Her scale... ugh.

I could even drop 12k on it, but you wouldn't even notice the weight if they're dealing with non-purging bulimia—they usually just burn it all off with insane workouts instead...

Amanda Stewart7 said:Yeah, that's a smart move. Honestly, the person she lives with probably has the biggest influence on her.
Take my cousin, for example. She stayed with me for about a month, and let me tell you, it was brutal. She struggles with anorexia—she’s about 5'6" and weighed barely 108 pounds.
It was constant math with her food. She’d barely eat anything, maybe an egg or a banana once a day, and the second she did consume something, she’d bolt to the gym and grind away for hours. Every single day. There were times I’d make this really nice, light meal, and she’d just sit there moving food around her plate with a fork. Watching her do that actually made *me* lose my appetite. I tried telling her, "Look, you have a problem," but nothing worked.
Of course, she ended up in the ER a few times because she’d just collapse from starvation, and even now, she deals with some pretty serious health complications.

Like I said.😁

redharbor9 said:I could even drop 12k on it, but you wouldn't even notice the weight if they're dealing with non-purging bulimia—they usually just burn it all off with insane workouts instead...

Look, if someone is actually taking in that many calories in a single day like you mentioned, even extreme exercise can barely touch it... and then you’ve got all these other factors swirling together too.

I’m talking about this specific person, not making some broad generalization that it could be a sign of bulimia🙂

redharbor9 said:I’m talking about this specific person, not making some broad generalization that it could be a sign of bulimia🙂

The topic was anorexia.

From what I can tell, there’s absolutely nothing explicitly stated anywhere 😉

Bulimia definitely isn't the issue here; she could never bring herself to overeat because the very idea repulses her.
The same goes for vomiting. If she has a standard meal, she’ll just skip eating for a longer stretch afterward to ensure she isn't constantly eating "normally"—which, in this case, means eating full meals.
So, while she might eat a satisfying meal occasionally, she prefers to fast for a bit afterward. She’s fine with salads or fruit, but she avoids bread, pasta, or anything too heavy. She absolutely detests sweets and won't touch them. She also tends to lie to others, claiming she's already eaten.
Because she looks healthy and eats moderately at times, she convinces herself everything is fine. But this is deeply psychological; it's about her relationship with food. It’s made worse when people around her make jokes about her eating or say things like, "Come on, just take a bite like everyone else," or "You're eating too slow, you can't even swallow water." I get why that kills her appetite, but others don't realize they're poking at a serious problem.
I can't label it as anorexia or bulimia, just like I said before.
(Plus, she’s too embarrassed to see a psychologist...)

Aaron Castillo9 said:Bulimia definitely isn't the issue here; she could never bring herself to overeat because the very idea repulses her.
The same goes for vomiting. If she has a standard meal, she’ll just skip eating for a longer stretch afterward to ensure she isn't constantly eating "normally"—which, in this case, means eating full meals.
So, while she might eat a satisfying meal occasionally, she prefers to fast for a bit afterward. She’s fine with salads or fruit, but she avoids bread, pasta, or anything too heavy. She absolutely detests sweets and won't touch them. She also tends to lie to others, claiming she's already eaten.
Because she looks healthy and eats moderately at times, she convinces herself everything is fine. But this is deeply psychological; it's about her relationship with food. It’s made worse when people around her make jokes about her eating or say things like, "Come on, just take a bite like everyone else," or "You're eating too slow, you can't even swallow water." I get why that kills her appetite, but others don't realize they're poking at a serious problem.
I can't label it as anorexia or bulimia, just like I said before.
(Plus, she’s too embarrassed to see a psychologist...)

But eventually, she's going to have to reach out for help. Better sooner rather than later, while it's still in the early stages.
Like I've said before, trying to push or convince someone like that is pointless; they just feel threatened and attacked immediately.
It would also be a good idea for her to get some basic blood work done first.

Aaron Castillo9 said:Bulimia definitely isn't the issue here; she could never bring herself to overeat because the very idea repulses her.
The same goes for vomiting. If she has a standard meal, she’ll just skip eating for a longer stretch afterward to ensure she isn't constantly eating "normally"—which, in this case, means eating full meals.
So, while she might eat a satisfying meal occasionally, she prefers to fast for a bit afterward. She’s fine with salads or fruit, but she avoids bread, pasta, or anything too heavy. She absolutely detests sweets and won't touch them. She also tends to lie to others, claiming she's already eaten.
Because she looks healthy and eats moderately at times, she convinces herself everything is fine. But this is deeply psychological; it's about her relationship with food. It’s made worse when people around her make jokes about her eating or say things like, "Come on, just take a bite like everyone else," or "You're eating too slow, you can't even swallow water." I get why that kills her appetite, but others don't realize they're poking at a serious problem.
I can't label it as anorexia or bulimia, just like I said before.
(Plus, she’s too embarrassed to see a psychologist...)

I'd focus on this part right here. She actually wants help. That's the main thing. Now you just gotta figure out how to make it happen. Go with her. Find someone who's been through it so she sees that seeing a shrink isn't some big taboo or anything weird. Just get her there.

Probably works 🙂