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Amy Cook71 Amy Cook71 NewcomerOP
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#1 ·
Stumbling upon the thread "Is it getting worse?" left me staring at two specific ideas that deserve some serious scrutiny. šŸ™‚
My apologies in advance if this topic has been covered before—though, frankly, I haven't seen it yet.

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nitko i nista said:If a person stops viewing these two concepts as an eternal divide, and instead starts questioning what is actually "good for me," they might find that their own interests eventually converge with what is "good for everyone."

But how do you actually reconcile the two? What kind of mental gymnastics does an individual have to perform to conclude that their self-interest aligns with the common good? I’d love to see some actual reasoning here. And where does love fit into all of this?

It isn't a simple subject. It forces us to examine our definitions of personal benefit
versus the collective good. It’s an attempt to justify the community's needs through the lens of the individual, and conversely, to justify the individual's needs through the lens of the community.

It seems appropriate to offer some solutions to this recurring pattern of thought—one I think many struggle with, myself included. Let's try to dig into the root causes.

The issue is
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nitko i nista said:While it seems obvious that everyone wants what's best for themselves, I don't think that's actually the case very often. It feels like many people harbor a subconscious belief—often unexamined—that they don't deserve goodness, or that they somehow merit suffering. As if, for whatever reason, it is "right" for them to hurt, to struggle, to fail, or to be punished. Or perhaps they just don't care.

Reflecting on both of these issues feels interconnected; solving one seems to bring us closer to solving the other.

Philosophers, please, step up to the plate. šŸ™‚

P.S. This might seem obvious, but just to be clear—when I say "good," I am primarily referring to spiritual goods.
bluetiger13 bluetiger13 Member
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#2 ·
Why on earth would something that’s actually good for you be worth any less than what’s "good for the community"—as if we all need to feel this constant pressure to justify our own needs by calling them the common good.🤷
Lawrence Robinson5 Lawrence Robinson5 Member
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#3 ·
Man... I mean, sure, that might be great for some people, but honestly? It’s just not something you can see clearly. Sometimes it works, but that doesn't give us any right to shove our own version of "the greater good" down someone else's throat. Even my closest buddies start pushing back when I try to tell them they’re basically manufacturing their own drama... and usually, they don't get it until they hit a brick wall hard. I think everyone in this thread, and honestly everyone out there in the real world, has been through that at least once in their life.

The whole concept of the "greater good" feels more and more like a dangerous ego trip to me the more I chew on it. It always seems to involve trying to override someone else's intentions or willpower, which is really just a sneaky way of manipulating how people act. If you look back at history, it feels like this idea cropped up right alongside organized religion: once humans started naming and personifying these massive "forces" in the universe, they started obsessing over what those forces actually wanted. But here’s the catch—the delusion was baked in from day one. Because the guy who claims he knows "God's will"—and by extension, knows what is "good" (which, let's be real, is always "good" for one nation and a total disaster for another)—is basically saying:
a) you guys aren't enlightened enough to grasp the divine plan
b) I'm the one who gets it, so I'm essentially God's chosen representative—and therefore, better than all of you

...basically, it’s just greed for power wearing a fancy mask. Nowadays, we’d just call it being a control freak. Honestly, man, that's something you need to work on. 😁

But since this mindset has been around forever, people have started thinking it’s totally normal to force their views on others. But where’s the logic in that? If there is a being whose needs I can actually understand, it’s myself—nobody else.
Logic should dictate this:
If every individual focused on doing what they truly believe is in their own best interest
> everyone would end up satisfied
> and there wouldn't be any reason to take things away from anyone else.

So, the secret isn't that Christian "love thy neighbor" thing; it’s actually the opposite: take care of yourself!
That whole religious angle is twisted... not just for the reasons I mentioned, but because even if you manage to satisfy 90% of what someone wants... even if you nail it... you're still stuck in a system where you've handed over your own well-being to someone else. And if even one percent is missing, you blame the other person, and boom—you've got a conflict.

It’s quite simply an excuse to dodge responsibility for your own actions. It's unspecified... bad, really. I think the Eastern philosophies have it much more figured out: they say if you change yourself, you change the world. That applies to "goodness," too.

And it applies to love, obviously...
Amy Cook71 Amy Cook71 NewcomerOP
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bluetiger13 said:why would something that serves you be any less valuable than something that serves the community, to the point where we feel pressured to justify our own interests by invoking the common good?[/I]

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I never claimed personal interest was worth less (less šŸ™‚) than the collective good. But that isn't actually what you're arguing (that I said)... It’s a fair question, though I’d rephrase it, or rather, trim it down: which is better—the common good or the individual good?
Do they conflict, or do they complement one another?

The pressure to justify our own needs through the lens of the collective exists to
ground our actions in morality. When you filter your behavior through questions like, "Is this good for me?" and "Is this good for society?", you're more likely
to find greater moral justification for your actions. The real question is: what happens to freedom then? To the sheer number of choices available to us?

It seems more meaningful to make our actions purposeful... šŸ™‚>

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Lawrence Robinson5 says:
this whole concept of the common good feels like a dangerous ego trap the more I think about it. It always involves trying to alter someone else's intentions or will—it's a way of manipulating how people act. Historically speaking...
My intention was simply to look at the common good and the individual good from the perspective of an individual who evaluates and adjusts their own conduct.

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Lawrence Robinson5 says:
no, the idea has been around so long that it's become 'normal' to hold others to our standards. But where is the logic in that? If there is a being whose best interests I can truly know, it is myself, and no one else.
Logic should dictate:
if every being acts in its own highest self-interest
> all beings would be satisfied
> there would be no need to take from anyone else.
Hmm... I'm not sure logic dictates that. From where I stand, it doesn't... Under the assumption "Every being acts in its own highest self-interest," logic would suggest the following:
> All beings would be satisfied if and only if every being is correct about what constitutes its highest interest, and it holds true for every individual that their highest interest does not infringe upon the highest interest of anyone else. šŸ˜‰>

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Lawrence Robinson5 says:
[I]so, the trick isn't in that Christian "care for others" mantra, but the exact opposite: care for yourself!
The Christian message has been twisted...
Christian charity means looking out for others—if you listen to the Gospel. It’s about caring for those who can't care for themselves, the people in need: the sick, the widowed...
Furthermore, this Christian duty to others comes first, but it’s an offer of care, not something forced upon them. Being Christian also involves caring for oneself and loving others just as much as you love yourself..
I don't see anything twisted about that...

Lawrence Robinson5 said:The East puts it better: they say if you change yourself, you change the world. That applies to doing good, too.

The Gospel says the exact same thing, except the push to change yourself comes from realizing
how much you are actually loved. That’s precisely why I asked in my opening post, "How does love fit into this?" šŸ˜‰
mistyfox812 mistyfox812 Regular
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#5 ·
Amy Cook71 said:Stumbling upon the thread "Is it getting worse?" left me staring at two specific ideas that deserve some serious scrutiny. šŸ™‚
My apologies in advance if this topic has been covered before—though, frankly, I haven't seen it yet.

unspecified

But how do you actually reconcile the two? What kind of mental gymnastics does an individual have to perform to conclude that their self-interest aligns with the common good? I’d love to see some actual reasoning here. And where does love fit into all of this?

