Dealing with a "crazy" girlfriend

I've been trying to figure out what's wrong with me for the last two years, but lately, it’s gone from bad to absolute nightmare. I feel like I'm losing my mind. For instance, if I need help finding something, I’ll beg my sister, but she just acts like she's oblivious, staring at the TV like I don't even exist.😢I am seriously losing it. I can't find anything, I'm begging her for help, and all she does is shrug and say "I don't know" before going back to her show. Then, after I've turned the entire apartment upside down, exhausted, and still haven't found the damn thing, I look over and see her sitting there all calm and unbothered while I'm on the verge of a breakdown. I end up screaming—and I mean *really* screaming, loud enough that the neighbors probably hear me. It pisses me off so much that I lose control; I'll charge at her, crying and screaming, wanting to lash out. And then she just sits there, stone-faced, telling me to calm down because we're "just being dramatic."😠Like, when I'm yelling... I lose it. My head starts pounding, I feel like I can't breathe, and I just black out for a second. Nobody cares, though. Everyone just calls me "the crazy one." Maybe I am, but I just want someone to actually help me. I want someone to sit down and talk to me for once instead of everyone running away from me like I'm some kind of freak. I calm down quickly and feel stupid for what I did, but it happens almost every single day. I get completely worked up and end up totally drained. It even happens first thing in the morning; sometimes I wake up already screaming because my family is fighting right next to me. That's my daily alarm clock, and it ruins my mood instantly.😠😢...basically, my family is a complete disaster. My parents aren't divorced, but they live in this constant state of war over money, and I'm stuck in the middle of their hell. It's nothing but shouting and insults. They always claim it doesn't affect me as much as it affects my sister, which is true, but I think I've completely snapped because of it. Not a single day goes by without a fight. There is zero peace in this house; as soon as things quiet down, another argument breaks out an hour later, even during dinner. We've even had the police show up a few times. :klap: Honestly, I don't even care about my parents' fighting—it's not like I'm suffering because of them specifically—but maybe it is affecting me more than I realize.🤷
I get along fine with my mom; I tell her everything and I love her, but it drives me insane how little she helps me when I'm spiraling. It just makes me angrier, and this cycle repeats every single day until I'm absolutely exhausted. I don't know how else to describe it, but it's brutal. Everything irritates me. Even people who are selfish or only care about themselves send my blood pressure through the roof. I'm thinking about seeing a child psychologist, so if anyone knows a good one, let me know. What do you guys think? Oh, and I'm 16.

Look, you're only 16. I try to act somewhat halfway decent compared to you, but I'm already 24.🤣🤣🤣

I am truly wondering 🤔 if this might be my pet?

Heh, don't sweat it, it isn't 🙄🙂

😘 Even a pet can be a twin 😁

When I was about 14, I lived with my grandmother and my uncle. They were a duo just like the ones you’re dealing with right now.
The difference is, I didn't have siblings to contend with.
My grandma knew exactly how to push my buttons. She used to drive me into such hysterical screaming fits—once, I actually screamed for so long that my throat was raw the next day. It felt like I had a genuine case of laryngitis.
But honestly? It doesn't matter anymore. I don't react to her at all now. If I do, it's usually just a quick "SHUT UP!"😠 Since I know that won't get an actual rise out of her, ☕ I just redirect my thoughts elsewhere and slip back into that defensive mode of total indifference. It's the same thing your sister is doing to you.

If you want my honest opinion, the only real fix is to change your environment. You need to move out.
It's truly the only way!!! 🙏

I can't stand hysterical, high-strung, anxious people. I hate being around them. I run from that kind of energy like the plague.

First off:
Samuel Grant54 and Brenda Cooper3: 😘

On another note:
@Samuel Grant54; I suppose you might want to consider picking up some self-help books. I know a lot of people think they’re a bit cliché, but I guess they’ve actually helped me quite a bit when I was dealing with similar issues.

