To buy or not to buy?

says it's just too late to turn things around, like they don't even have the energy left to try anymore. but i don't know, i feel like things are finally starting to shift. should i keep pushing for JUST one more shot, or just let it all go? (honestly, i have this gut feeling that everything might actually start working out right now... )

Give me more details on what happened. 😉 Who stands where on this, and what’s their reasoning?

He thinks... I don't know, that he’s just done. There was this one issue that kept popping up, and now that things have finally settled down, he’s telling me it’s too little, too late. He says there’s less love there—not that it’s gone entirely, mind you—but that he just can’t do this anymore. He feels like I blew every single chance I had... I guess he’s just been hurt so many times that he doesn't want to take the risk again.

So, what now? Part of me feels like it shouldn't be over, but then again...😢

Kevin Smith13 said:He thinks... I don't know, that he’s just done. There was this one issue that kept popping up, and now that things have finally settled down, he’s telling me it’s too little, too late. He says there’s less love there—not that it’s gone entirely, mind you—but that he just can’t do this anymore. He feels like I blew every single chance I had... I guess he’s just been hurt so many times that he doesn't want to take the risk again.

So, what now? Part of me feels like it shouldn't be over, but then again...😢

To be honest, I am in the exact same position, except I’m the one speaking from his perspective. Look, I don't know your specific history, but believe me: being hurt repeatedly takes its toll. This isn't about a lack of love; if anything, the feeling is still there. It’s about fear. It’s the dread of repeating the same cycle. You have the choice to stay consistent, and he will likely respect that. You can demonstrate through small, steady actions that things have actually changed. Ultimately, though, it depends on whether he is willing to let those actions reach him.
The reality is, he probably can't tell if this change is permanent or just a temporary phase.
When someone breaks your trust over and over in the same ways, it becomes difficult to try again—not even for them, but for your own sake.

slyjackal36 said:To be honest, I am in the exact same position, except I’m the one speaking from his perspective. Look, I don't know your specific history, but believe me: being hurt repeatedly takes its toll. This isn't about a lack of love; if anything, the feeling is still there. It’s about fear. It’s the dread of repeating the same cycle. You have the choice to stay consistent, and he will likely respect that. You can demonstrate through small, steady actions that things have actually changed. Ultimately, though, it depends on whether he is willing to let those actions reach him.
The reality is, he probably can't tell if this change is permanent or just a temporary phase.
When someone breaks your trust over and over in the same ways, it becomes difficult to try again—not even for them, but for your own sake.

sent you a DM... some of this is probably better kept off the public boards..

Ugh, I'm so done with the US, everything here feels incredibly bleak lately. Zero optimism to be found... you catch a tiny glimpse of something positive and then you'd better look away fast before it disappears—that's the vibe I'm getting from this PDF, anyway. But hey, back to your situation. If that's how you're feeling, don't try to force anything... just let it go. Take a breather. When you're completely burnt out, everything loses its flavor, you know? It all turns bland. Just wait... if things start looking up later, they actually will. 😉