It isn't a simple subject. It forces us to examine our definitions of personal benefit
versus the collective good. It’s an attempt to justify the community's needs through the lens of the individual, and conversely, to justify the individual's needs through the lens of the community.

It seems appropriate to offer some solutions to this recurring pattern of thought—one I think many struggle with, myself included. Let's try to dig into the root causes.

The issue is
unspecified

Reflecting on both of these issues feels interconnected; solving one seems to bring us closer to solving the other.

Philosophers, please, step up to the plate. šŸ™‚

P.S. This might seem obvious, but just to be clear—when I say "good," I am primarily referring to spiritual goods.

Love fits perfectly into this whole picture. Seriously. šŸ™‚

So, basically, the whole issue you're talking about? It really just boils down to that massive headache when you're trying to transition from... What is. I mean, honestly? I’m just doing what’s best for me. I need help. (I think I'm doing everyone a favor here.) He’s just all about making distinctions. Hey, what's up! I think you might have hit send too early! I'm standing by and ready to go once you drop the text you want me to work on. Just paste it in and I'll get to it. Good luck to everyone else!.

Wait, before we even dive into anything else... I need this. We really need to talk about this whole love phenomenon. When you’re actually in love, there aren't even any moral rules forcing you to act a certain way—it just happens. You stop seeing "my good" and "your good" as two different things. Like, look at parents who truly love their kids; they don't sit there weighing their own interests against what's best for the little one. It's all one and the same. Honestly, anyone who hurts a child is just hurting themselves. I mean, honestly? Just at the same time. It’s the same deal with parents. Or even when people are head over heels in love—if someone takes a shot at one half of the couple, they both feel like they're under fire. You know how lovers act? They’ll be like, "Oh, we loved that movie," talking like they’re some single entity with one shared brain and one taste. It’s not like that... It really ought to be.Honestly, it’s just straight up facts. It is what it is..
It’s not just about how you show love to other people, either. Like, when your favorite football team actually pulls off a win? You're standing there screaming your head off, "We did it!" I'm just out here doing my thing, honestly.Man, what a joke! Acting like he scored a hat trick himself when he didn't touch the ball... and then you've got this guy whose car gets dinged in a parking lot absolutely losing his mind over a tiny scratch. Total clown show. I'm ready. Send over the posts you need me to rework. I'll keep that casual, choppy, and sincere vibe going while making sure everything sounds like it’s happening right here in the States. Just give me the text and I'll get to work.Man, I am actually bleeding out here... just a total stan for this one singer (or maybe some philosopher, who knows?). 😁 Man, I seriously feel personally attacked whenever someone starts talking trash about my favorite people or things. It’s like... why does it hit so hard? There's gotta be a line somewhere between being passionate and just being way too sensitive. I guess I’m just... what I am. I'm sorry, I didn't quite catch that! You only typed "i". What's on your mind? Feel free to drop a thought or ask me something—I'm all ears! Just the stuff I love. It’s all fluid, you know? Like, it just flows until there's nothing left. To truly love someone... man, that actually means something deep. just one.When I say "love," I’m talking about the whole spectrum here—friendship, being into certain things, all that good stuff. Just taking it in its broadest sense, you know?

So, okay, let me get this straight... is "what I love" actually the same thing as "what's good for me"? Honestly, it feels like it is. To me, "what's good for me" is just whatever I'm vibing with—or, you know, what I'll still be digging in the long run. But either way, if it's good for me, I'm definitely into it.

So, what am I actually into?

Hegel says in one spot:

Self-awareness basically works in three stages as it develops—it’s all about that movement, you know? It evolves through three distinct phases.
Don't waste your breath if you're just aiming at nothing.
So, let's talk about that whole master-slave dynamic—you know, when everything revolves around some other consciousness that's basically on a totally different level? It’s all about how dominance and servitude play out when they're focused on an "other" that isn't even equal to them. Total head trip.
So, like, thirdly... there’s this whole thing about general self-awareness. It’s that moment where you recognize yourself within another layer of consciousness—which, honestly, feels just as real as the one you're stuck in right now.


Honestly, if you’ve got even a little bit of life experience and you're being real with yourself, it's pretty obvious. Loving "stuff" or chasing power? That's just a quick hit. It's shallow, and the high wears off fast. But loving other people—like your friends or your kids—or really connecting with what human consciousness can do, like art, philosophy, science, or just deep spirituality... man, that's where the real stuff is. That actually lasts.
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#6 ·
Lawrence Robinson5 said:Man... I mean, sure, that might be great for some people, but honestly? It’s just not something you can see clearly. Sometimes it works, but that doesn't give us any right to shove our own version of "the greater good" down someone else's throat. Even my closest buddies start pushing back when I try to tell them they’re basically manufacturing their own drama... and usually, they don't get it until they hit a brick wall hard. I think everyone in this thread, and honestly everyone out there in the real world, has been through that at least once in their life.

The whole concept of the "greater good" feels more and more like a dangerous ego trip to me the more I chew on it. It always seems to involve trying to override someone else's intentions or willpower, which is really just a sneaky way of manipulating how people act. If you look back at history, it feels like this idea cropped up right alongside organized religion: once humans started naming and personifying these massive "forces" in the universe, they started obsessing over what those forces actually wanted. But here’s the catch—the delusion was baked in from day one. Because the guy who claims he knows "God's will"—and by extension, knows what is "good" (which, let's be real, is always "good" for one nation and a total disaster for another)—is basically saying:
a) you guys aren't enlightened enough to grasp the divine plan
b) I'm the one who gets it, so I'm essentially God's chosen representative—and therefore, better than all of you

...basically, it’s just greed for power wearing a fancy mask. Nowadays, we’d just call it being a control freak. Honestly, man, that's something you need to work on. 😁

But since this mindset has been around forever, people have started thinking it’s totally normal to force their views on others. But where’s the logic in that? If there is a being whose needs I can actually understand, it’s myself—nobody else.
Logic should dictate this:
If every individual focused on doing what they truly believe is in their own best interest
> everyone would end up satisfied
> and there wouldn't be any reason to take things away from anyone else.

So, the secret isn't that Christian "love thy neighbor" thing; it’s actually the opposite: take care of yourself!
That whole religious angle is twisted... not just for the reasons I mentioned, but because even if you manage to satisfy 90% of what someone wants... even if you nail it... you're still stuck in a system where you've handed over your own well-being to someone else. And if even one percent is missing, you blame the other person, and boom—you've got a conflict.

It’s quite simply an excuse to dodge responsibility for your own actions. It's unspecified... bad, really. I think the Eastern philosophies have it much more figured out: they say if you change yourself, you change the world. That applies to "goodness," too.

And it applies to love, obviously...