A good place to start might be: http://knjizara.ekupnja.com/7-navika...-pr-16887.html

I doubt a single book will make much of a difference. I’ve seen firsthand what agitated people are capable of doing to anyone within their reach.
Irritability seems to be the most contagious emotion we have.
If your goal is to cheer someone up, there are plenty of ways to do it—but you actually have to put some thought into what specifically resonates with them.
On the other hand, if you're looking to spread panic, you don't even need to think. Just start spiraling, and everyone else around you will be just as frazzled in no time. 🙏

Thanks, swifthawk23 😘

Brenda Cooper3 said:I doubt a single book will make much of a difference. I’ve seen firsthand what agitated people are capable of doing to anyone within their reach.
Irritability seems to be the most contagious emotion we have.
If your goal is to cheer someone up, there are plenty of ways to do it—but you actually have to put some thought into what specifically resonates with them.
On the other hand, if you're looking to spread panic, you don't even need to think. Just start spiraling, and everyone else around you will be just as frazzled in no time. 🙏

Thanks, swifthawk23 😘

Once more. 😘 😁

To Samuel Grant54:
Maybe give that book a shot. It really does seem to help. 👍 I suppose you should just ignore whatever Brenda Cooper3 is saying. 😛

Quincy:

A single book isn't going to fix anything. I know exactly what kind of damage a group of agitated people can do to anyone standing in their way. Anxiety is spreading faster than any other emotion out there. It’s infectious. If you want to cheer someone up, there’s plenty of ways to do it, but you actually have to use your head and figure out what works for them. If you want to spread panic, you don't even need a brain. Just start freaking out and everyone around you will be losing their minds in no time. Thanks, junkie.

You're absolutely right. Whenever my friend starts losing her cool and raising her voice, I lose it too. Before you know it, we're both screaming at each other and just spiraling into a massive argument.🙄 Sometimes I really try to keep it together. Just once, when I was at my absolute breaking point, I actually attempted to be calm. I sat on the edge of the bed, closed my eyes, and tried those deep breathing exercises everyone talks about. It didn't work. Honestly, I felt like my head was going to explode if I didn't just let all that rage out right then and there. 😠 I just need to get this off my chest or I'm going to lose it. There is no other way for me to calm down.🙄 Look, like I already said, once I cool off, everything's going to be fine. Sometimes I even end up feeling bad about how I handled things. 🙄 Look, when I'm pissed off, I don't give a damn about anyone or anything. Period. 😁

Quincy:

First thing's first: Samuel Grant54 and Brenda Cooper3: Second thing: @Samuel Grant54; start reading some self-help books. I know people claim they're corny, but they actually helped me through similar crap. Where should I start? I can't believe people still fall for this garbage. This book is nothing but a collection of useless clichés that won't actually change your life. Stop wasting your money on these "self-help" scams.

Thanks for the tip. Honestly, I don't see how a book is going to do much for me right now. It’s always the same recycled advice anyway. 😁 I’ve got this feeling that I already know everything I need to know. I don't need anyone's stupid advice. 😛 Maybe there’s some hope left in this, or maybe I'll actually get some help. You never know. Either way, thanks again for the advice! 😉

Do you think genetics play a role in that kind of irritability?😠 😉

Thanks for the advice, everyone.

Honestly, just find yourself some guy who can really knock your socks off—someone who’ll totally wreck you—and you might actually start feeling better. It sounds crazy, I know, but it works for me. Give it a shot; you’ve got nothing to lose.

Ouch, I went through something very similar myself

In the end, it just resolved on its own after a few months. It was likely just a hormonal imbalance. Have you tried deep breathing exercises to help you relax?

swifthawk23 said:Honestly, just find yourself some guy who can really knock your socks off—someone who’ll totally wreck you—and you might actually start feeling better. It sounds crazy, I know, but it works for me. Give it a shot; you’ve got nothing to lose.

Seriously? You're really out here telling this younger girl to just find some dude to totally wreck her...😲
I mean, look, if you're old enough to know better, responsible, actually in love, and at least 21—or even 18, I guess—then maybe it's fine...🙂

And obviously, their fighting is going to mess with your head too... I mean, if they're waking you up in the middle of the night... nobody wants to deal with that kind of wake-up call... and regardless of whether you're worried about them loving or hating each other, it still takes a toll on you...

It probably wouldn't hurt to talk to a professional or something...

