Does a therapist's sexual orientation matter?

Look, I don't care if they knew or not, it doesn't change a thing for me. 😍 I was just curious and wanted to see what everyone else thought... people have already been hitting me up with this question anyway.

The only answer I give is that it'll probably help me pull more women. 😂

It’s a bit of a paradox, really, but it seems even here you’ve managed to build yourself a dedicated fan club 😁

redharbor9 said:Look, I don't care if they knew or not, it doesn't change a thing for me. 😍 I was just curious and wanted to see what everyone else thought... people have already been hitting me up with this question anyway.

The only answer I give is that it'll probably help me pull more women. 😂

It’s like, if you came to me with marriage problems, how would I even respond? Like, how do you handle relationship drama? You’ve got therapists who swear by doing whatever it takes to save a marriage at all costs, and then you’ve got others who basically tell you to just pack your bags and leave. Given that about 90% of the gay community is pretty much geared toward rotating through partners, there's a huge chance a gay therapist wouldn't see anything wrong with constantly switching things up.

Huh.. why on earth would I give anyone advice?

If someone hits me up with marriage issues, we look at the facts. What’s the actual problem? Where does it stem from? What’s the root cause? How do we fix it, how do we save it, or if it’s over, how do we end it? What does the person actually want? How are they feeling? All that stuff.

Honestly, assuming I have some personal opinion (which I don't) that somehow overrides my work just makes zero sense..

Let's look at a real case.. someone came to me with the exact situation you're describing... at first, everything was heading toward a breakup. That was their main goal, so we went through every single option and method possible.. they worked through it themselves.. we weighed the idea of a second chance—how much sense it made, whether it was even viable, looking at past experiences... all of it and
everything else...

Now, they’re happier than ever. 😍

I'm not going to dictate anyone's options, even if they ask me point-blank.. people make those calls themselves. I just help them put the scattered pieces together or point out the pieces they missed, or the broken ones they need to patch up...

Everyone’s got an opinion on everything—that’s just how our brains are wired from day one. Honestly, if you dig deep enough, any psychotherapist is going to bleed their own biases and perspectives into the session through unconscious cues, whether they mean to or not. I was spiraling a bit earlier, just thinking out loud about whether a therapist being gay actually matters that much in the grand scheme of things. Personally? I care way more about their moral compass and those core spiritual values they actually live by, regardless of who they're attracted to. That’s the stuff that drives the sessions. Though, I'll admit, when it comes to getting into the nitty-gritty of my own intimate life, I’d probably find it a lot easier to open up to a gay male therapist.

Look, facts are one thing, but there's a massive moderator variable between what someone actually thinks and how they say it: the sheer intensity behind the opinion...

Hannah White2 said:Everyone’s got an opinion on everything—that’s just how our brains are wired from day one. Honestly, if you dig deep enough, any psychotherapist is going to bleed their own biases and perspectives into the session through unconscious cues, whether they mean to or not. I was spiraling a bit earlier, just thinking out loud about whether a therapist being gay actually matters that much in the grand scheme of things. Personally? I care way more about their moral compass and those core spiritual values they actually live by, regardless of who they're attracted to. That’s the stuff that drives the sessions. Though, I'll admit, when it comes to getting into the nitty-gritty of my own intimate life, I’d probably find it a lot easier to open up to a gay male therapist.

It takes years of rigorous training for an American psychotherapist to learn how to steer clear of that particular pitfall.😉

No matter how much schooling he gets, the guy's still just 😍

redharbor9, please refrain from attacking the professional integrity of psychotherapists 😲🤣

How am I trashing my reputation?

This just goes to show that even therapists are only human 😲 🤣 (just kidding)

Facts... My bad. I’m gonna go beat myself up now to make amends...

I mean, how could I even insult myself like that? It honestly sucks not being a decent human being.😍

So, yeah, that actually feels much more normal 🤣

redharbor9, I suppose that could actually be turned into quite an advantage. For instance:

"Oh, I have to tell you... I really should see a therapist... but I'm honestly a little scared"
"What exactly are you afraid of?"
"Well, I don't know... I feel like they might try to hypnotize me, and then I'd be completely under their control... what if they take advantage of me?"
"Gosh, I know someone... he's a wonderful guy, and you really don't need to worry because he's gay!"
"Oh, that's great, I think I'd feel much safer with him!"

Wait, what does "kuiš" mean? 😛

heading west

So tell me, do the women you see in therapy just look at you and see their mothers? 🙂 Just kidding—mostly. Though I wouldn't be surprised if certain patients tried to pull that on you—you know, the ones who grew up with these repressed sexual fixations from childhood that they've shoved into the deepest, darkest corners of their subconscious.