I think you might have misremembered that one. ''Love your neighbor as yourself''—there’s zero exclusion of yourself there. Actually, loving yourself is baked right into it; it’s the prerequisite for loving anyone else. If you don't love yourself, then trying to ''love'' your neighbor as yourself just doesn't work. You aren't really loving them. It's only through that self-love that you can actually love others the way it's supposed to happen—which is exactly what the ''commandment of love'' is all about.
So yeah, there's no ''opposite'' like you're claiming.
Lawrence Robinson5 Lawrence Robinson5 Member
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#7 ·
mistyfox812 said:I think you might have misremembered that one. ''Love your neighbor as yourself''—there’s zero exclusion of yourself there. Actually, loving yourself is baked right into it; it’s the prerequisite for loving anyone else. If you don't love yourself, then trying to ''love'' your neighbor as yourself just doesn't work. You aren't really loving them. It's only through that self-love that you can actually love others the way it's supposed to happen—which is exactly what the ''commandment of love'' is all about.
So yeah, there's no ''opposite'' like you're claiming.


but I’m not actually talking about the Gospel itself—I’m talking about what Christianity has morphed into over the last 2,000 years.

See, that specific line I mentioned is one of the most common things I hear people in the faith say... sometimes they even go full literal with it, telling you stuff like, 'Don't worry about your own needs, just focus on others, and God will provide everything you need (in His name).'

Sometimes it feels pretty pointless to bring up an ideal philosophy (which the Gospel basically is, in its purest form) when the actual followers of that philosophy don't see what it originally taught, but instead follow whatever the institutional Church has started preaching and somehow managed to convince everyone to believe. I totally get what the sentence you quoted means... but my question is, who is actually living it out?

Religions, including Christianity, tend to encourage people to diminish themselves at the expense of others... and a diminished person isn't capable of truly understanding what love is. That’s why it becomes such an easy tool for manipulation.
That's why I find myself being pro-faith, but anti-religion. I'm against having those middlemen standing between a person and the core idea. I'm just here for the conversation. Does that make sense?
bluetiger13 bluetiger13 Member
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#8 ·
So, what happens when multiple people are all catching feelings for the same person?
You can't just ignore the fact that even in the most beautiful romances, there's bound to be a conflict of interest somewhere.
I mean, even two people who are head over heels for each other won't always see eye to eye on what they want.
Plus—and this is a big one—the way you view yourself isn't really comparable to how you relate to anyone else, except maybe in those rare, fleeting moments where everything clicks.
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#9 ·
Lawrence Robinson5 said:but I’m not actually talking about the Gospel itself—I’m talking about what Christianity has morphed into over the last 2,000 years.

See, that specific line I mentioned is one of the most common things I hear people in the faith say... sometimes they even go full literal with it, telling you stuff like, 'Don't worry about your own needs, just focus on others, and God will provide everything you need (in His name).'

Sometimes it feels pretty pointless to bring up an ideal philosophy (which the Gospel basically is, in its purest form) when the actual followers of that philosophy don't see what it originally taught, but instead follow whatever the institutional Church has started preaching and somehow managed to convince everyone to believe. I totally get what the sentence you quoted means... but my question is, who is actually living it out?

Religions, including Christianity, tend to encourage people to diminish themselves at the expense of others... and a diminished person isn't capable of truly understanding what love is. That’s why it becomes such an easy tool for manipulation.
That's why I find myself being pro-faith, but anti-religion. I'm against having those middlemen standing between a person and the core idea. I'm just here for the conversation. Does that make sense?

Crystal clear.
But seriously, though—can you really call someone a doctor if they're misdiagnosing people and actually making things worse? Or a pro athlete if they can't even play the game? Or a Christian if they don't actually live by the Gospel?
Anyway, fine, I get what you're saying. That's just a side note.
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#10 ·
Can we really blame someone for being ignorant about what's good, for failing to grasp true goodness, or just plain lacking the desire for it?

I was reading somewhere—though I can't be 100% sure how accurate this is—that Plato cooked up some kind of "island" concept.
Basically, he uses the threat of heaven and hell to scare people who aren't interested in, or even capable of, understanding or practicing true goodness. He suggests that in the end (death), only the philosophers actually make it to the "right" island, aka paradise. But honestly, the whole point of the story seems to be an attempt at social engineering—trying to guilt non-philosophers into doing the right thing just so they don't end up stuck on the other island, which is hell.
Lawrence Robinson5 Lawrence Robinson5 Member
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#11 ·
Amy Cook71:

I basically gave you a partial answer, though honestly, I feel like I was answering absolutely nobody and nothing at the same time.

But, moving on:
Yeah, I drifted a bit from your specific question, I'll admit that, but it’s only because what I’m getting at is tied directly to the heart of this whole thing.
See, if we can't even figure out what constitutes the ultimate good for our own best friend or a family member—especially since they often end up making choices that seem "best" for them even when we're all protesting and pushing back—then how on earth can we even begin to talk about the "greater good"?
The freedom to make one's own calls should be the starting point. It carries within it the freedom of everyone else's decisions, too. It implies tolerance.
So, maybe the greatest good for everyone isn't actually trying to solve the puzzle of the collective good, but rather just looking after our own lives while letting everyone else do the same with theirs.

Your logical addition is definitely on the right track... but there's a trap in there. Sometimes, what is objectively best for me ends up hurting the people I love most. And sometimes, it’s just a necessity. That necessity isn't born out of malice or selfishness; it’s a personal necessity that hurts me just as much as it hurts them.
How can that possibly be the "greatest good" for me, then? Well, it can—if we aren't being short-sighted. There are times when the best long-term decisions require a painful price tag right now. (And if the decision truly is the right one, that heavy price starts to look pretty insignificant in hindsight.)

It's hard enough to grasp those truths for ourselves, let alone within the context of the collective. And how are you supposed to convince anyone to suffer now just so things might be better later? It’s precisely from that kind of reasoning that we get the twisted idea of self-neglect in religion... the whole "everything will be fine in the afterlife" thing.
At the end of the day, I'm the only one who can know what's true for me. You're the only one who knows what's true for you. No one else can live your life or walk your path. Asking for advice during major life decisions (the ones that lead toward the good) can be helpful, sure, but only for the sake of gaining a new perspective. Too often, we just blindly accept someone else's "wisdom" as being superior to our own. We don't want to assume we're smart enough to know everything for ourselves. We'd rather defer to a philosopher, to God, or search for some grand universal principle.

If there is such a thing as a "universal good," it would probably look like simple statements: don't kill; don't cause harm where it can be avoided; don't manipulate.

But here's the thing: when you try to apply these broad, sweeping principles in real life, day in and day out, a person's focus has to remain on themselves. It has to. If you start obsessing over the "greater good," your mind usually drifts toward the well-being of others—which feels more human and less abstract—but that just leads to neglecting yourself. It leads to total confusion. Is my decision right? Is it right for *who*? It leads straight into chaos.
Isn't it enough to just take those three examples of "good" I mentioned and apply them consistently to myself... and then see what happens? Does it make more sense now why I insist on keeping the focus on the individual?
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#12 ·
bluetiger13 said:So, what happens when multiple people are all catching feelings for the same person?
You can't just ignore the fact that even in the most beautiful romances, there's bound to be a conflict of interest somewhere.
I mean, even two people who are head over heels for each other won't always see eye to eye on what they want.
Plus—and this is a big one—the way you view yourself isn't really comparable to how you relate to anyone else, except maybe in those rare, fleeting moments where everything clicks.

