handle my own rage. I’ve always been one of those people who, once I set my mind to something, I see it through to the end. If things don't go according to plan, my first instinct is usually to go off on someone. I’ve actually climbed quite high in my career, and I hold a pretty senior management position now. But what really gets under my skin—what I struggle with most—is seeing people half-ass their jobs or just totally slack off. It throws me completely out of whack, and I feel like I lose all control. There are moments where I just want to smash everything in sight, and it takes me a long time to finally settle down.
I just don't know how to find some calm.

First off, if you want anything from people, you have to give something back. Nobody actually respects an authority figure who leads through rage. I used to work with a guy who was exactly like that—just constant yelling and threats. Sure, people were afraid of him, but they hated his guts and had zero respect for him.
On the other hand, I approach management as a quiet authority. I advocate for my team and shield them from outside pressure. Internally, if I need to address an issue, I do it directly without the screaming matches.
My team likes me, values my input, and respects my decisions; because of that, I always get the results I need from them. Give it a shot—you'll find you achieve much more through steady leadership than through sheer fury.

hiddenstag said:To be honest, I’m at a loss for how to handle my own rage. I’ve always been one of those people who, once I set my mind to something, I see it through to the end. If things don't go according to plan, my first instinct is usually to go off on someone. I’ve actually climbed quite high in my career, and I hold a pretty senior management position now. But what really gets under my skin—what I struggle with most—is seeing people half-ass their jobs or just totally slack off. It throws me completely out of whack, and I feel like I lose all control. There are moments where I just want to smash everything in sight, and it takes me a long time to finally settle down.
I just don't know how to find some calm.

Find yourself a woman, go hook up somewhere. Grab a beer. Go hiking. Pick up a book—but skip those modern "how to be a better manager" types of nonsense. Read something classic instead, maybe some Bukowski.

Then you might realize there's more to life than just your job.

As Americans would say:

All work and no play, makes Jack a dull boy

It happened to you too, kid.

hiddenstag said:To be honest, I’m at a loss for how to handle my own rage. I’ve always been one of those people who, once I set my mind to something, I see it through to the end. If things don't go according to plan, my first instinct is usually to go off on someone. I’ve actually climbed quite high in my career, and I hold a pretty senior management position now. But what really gets under my skin—what I struggle with most—is seeing people half-ass their jobs or just totally slack off. It throws me completely out of whack, and I feel like I lose all control. There are moments where I just want to smash everything in sight, and it takes me a long time to finally settle down.
I just don't know how to find some calm.

Why not just call a meeting and tell them straight—nicely, of course—that if they aren't feeling this job, they should probably find something else? You've got to let them know you'll be watching closely and won't hesitate to let someone go if they aren't pulling their weight. You also need to give out some praise every now and then—try keeping your voice steady and using "please" once in a while to boost motivation instead of barking orders like they're slaves. A little kindness actually works! If you start yelling, people stop listening and just end up hating you, which honestly just gives them more fuel to annoy you. Wouldn't staying calm work better? And hey, you know how it is—when you try to hide something, people just get more curious. Use that to your advantage. It's the simplest way to handle it. Good luck!

hiddenstag said:To be honest, I’m at a loss for how to handle my own rage. I’ve always been one of those people who, once I set my mind to something, I see it through to the end. If things don't go according to plan, my first instinct is usually to go off on someone. I’ve actually climbed quite high in my career, and I hold a pretty senior management position now. But what really gets under my skin—what I struggle with most—is seeing people half-ass their jobs or just totally slack off. It throws me completely out of whack, and I feel like I lose all control. There are moments where I just want to smash everything in sight, and it takes me a long time to finally settle down.
I just don't know how to find some calm.

Go see a shrink. You people are insane; are you on cocaine or something?