Maybe I can offer some perspective from my own experience dealing with manic episodes and psychotic breaks. I know exactly what it feels like when you’re right on the edge and your nerves just snap. First things first: nothing—absolutely nothing—is worth sacrificing your health over. I was diagnosed with psoriatic arthritis at eighteen because of those exact kinds of emotional outbursts, and while I’ve managed to get through it, it’s a chronic condition triggered by stress that stays with you. You’re only sixteen. You have plenty of time to build who you want to be and create a life you actually enjoy. Don't let your parents, siblings, or friends get under your skin; most of that stuff will sort itself out eventually, and honestly, there isn't much you can do to control it anyway. Just breathe, find a hobby, and try to detach yourself from the chaos by focusing on something that actually makes you happy.
Unfortunately, I didn't have anyone to give me this advice back then. Now, I feel terrible. I feel like I've wasted so much of my life, and the constant stress is completely draining me. I can't even handle people giving me feedback without having a total breakdown, which causes me to push everyone away. I'm lucky to have true friends who can still put up with me and a family that stands by my side, because if I can't even understand myself, how is anyone else supposed to? I'm telling you this because I just want to help you find some peace and stability. I wouldn't wish what I'm going through on anyone.

Quincy:

Seriously? You're telling this young girl to just find some guy to go wild with? Look, if you're an adult, responsible, actually love the person, and you're over 21—or at least 18—then sure, go for it.

I agree.😛 😉

Quincy:

As someone living with a diagnosis of manic episodes and psychotic breaks, let me try to explain how to help yourself. I know exactly how it feels when your nerves just snap! First off, nothing is worth sacrificing your health over. I developed psoriatic arthritis at 18 specifically because of those stress outbursts, and even though I've mostly recovered, it's a chronic issue triggered by stress. You're only 16. You have plenty of time to build yourself up and create a good life. Don't let your parents, siblings, or friends get under your skin. Those things will resolve themselves eventually, and you can't control them anyway. Just calm down, find a hobby, and distance yourself from the chaos by doing something you actually enjoy. Unfortunately, I didn't have anyone giving me advice like this back then. Now I feel terrible. I've wasted my life, my nerves are shot, and I can't handle anyone telling me anything without having a total meltdown. I push everyone away—thank God I have real friends who still put up with me and a family that sticks by me—because I don't even understand myself, let alone anyone else! Seriously, I'm just sharing my experience because I want to help you get your act together and stay calm. I wouldn't wish what I'm going through on anyone...

Man, I am so sorry you're going through that, 😢. Thanks for the advice...

I totally blanked on the fact that you’re only 16—my bad. Honestly, my best advice? Put this whole thing on ice and revisit it in two years. In the meantime, go find a hobby, join a crew where you actually feel like you belong, and get out of the house as much as humanly possible. Good luck.

Maybe you're just possessed or something...🙂

Morgan Bishop4 said:Maybe you're just possessed or something...🙂

You think she’s obsessed... you know, with that constant head-turning thing? 😁

Samuel Grant54, don't get worked up. It’s just hormones. I’m twice your age and I still go on tear sessions where I smash things. Honestly, if I don't have my sister around to vent to, all hell breaks loose. I can't even begin to count how many phones, dishes, watches, handbags, or whatever else has been hurled at a wall, thrown out a window, or launched from a moving car.

The only thing I won't touch is the TV. In my house, that thing is practically sacred. 😁

If you’re still foaming at the mouth after an omelet like that, you’ve got bigger problems than just a bad breakfast.

Look, while you’re actually in a decent mood for once, do me a favor and go show some real love and appreciation to your sister. Seriously. If I were in her shoes, I’d have already laid you out. The woman has more class in her pinky finger than most people have in their entire lives. 🙏 🙏 🙏

ambermason16 said:You think she’s obsessed... you know, with that constant head-turning thing? 😁

Samuel Grant54, don't get worked up. It’s just hormones. I’m twice your age and I still go on tear sessions where I smash things. Honestly, if I don't have my sister around to vent to, all hell breaks loose. I can't even begin to count how many phones, dishes, watches, handbags, or whatever else has been hurled at a wall, thrown out a window, or launched from a moving car.

The only thing I won't touch is the TV. In my house, that thing is practically sacred. 😁

If you’re still foaming at the mouth after an omelet like that, you’ve got bigger problems than just a bad breakfast.

Look, while you’re actually in a decent mood for once, do me a favor and go show some real love and appreciation to your sister. Seriously. If I were in her shoes, I’d have already laid you out. The woman has more class in her pinky finger than most people have in their entire lives. 🙏 🙏 🙏

Or maybe she is obsessed, but more in that "grumpy old lady giving you the death stare because you didn't pick up her favorite apples, so now she's taking it out on your Voodoo doll" kind of way...

Don't sweat it, I used to be exactly the same way myself.😁