Man, I'm honestly worried that falling in love often involves a lot of that stuff mentioned in point 2) of that Hegel Quote. But, I feel like in deep friendships, or in love—even that bond with a child—that kind of conflict doesn't really happen. We tend to value the interests of the people we love just as much as our own (and if those desires clash, we try to find some path that hurts everyone the least).
bluetiger13 said:So, what happens when multiple people are all catching feelings for the same person?
You can't just ignore the fact that even in the most beautiful romances, there's bound to be a conflict of interest somewhere.
I mean, even two people who are head over heels for each other won't always see eye to eye on what they want.
Plus—and this is a big one—the way you view yourself isn't really comparable to how you relate to anyone else, except maybe in those rare, fleeting moments where everything clicks.

Totally, but if they truly love each other, they’re usually inclined to treat the other person's wishes with the same level of respect as their own. And I mean *equal* respect (not, you know, putting them above your own).
bluetiger13 said:So, what happens when multiple people are all catching feelings for the same person?
You can't just ignore the fact that even in the most beautiful romances, there's bound to be a conflict of interest somewhere.
I mean, even two people who are head over heels for each other won't always see eye to eye on what they want.
Plus—and this is a big one—the way you view yourself isn't really comparable to how you relate to anyone else, except maybe in those rare, fleeting moments where everything clicks.

Maybe those exact moments are where the true essence of love shows up. At least, that's what I believe.
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#13 ·
mistyfox812 said:Honestly, I’m worried there’s a lot of that stuff from point 2 in the Hegelian Quote.

When you're falling in love—that whole one-on-one vibe—it isn't really about possession. It’s more subtle than that... kind of like being someone's soulmate. That person becomes the most special thing on the planet to you, and you become that for them. Those two pieces are just as vital to love.

Lawrence Robinson5 said:I totally drifted off your specific question a bit—but only because what I'm getting at is tied right into the core of this.
See, if we can't even truly know what's best for our own friends or family (since they often choose paths that drive us crazy, even if it's what they need), how can we ever claim to understand the "greater good"?
Personal agency should come first. If we respect our own freedom to choose, we have to respect everyone else's too—which basically means tolerance.
Maybe the ultimate "good" for society isn't trying to solve some grand equation, but just taking care of our own business and letting everyone else live their lives.

That's actually really deep. It makes you wonder—if you try to force your values on someone else, like telling a kid which college to go to, who are you actually doing a favor for? Is it them, or is it just your own ego?
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#14 ·
Amy Cook71 said:Stumbling upon the thread "Is it getting worse?" left me staring at two specific ideas that deserve some serious scrutiny. šŸ™‚
My apologies in advance if this topic has been covered before—though, frankly, I haven't seen it yet.

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But how do you actually reconcile the two? What kind of mental gymnastics does an individual have to perform to conclude that their self-interest aligns with the common good? I’d love to see some actual reasoning here. And where does love fit into all of this?

It isn't a simple subject. It forces us to examine our definitions of personal benefit
versus the collective good. It’s an attempt to justify the community's needs through the lens of the individual, and conversely, to justify the individual's needs through the lens of the community.

It seems appropriate to offer some solutions to this recurring pattern of thought—one I think many struggle with, myself included. Let's try to dig into the root causes.

The issue is
unspecified

Reflecting on both of these issues feels interconnected; solving one seems to bring us closer to solving the other.

Philosophers, please, step up to the plate. šŸ™‚

P.S. This might seem obvious, but just to be clear—when I say "good," I am primarily referring to spiritual goods.

You can't just predetermine what the common good is. Anyone who thinks they already have the answer is nothing more than a dogmatist and a bully. Finding that political consensus requires a process. Ideally, that means a democratic one—where the common good actually crystallizes through inclusive, equal debate.
You're aiming for some kind of universal spiritual good. I still think that can only be found through a shared process, rather than being handed down by some individual claiming they had a special vision. But since spiritual fulfillment has been pushed entirely into the private sphere anyway—where nobody can force their version of "goodness" on anyone else—there’s really no need for a democratic procedure to find it. Everyone lives by their own code, and no one should be interfering with that.

Amy Cook71 said:Stumbling upon the thread "Is it getting worse?" left me staring at two specific ideas that deserve some serious scrutiny. šŸ™‚
My apologies in advance if this topic has been covered before—though, frankly, I haven't seen it yet.

unspecified

But how do you actually reconcile the two? What kind of mental gymnastics does an individual have to perform to conclude that their self-interest aligns with the common good? I’d love to see some actual reasoning here. And where does love fit into all of this?

It isn't a simple subject. It forces us to examine our definitions of personal benefit
versus the collective good. It’s an attempt to justify the community's needs through the lens of the individual, and conversely, to justify the individual's needs through the lens of the community.

It seems appropriate to offer some solutions to this recurring pattern of thought—one I think many struggle with, myself included. Let's try to dig into the root causes.

The issue is
unspecified

Reflecting on both of these issues feels interconnected; solving one seems to bring us closer to solving the other.

Philosophers, please, step up to the plate. šŸ™‚

P.S. This might seem obvious, but just to be clear—when I say "good," I am primarily referring to spiritual goods.

There isn’t really a "better" or "worse" here. The only real question worth asking is which good is more important—which one takes priority when they inevitably clash.

Amy Cook71 Asks:
Are they mutually exclusive, or do they complement one another?

Either way works for me.

Amy Cook71 said:Stumbling upon the thread "Is it getting worse?" left me staring at two specific ideas that deserve some serious scrutiny. šŸ™‚
My apologies in advance if this topic has been covered before—though, frankly, I haven't seen it yet.

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But how do you actually reconcile the two? What kind of mental gymnastics does an individual have to perform to conclude that their self-interest aligns with the common good? I’d love to see some actual reasoning here. And where does love fit into all of this?

It isn't a simple subject. It forces us to examine our definitions of personal benefit
versus the collective good. It’s an attempt to justify the community's needs through the lens of the individual, and conversely, to justify the individual's needs through the lens of the community.

It seems appropriate to offer some solutions to this recurring pattern of thought—one I think many struggle with, myself included. Let's try to dig into the root causes.

The issue is
unspecified

Reflecting on both of these issues feels interconnected; solving one seems to bring us closer to solving the other.

Philosophers, please, step up to the plate. šŸ™‚

P.S. This might seem obvious, but just to be clear—when I say "good," I am primarily referring to spiritual goods.

Nobody is an island. Of course everyone's freedom is limited by someone else's, but that’s just the price we pay if we want to live in a civilized society.
Amy Cook71 Amy Cook71 NewcomerOP
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#15 ·
mistyfox812 said:
Amy Cook71 As stated by:
What kind of twisted logic leads someone to conclude that their own self-interest somehow serves the greater good? I’d love to see some actual examples of that reasoning in action. It feels like a massive leap. And where does love fit into that equation? Is it even part of the calculation, or just more noise?

Love fits right in here, doesn't it? Just perfectly.

Love is the driver, the motivation, and ultimately the reward. I wanted to hear that from someone else—to see those words typed out by another person's hands. It just feels more genuine that way. šŸ™‚

mistyfox812 said:If you have even a modicum of life experience—and more importantly, if you’re actually honest with yourself—you eventually reach a certain conclusion. Loving things under category one or two, specifically the pursuit of material possessions or the hunger for power, offers nothing but fleeting, shallow gratification. It’s hollow. Real fulfillment comes from category three: loving other people, like your friends or your children, or dedicating yourself to the heights of human consciousness—art, philosophy, science, or spirituality in its broadest sense.

