People who stand out from the crowd

casualharbor9 said:... and then there’s the blonde... those blondes with the piercing eyes and sharp facial features, they're the ones who really stand out from the crowd...

I don't really register blondes at all. They are completely outside my field of interest, period.

If I had to say anyone stands out to me, it’s people with a relaxed style—those with wide smiles and a certain perspective on life; the liberals who remain critical thinkers, the natural-born leaders.
That’s the type of person who catches my eye. I respect them, and I wish they leaned more into their strengths, especially since they often excel in multiple areas.

On the flip side, it absolutely irritates me when some mediocre fool gets center stage and everyone flocks to them like they're a free dessert, when in reality, they're just a low-class amateur with nothing intelligent to offer.

I’ve been reading through the comments, and it seems like everyone defines being "special" by how much someone stands out from the crowd based on looks (like having blue eyes or a certain hair color) or specific personality traits (being the loud one, the funny one, or the quiet one). But when I talk about uniqueness, I’m talking about what a person radiates. It's that deep, powerful, positive impression you get—the kind of presence that makes you feel like you can't look away. That’s the level of uniqueness I think the author was actually getting at. And honestly? Those people really do exist.
Personally, I know a few of them.
Take this one girl I know. She’s incredibly soft-spoken, but when she was hanging out in a group with five other equally quiet people, she just stood out. It wasn't because she talked more than the others; it was just this energy she projects that draws people toward her. People just love being around her.
And yeah, she knows it. She isn't bragging or anything, but she's definitely aware of it.
It's the same with a buddy of mine. He ended up in a circle of equally eccentric, quirky characters, and once again... he didn't stand out because he was the "craziest" one in the bunch; he had that "it factor" that set him apart from everyone else.
Do you see what I mean? That is true uniqueness.
Now, don't get me wrong—not everyone is special in that way. When we say "every person is unique," we usually mean that every human is a different combination of parts. We all differ physically and psychologically, but the real question is how much charisma you have—your ability to pull people toward you. How much of a magnet are you? Because let's be real: not everyone has that.
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We had some kids with special needs back in elementary school... 😕
They weren't out of their minds or anything, but they definitely stood out.

Brenda Cooper3 said:We had some kids with special needs back in elementary school... 😕
They weren't out of their minds or anything, but they definitely stood out.

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... apparently nobody gets my sense of irony boo 🙂

casualharbor9 said:... apparently nobody gets my sense of irony boo 🙂

I really don't have the energy to dig through your old posts right now.
Just rewrite it.
Maybe I'll actually find it funny this time. ☕

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Brenda Cooper3 said:I really don't have the energy to dig through your old posts right now.
Just rewrite it.
Maybe I'll actually find it funny this time. ☕

🙂

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😵 you literally commented on it, you absolute clown !!! ☕️ 🥃 🥓

casualharbor9 said:😵 you literally commented on it, you absolute clown !!! ☕️ 🥃 🥓

I have no idea which post, when, where, or what we're even talking about. And I am absolutely not scrolling back through the thread to find out! I won't, and I won't, and I won't!

I'm determined 😳

edit: damn, I completely missed your irony. Argh 🤦

... aondanista... 🙂

Every single person is unique (I know, I know, I’ve probably heard that cliché about five hundred times already, but honestly, it’s the only thing that actually rings true)
And standing out from the crowd... based on what, exactly? I can't think of anyone who truly stands out in every single way, because if they did, they wouldn't be human, they'd basically be an alien... I meet people who stand out because of how they dress, or the way they talk, or whether they're being polite or a complete jerk, or just the sheer stupidity of their takes, or maybe their sense of humor, etc... but I haven't met anyone who hits the jackpot in all those categories at once :/

Just because someone wears loud, flashy clothes doesn't mean they have a standout personality to match. On the flip side, you've got people who dress totally basic and act more or less like everyone else, yet they might actually be the weirdest person you'll ever meet...

The types of people who go around telling everyone how "special" they are probably aren't special at all; they just really, really want to be seen that way.

And then there are those who try way too hard to seem unique... or the ones who constantly brag about how fun and quirky they are, acting like everyone is just dying to hang out with them because they're so "eccentric"... give me a break 🤦

At the end of the day, there's no point in exhausting yourself trying to be completely different from everyone else, because it's just pointless... we're all human and we're all pretty much built the same... I mean, we share like 99% of our DNA (or whatever that number is?!)
You should focus on actually developing your own character, your skills, and your talents... because that's what actually makes someone a real person...

mistybison said:I believe our perception of uniqueness depends entirely on our environment. People who are strictly average often view anyone slightly different as eccentric or special, whereas those same individuals might seem perfectly ordinary in a more unconventional setting. I have personally experienced both perspectives, noticing how my own judgment shifts as my understanding of what is "normal" expands.

Nowadays, I rarely encounter people who truly stand out, whereas back in high school, I felt surrounded by unique personalities at every turn.😁 Over time, one realizes that people are much more alike than they are different; for most, it is a case of "seeing one is seeing them all," just with slight variations. I actually went through a phase where I actively sought out unconventional people, but they were difficult to find, and when I did, they often lacked the stability needed for a healthy relationship. Consequently, I have learned to value "cultivated normalcy" over "innate eccentricity"—meaning I appreciate those who work on themselves to develop their natural talents and build interesting, well-rounded personalities within their own unique strengths.🙂

yeah, it absolutely depends on the setting. like, if I moved to NYC right now, I probably wouldn't even blink at seeing people dressed in insane outfits or whatever... in a small town in the Midwest, you're a total outcast if you wear ripped jeans and all black :/ but in a big city, there are hundreds of people just like that every single day...
I can't decide if I hate the people who constantly claim they're "special" even more, or the ones who spend their whole lives trying to force themselves into those "special" circles. Like, they won't even hang out with regular people who dress and act normally, instead they're always desperately trying to stay relevant in groups of totally unhinged, wildly overdressed types 🙄 so cool...

And then, after all that, you finally meet one of these people who seemed so unique and awesome, only to be totally let down :/ turns out... the only thing "special" about them was their haircut... their actual personality was just soul-crushingly boring

It truly doesn't matter what they choose to wear or how they style themselves; most of the time, they aren't even trying to grab anyone's attention, yet somehow, they just... stand out 😁
That person always manages to command the room, even when they’re just sitting there quietly with their head bowed... but they still possess this unmistakable presence. And honestly, it has absolutely nothing to do with their physical appearance.

I’ve been dropping some pretty provocative shots on one particular forum lately, and honestly? I’ve already managed to build my own little fan club—just a group of women who seem absolutely desperate to meet me.
It’s a funny little ego boost, isn't it? I don't mind it at all.