šŸ‘
Sure, but I wouldn't go so far as to call the pursuit of 1) and 2) "love." It's more like...
Striving. šŸ™‚ I’d call that striving toward the third option nothing less than love.

mistyfox812 As mistyfox812 said:"Quote:"
bluetiger13 The user said:Quote:
bluetiger13 says: Check out this post.
What happens if multiple people fall for the same person? It’s an old dilemma, isn't it? A messy, inevitable collision of interests.
You can't deny that even the most beautiful sentiments aren't immune to a conflict of interest.

I fear that when people fall in love, they often stumble right into that trap mentioned in Hegel’s second point. It feels like a lack of balance. However, in deep friendship—or in the bond between a parent and a child—that conflict seems to vanish. In those cases, we tend to weigh the needs of those we love just as heavily as our own. Even when our interests clash, we usually try to find a middle ground that hurts the least.

If multiple people happen to fall for the same individual, then logically, that person ought to be someone of genuine substance. It’s a matter of basic interest. For instance, if I find myself enamored with a woman who happens to be in a happy, fulfilling relationship with someone else, I shouldn't be miserable about it. Instead, I should feel a sense of satisfaction knowing she is making choices that she believes are best for her own life. If what we call "love" doesn't include the element found in point 2 of that Hegelian Quote, then in my view, it isn't actually love at all.

Lawrence Robinson5 said:So, is it any clearer now why I insist on keeping the focus strictly on oneself?

I’ll double down on that point. I probably wasn't clear enough when I brought it up before.
"Look for ways to justify what benefits the community by pointing to the good of the individual, and conversely, justify what serves the individual by claiming it serves the greater good..."
My intention was simple: to weigh the collective against the individual, all from the perspective of a single person who actually takes responsibility for their own actions and strives to improve them.

Take, for example, an instance where someone evaluates their own conduct through the lens of both personal interest and the greater good.

There’s this high schooler out there—someone like me, I suppose—who actually gets a kick out of grinding through math and logic. He genuinely enjoys the mental friction, that feeling of sharpening his intellect against a tough problem. But let's be honest: he's lazy. Getting himself to actually sit down and focus is an uphill battle every single time. Yet, once he finally forces the issue? It clicks. He finds a certain rhythm in the reasoning, a sense of satisfaction in the discovery. He knows, deep down, that this discipline is good for him. Looking at the landscape of the American economy, he sees a glaring shortage of engineers and mathematicians. He realizes that by mastering these fields, he isn't just helping himself—he's doing something useful for the country.
It’s also clear that many people struggle to grasp the situation, which only confirms why it’s actually in their best interest to...
Can someone please break down the prefixes for me? I need a clear, entertaining explanation. Also, let’s try to keep things upbeat—I’m trying to make my parents proud here.
His successes in math and logic serve as more than just accolades; they’re the fuel driving him to push even further.

When you look at it that way, a person actually finds more reasons to adjust their behavior. It leads to a much stronger sense of duty—both to oneself and to the common good.

Lawrence Robinson5 As stated by:
Your logical addition is on the right track... but it’s walking straight into a trap. Sometimes, doing what is absolutely necessary for my own sake ends up hurting the people I love most. And sometimes, that necessity isn't driven by malice or selfishness—it's just a fundamental requirement for survival. It’s a personal necessity that, quite frankly, hurts me just as much as anyone else.
So, how could this possibly be a win for me? Well—it works, provided we aren't being shortsighted. Sometimes, making the right call for the long haul requires paying a painful price upfront. And if the decision is truly sound, that cost ends up looking laughably small in hindsight.

I don't buy the idea that my ultimate happiness has to be built on the suffering of someone I love. It just doesn't sit right with me.
But then again, I'm just a fool anyway. 😁 It’s a mistake to discuss these topics in such broad, sweeping generalities. It’s much more compelling to observe how lofty, high-minded ideas actually behave when they're squeezed by the messy realities of a specific case. If you have a solid example that illustrates what you wrote, I'd be interested in reading it.

frozenotter232 said:
Amy Cook71 As said:What’s actually better: the greater good, or individual prosperity? It’s the age-old tug of war, isn't it? One side argues for the collective, the sweeping macro-level progress that lifts the whole nation, while the other insists that if the individuals aren't thriving, the "greater good" is just a hollow slogan used to justify mediocrity. It’s a heavy question, and honestly, I’m not sure there’s a clean answer.

There’s no such thing as "better" or "worse" here. It’s all relative. The only real question worth asking is which good is more vital—which one takes precedence? Or, more bluntly, which good are we willing to sacrifice when they inevitably clash?

Better, more important, primary, high priority, justified, valuable... When you're dealing with questions like this, it all feels like semantic hair-splitting to me.

frozenotter232 said:
Amy Cook71 said:Do they exclude one another, or do they complement each other?

It could be either.

If we’re strictly looking at the logical structure of the question, then yes—in an inclusive disjunction, they can.
But when you look at what's actually being said, the first part ("exclude") inherently negates the second, making it impossible for both to be true at once.šŸ˜› šŸ™‚

P.S. This thread is heading down a dead end if we keep chasing these vague generalities.
My goal here is to find answers within the constraints of everyday life—to figure out how an individual can reach an optimal balance with the greater good.

šŸ™‚
frozenotter232 frozenotter232 Member
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#16 ·
Amy Cook71 said:Love fits right in here, doesn't it? Just perfectly.[/I]

Love is the driver, the motivation, and ultimately the reward. I wanted to hear that from someone else—to see those words typed out by another person's hands. It just feels more genuine that way. šŸ™‚

šŸ‘
Sure, but I wouldn't go so far as to call the pursuit of 1) and 2) "love." It's more like...
Striving. šŸ™‚ I’d call that striving toward the third option nothing less than love.

I fear that when people fall in love, they often stumble right into that trap mentioned in Hegel’s second point. It feels like a lack of balance. However, in deep friendship—or in the bond between a parent and a child—that conflict seems to vanish. In those cases, we tend to weigh the needs of those we love just as heavily as our own. Even when our interests clash, we usually try to find a middle ground that hurts the least.

If multiple people happen to fall for the same individual, then logically, that person ought to be someone of genuine substance. It’s a matter of basic interest. For instance, if I find myself enamored with a woman who happens to be in a happy, fulfilling relationship with someone else, I shouldn't be miserable about it. Instead, I should feel a sense of satisfaction knowing she is making choices that she believes are best for her own life. If what we call "love" doesn't include the element found in point 2 of that Hegelian Quote, then in my view, it isn't actually love at all.

I’ll double down on that point. I probably wasn't clear enough when I brought it up before.
"Look for ways to justify what benefits the community by pointing to the good of the individual, and conversely, justify what serves the individual by claiming it serves the greater good..."
My intention was simple: to weigh the collective against the individual, all from the perspective of a single person who actually takes responsibility for their own actions and strives to improve them.

Take, for example, an instance where someone evaluates their own conduct through the lens of both personal interest and the greater good.

There’s this high schooler out there—someone like me, I suppose—who actually gets a kick out of grinding through math and logic. He genuinely enjoys the mental friction, that feeling of sharpening his intellect against a tough problem. But let's be honest: he's lazy. Getting himself to actually sit down and focus is an uphill battle every single time. Yet, once he finally forces the issue? It clicks. He finds a certain rhythm in the reasoning, a sense of satisfaction in the discovery. He knows, deep down, that this discipline is good for him. Looking at the landscape of the American economy, he sees a glaring shortage of engineers and mathematicians. He realizes that by mastering these fields, he isn't just helping himself—he's doing something useful for the country.
It’s also clear that many people struggle to grasp the situation, which only confirms why it’s actually in their best interest to...
Can someone please break down the prefixes for me? I need a clear, entertaining explanation. Also, let’s try to keep things upbeat—I’m trying to make my parents proud here.
His successes in math and logic serve as more than just accolades; they’re the fuel driving him to push even further.

When you look at it that way, a person actually finds more reasons to adjust their behavior. It leads to a much stronger sense of duty—both to oneself and to the common good.

Lawrence Robinson5 As stated by:
Your logical addition is on the right track... but it’s walking straight into a trap. Sometimes, doing what is absolutely necessary for my own sake ends up hurting the people I love most. And sometimes, that necessity isn't driven by malice or selfishness—it's just a fundamental requirement for survival. It’s a personal necessity that, quite frankly, hurts me just as much as anyone else.
So, how could this possibly be a win for me? Well—it works, provided we aren't being shortsighted. Sometimes, making the right call for the long haul requires paying a painful price upfront. And if the decision is truly sound, that cost ends up looking laughably small in hindsight.

I don't buy the idea that my ultimate happiness has to be built on the suffering of someone I love. It just doesn't sit right with me.
But then again, I'm just a fool anyway. 😁 It’s a mistake to discuss these topics in such broad, sweeping generalities. It’s much more compelling to observe how lofty, high-minded ideas actually behave when they're squeezed by the messy realities of a specific case. If you have a solid example that illustrates what you wrote, I'd be interested in reading it.

There’s no such thing as "better" or "worse" here. It’s all relative. The only real question worth asking is which good is more vital—which one takes precedence? Or, more bluntly, which good are we willing to sacrifice when they inevitably clash?
Better, more important, primary, high priority, justified, valuable... When you're dealing with questions like this, it all feels like semantic hair-splitting to me.

It could be either.
If we’re strictly looking at the logical structure of the question, then yes—in an inclusive disjunction, they can.
But when you look at what's actually being said, the first part ("exclude") inherently negates the second, making it impossible for both to be true at once.šŸ˜› šŸ™‚

P.S. This thread is heading down a dead end if we keep chasing these vague generalities.
My goal here is to find answers within the constraints of everyday life—to figure out how an individual can reach an optimal balance with the greater good.

šŸ™‚
If multiple people happen to fall for the same individual, then logically, that person ought to be someone of genuine substance. It’s a matter of basic interest. For instance, if I find myself enamored with a woman who happens to be in a happy, fulfilling relationship with someone else, I shouldn't be miserable about it. Instead, I should feel a sense of satisfaction knowing she is making choices that she believes are best for her own life. If what we call "love" doesn't include the element found in point 2 of that Hegelian Quote, then in my view, it isn't actually love at all.

I’ll double down on that point. I probably wasn't clear enough when I brought it up before.
"Look for ways to justify what benefits the community by pointing to the good of the individual, and conversely, justify what serves the individual by claiming it serves the greater good..."
My intention was simple: to weigh the collective against the individual, all from the perspective of a single person who actually takes responsibility for their own actions and strives to improve them.

Take, for example, an instance where someone evaluates their own conduct through the lens of both personal interest and the greater good.

There’s this high schooler out there—someone like me, I suppose—who actually gets a kick out of grinding through math and logic. He genuinely enjoys the mental friction, that feeling of sharpening his intellect against a tough problem. But let's be honest: he's lazy. Getting himself to actually sit down and focus is an uphill battle every single time. Yet, once he finally forces the issue? It clicks. He finds a certain rhythm in the reasoning, a sense of satisfaction in the discovery. He knows, deep down, that this discipline is good for him. Looking at the landscape of the American economy, he sees a glaring shortage of engineers and mathematicians. He realizes that by mastering these fields, he isn't just helping himself—he's doing something useful for the country.
It’s also clear that many people struggle to grasp the situation, which only confirms why it’s actually in their best interest to...
Can someone please break down the prefixes for me? I need a clear, entertaining explanation. Also, let’s try to keep things upbeat—I’m trying to make my parents proud here.
His successes in math and logic serve as more than just accolades; they’re the fuel driving him to push even further.

When you look at it that way, a person actually finds more reasons to adjust their behavior. It leads to a much stronger sense of duty—both to oneself and to the common good.

Lawrence Robinson5 As stated by:
Your logical addition is on the right track... but it’s walking straight into a trap. Sometimes, doing what is absolutely necessary for my own sake ends up hurting the people I love most. And sometimes, that necessity isn't driven by malice or selfishness—it's just a fundamental requirement for survival. It’s a personal necessity that, quite frankly, hurts me just as much as anyone else.
So, how could this possibly be a win for me? Well—it works, provided we aren't being shortsighted. Sometimes, making the right call for the long haul requires paying a painful price upfront. And if the decision is truly sound, that cost ends up looking laughably small in hindsight.

I don't buy the idea that my ultimate happiness has to be built on the suffering of someone I love. It just doesn't sit right with me.
But then again, I'm just a fool anyway. 😁 It’s a mistake to discuss these topics in such broad, sweeping generalities. It’s much more compelling to observe how lofty, high-minded ideas actually behave when they're squeezed by the messy realities of a specific case. If you have a solid example that illustrates what you wrote, I'd be interested in reading it.

There’s no such thing as "better" or "worse" here. It’s all relative. The only real question worth asking is which good is more vital—which one takes precedence? Or, more bluntly, which good are we willing to sacrifice when they inevitably clash?
Better, more important, primary, high priority, justified, valuable... When you're dealing with questions like this, it all feels like semantic hair-splitting to me.

It could be either.
If we’re strictly looking at the logical structure of the question, then yes—in an inclusive disjunction, they can.
But when you look at what's actually being said, the first part ("exclude") inherently negates the second, making it impossible for both to be true at once.šŸ˜› šŸ™‚

P.S. This thread is heading down a dead end if we keep chasing these vague generalities.
My goal here is to find answers within the constraints of everyday life—to figure out how an individual can reach an optimal balance with the greater good.

šŸ™‚
If multiple people happen to fall for the same individual, then logically, that person ought to be someone of genuine substance. It’s a matter of basic interest. For instance, if I find myself enamored with a woman who happens to be in a happy, fulfilling relationship with someone else, I shouldn't be miserable about it. Instead, I should feel a sense of satisfaction knowing she is making choices that she believes are best for her own life. If what we call "love" doesn't include the element found in point 2 of that Hegelian Quote, then in my view, it isn't actually love at all.

I’ll double down on that point. I probably wasn't clear enough when I brought it up before.
"Look for ways to justify what benefits the community by pointing to the good of the individual, and conversely, justify what serves the individual by claiming it serves the greater good..."
My intention was simple: to weigh the collective against the individual, all from the perspective of a single person who actually takes responsibility for their own actions and strives to improve them.

Take, for example, an instance where someone evaluates their own conduct through the lens of both personal interest and the greater good.

There’s this high schooler out there—someone like me, I suppose—who actually gets a kick out of grinding through math and logic. He genuinely enjoys the mental friction, that feeling of sharpening his intellect against a tough problem. But let's be honest: he's lazy. Getting himself to actually sit down and focus is an uphill battle every single time. Yet, once he finally forces the issue? It clicks. He finds a certain rhythm in the reasoning, a sense of satisfaction in the discovery. He knows, deep down, that this discipline is good for him. Looking at the landscape of the American economy, he sees a glaring shortage of engineers and mathematicians. He realizes that by mastering these fields, he isn't just helping himself—he's doing something useful for the country.
It’s also clear that many people struggle to grasp the situation, which only confirms why it’s actually in their best interest to...
Can someone please break down the prefixes for me? I need a clear, entertaining explanation. Also, let’s try to keep things upbeat—I’m trying to make my parents proud here.
His successes in math and logic serve as more than just accolades; they’re the fuel driving him to push even further.

When you look at it that way, a person actually finds more reasons to adjust their behavior. It leads to a much stronger sense of duty—both to oneself and to the common good.

Lawrence Robinson5 As stated by:
Your logical addition is on the right track... but it’s walking straight into a trap. Sometimes, doing what is absolutely necessary for my own sake ends up hurting the people I love most. And sometimes, that necessity isn't driven by malice or selfishness—it's just a fundamental requirement for survival. It’s a personal necessity that, quite frankly, hurts me just as much as anyone else.
So, how could this possibly be a win for me? Well—it works, provided we aren't being shortsighted. Sometimes, making the right call for the long haul requires paying a painful price upfront. And if the decision is truly sound, that cost ends up looking laughably small in hindsight.

I don't buy the idea that my ultimate happiness has to be built on the suffering of someone I love. It just doesn't sit right with me.
But then again, I'm just a fool anyway. 😁 It’s a mistake to discuss these topics in such broad, sweeping generalities. It’s much more compelling to observe how lofty, high-minded ideas actually behave when they're squeezed by the messy realities of a specific case. If you have a solid example that illustrates what you wrote, I'd be interested in reading it.

There’s no such thing as "better" or "worse" here. It’s all relative. The only real question worth asking is which good is more vital—which one takes precedence? Or, more bluntly, which good are we willing to sacrifice when they inevitably clash?
Better, more important, primary, high priority, justified, valuable... When you're dealing with questions like this, it all feels like semantic hair-splitting to me.

It could be either.
If we’re strictly looking at the logical structure of the question, then yes—in an inclusive disjunction, they can.
But when you look at what's actually being said, the first part ("exclude") inherently negates the second, making it impossible for both to be true at once.šŸ˜› šŸ™‚

P.S. This thread is heading down a dead end if we keep chasing these vague generalities.
My goal here is to find answers within the constraints of everyday life—to figure out how an individual can reach an optimal balance with the greater good.

šŸ™‚
I don't follow your logic above, but here's my take: Let's assume "the common good" is clearly defined. Of course, any single person's individual good either aligns with that common good or it doesn't. But while some people's interests align perfectly with the collective good, others' interests often clash with it. In that sense, "both can be true."
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#17 ·
frozenotter232 said:If multiple people happen to fall for the same individual, then logically, that person ought to be someone of genuine substance. It’s a matter of basic interest. For instance, if I find myself enamored with a woman who happens to be in a happy, fulfilling relationship with someone else, I shouldn't be miserable about it. Instead, I should feel a sense of satisfaction knowing she is making choices that she believes are best for her own life. If what we call "love" doesn't include the element found in point 2 of that Hegelian Quote, then in my view, it isn't actually love at all.

I’ll double down on that point. I probably wasn't clear enough when I brought it up before.
"Look for ways to justify what benefits the community by pointing to the good of the individual, and conversely, justify what serves the individual by claiming it serves the greater good..."
My intention was simple: to weigh the collective against the individual, all from the perspective of a single person who actually takes responsibility for their own actions and strives to improve them.

Take, for example, an instance where someone evaluates their own conduct through the lens of both personal interest and the greater good.

There’s this high schooler out there—someone like me, I suppose—who actually gets a kick out of grinding through math and logic. He genuinely enjoys the mental friction, that feeling of sharpening his intellect against a tough problem. But let's be honest: he's lazy. Getting himself to actually sit down and focus is an uphill battle every single time. Yet, once he finally forces the issue? It clicks. He finds a certain rhythm in the reasoning, a sense of satisfaction in the discovery. He knows, deep down, that this discipline is good for him. Looking at the landscape of the American economy, he sees a glaring shortage of engineers and mathematicians. He realizes that by mastering these fields, he isn't just helping himself—he's doing something useful for the country.
It’s also clear that many people struggle to grasp the situation, which only confirms why it’s actually in their best interest to...
Can someone please break down the prefixes for me? I need a clear, entertaining explanation. Also, let’s try to keep things upbeat—I’m trying to make my parents proud here.
His successes in math and logic serve as more than just accolades; they’re the fuel driving him to push even further.

When you look at it that way, a person actually finds more reasons to adjust their behavior. It leads to a much stronger sense of duty—both to oneself and to the common good.

Lawrence Robinson5 As stated by:
Your logical addition is on the right track... but it’s walking straight into a trap. Sometimes, doing what is absolutely necessary for my own sake ends up hurting the people I love most. And sometimes, that necessity isn't driven by malice or selfishness—it's just a fundamental requirement for survival. It’s a personal necessity that, quite frankly, hurts me just as much as anyone else.
So, how could this possibly be a win for me? Well—it works, provided we aren't being shortsighted. Sometimes, making the right call for the long haul requires paying a painful price upfront. And if the decision is truly sound, that cost ends up looking laughably small in hindsight.

I don't buy the idea that my ultimate happiness has to be built on the suffering of someone I love. It just doesn't sit right with me.
But then again, I'm just a fool anyway. 😁 It’s a mistake to discuss these topics in such broad, sweeping generalities. It’s much more compelling to observe how lofty, high-minded ideas actually behave when they're squeezed by the messy realities of a specific case. If you have a solid example that illustrates what you wrote, I'd be interested in reading it.

There’s no such thing as "better" or "worse" here. It’s all relative. The only real question worth asking is which good is more vital—which one takes precedence? Or, more bluntly, which good are we willing to sacrifice when they inevitably clash?

Better, more important, primary, high priority, justified, valuable... When you're dealing with questions like this, it all feels like semantic hair-splitting to me.

It could be either.
If we’re strictly looking at the logical structure of the question, then yes—in an inclusive disjunction, they can.
But when you look at what's actually being said, the first part ("exclude") inherently negates the second, making it impossible for both to be true at once.šŸ˜› šŸ™‚

P.S. This thread is heading down a dead end if we keep chasing these vague generalities.
My goal here is to find answers within the constraints of everyday life—to figure out how an individual can reach an optimal balance with the greater good.

šŸ™‚
If multiple people happen to fall for the same individual, then logically, that person ought to be someone of genuine substance. It’s a matter of basic interest. For instance, if I find myself enamored with a woman who happens to be in a happy, fulfilling relationship with someone else, I shouldn't be miserable about it. Instead, I should feel a sense of satisfaction knowing she is making choices that she believes are best for her own life. If what we call "love" doesn't include the element found in point 2 of that Hegelian Quote, then in my view, it isn't actually love at all.

I’ll double down on that point. I probably wasn't clear enough when I brought it up before.
"Look for ways to justify what benefits the community by pointing to the good of the individual, and conversely, justify what serves the individual by claiming it serves the greater good..."
My intention was simple: to weigh the collective against the individual, all from the perspective of a single person who actually takes responsibility for their own actions and strives to improve them.

Take, for example, an instance where someone evaluates their own conduct through the lens of both personal interest and the greater good.

There’s this high schooler out there—someone like me, I suppose—who actually gets a kick out of grinding through math and logic. He genuinely enjoys the mental friction, that feeling of sharpening his intellect against a tough problem. But let's be honest: he's lazy. Getting himself to actually sit down and focus is an uphill battle every single time. Yet, once he finally forces the issue? It clicks. He finds a certain rhythm in the reasoning, a sense of satisfaction in the discovery. He knows, deep down, that this discipline is good for him. Looking at the landscape of the American economy, he sees a glaring shortage of engineers and mathematicians. He realizes that by mastering these fields, he isn't just helping himself—he's doing something useful for the country.
It’s also clear that many people struggle to grasp the situation, which only confirms why it’s actually in their best interest to...
Can someone please break down the prefixes for me? I need a clear, entertaining explanation. Also, let’s try to keep things upbeat—I’m trying to make my parents proud here.
His successes in math and logic serve as more than just accolades; they’re the fuel driving him to push even further.

When you look at it that way, a person actually finds more reasons to adjust their behavior. It leads to a much stronger sense of duty—both to oneself and to the common good.

Lawrence Robinson5 As stated by:
Your logical addition is on the right track... but it’s walking straight into a trap. Sometimes, doing what is absolutely necessary for my own sake ends up hurting the people I love most. And sometimes, that necessity isn't driven by malice or selfishness—it's just a fundamental requirement for survival. It’s a personal necessity that, quite frankly, hurts me just as much as anyone else.
So, how could this possibly be a win for me? Well—it works, provided we aren't being shortsighted. Sometimes, making the right call for the long haul requires paying a painful price upfront. And if the decision is truly sound, that cost ends up looking laughably small in hindsight.

I don't buy the idea that my ultimate happiness has to be built on the suffering of someone I love. It just doesn't sit right with me.
But then again, I'm just a fool anyway. 😁 It’s a mistake to discuss these topics in such broad, sweeping generalities. It’s much more compelling to observe how lofty, high-minded ideas actually behave when they're squeezed by the messy realities of a specific case. If you have a solid example that illustrates what you wrote, I'd be interested in reading it.

There’s no such thing as "better" or "worse" here. It’s all relative. The only real question worth asking is which good is more vital—which one takes precedence? Or, more bluntly, which good are we willing to sacrifice when they inevitably clash?
Better, more important, primary, high priority, justified, valuable... When you're dealing with questions like this, it all feels like semantic hair-splitting to me.

It could be either.
If we’re strictly looking at the logical structure of the question, then yes—in an inclusive disjunction, they can.
But when you look at what's actually being said, the first part ("exclude") inherently negates the second, making it impossible for both to be true at once.šŸ˜› šŸ™‚

P.S. This thread is heading down a dead end if we keep chasing these vague generalities.
My goal here is to find answers within the constraints of everyday life—to figure out how an individual can reach an optimal balance with the greater good.

šŸ™‚
I don't follow your logic above, but here's my take: Let's assume "the common good" is clearly defined. Of course, any single person's individual good either aligns with that common good or it doesn't. But while some people's interests align perfectly with the collective good, others' interests often clash with it. In that sense, "both can be true."
Better, more important, primary, high priority, justified, valuable... When you're dealing with questions like this, it all feels like semantic hair-splitting to me.

It could be either.
If we’re strictly looking at the logical structure of the question, then yes—in an inclusive disjunction, they can.
But when you look at what's actually being said, the first part ("exclude") inherently negates the second, making it impossible for both to be true at once.šŸ˜› šŸ™‚

P.S. This thread is heading down a dead end if we keep chasing these vague generalities.
My goal here is to find answers within the constraints of everyday life—to figure out how an individual can reach an optimal balance with the greater good.

šŸ™‚
I don't follow your logic above, but here's my take: Let's assume "the common good" is clearly defined. Of course, any single person's individual good either aligns with that common good or it doesn't. But while some people's interests align perfectly with the collective good, others' interests often clash with it. In that sense, "both can be true."
Fair point. Just ignore my previous rambling; I was just talking nonsense... šŸ˜‰
steelridge58 steelridge58 Regular
397 messages
joined Mar 2008
#18 ·
Amy Cook71 said:Love fits right in here, doesn't it? Just perfectly.[/I]

Love is the driver, the motivation, and ultimately the reward. I wanted to hear that from someone else—to see those words typed out by another person's hands. It just feels more genuine that way. šŸ™‚

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Sure, but I wouldn't go so far as to call the pursuit of 1) and 2) "love." It's more like...
Striving. šŸ™‚ I’d call that striving toward the third option nothing less than love.

I fear that when people fall in love, they often stumble right into that trap mentioned in Hegel’s second point. It feels like a lack of balance. However, in deep friendship—or in the bond between a parent and a child—that conflict seems to vanish. In those cases, we tend to weigh the needs of those we love just as heavily as our own. Even when our interests clash, we usually try to find a middle ground that hurts the least.

If multiple people happen to fall for the same individual, then logically, that person ought to be someone of genuine substance. It’s a matter of basic interest. For instance, if I find myself enamored with a woman who happens to be in a happy, fulfilling relationship with someone else, I shouldn't be miserable about it. Instead, I should feel a sense of satisfaction knowing she is making choices that she believes are best for her own life. If what we call "love" doesn't include the element found in point 2 of that Hegelian Quote, then in my view, it isn't actually love at all.

I’ll double down on that point. I probably wasn't clear enough when I brought it up before.
"Look for ways to justify what benefits the community by pointing to the good of the individual, and conversely, justify what serves the individual by claiming it serves the greater good..."
My intention was simple: to weigh the collective against the individual, all from the perspective of a single person who actually takes responsibility for their own actions and strives to improve them.

Take, for example, an instance where someone evaluates their own conduct through the lens of both personal interest and the greater good.

There’s this high schooler out there—someone like me, I suppose—who actually gets a kick out of grinding through math and logic. He genuinely enjoys the mental friction, that feeling of sharpening his intellect against a tough problem. But let's be honest: he's lazy. Getting himself to actually sit down and focus is an uphill battle every single time. Yet, once he finally forces the issue? It clicks. He finds a certain rhythm in the reasoning, a sense of satisfaction in the discovery. He knows, deep down, that this discipline is good for him. Looking at the landscape of the American economy, he sees a glaring shortage of engineers and mathematicians. He realizes that by mastering these fields, he isn't just helping himself—he's doing something useful for the country.
It’s also clear that many people struggle to grasp the situation, which only confirms why it’s actually in their best interest to...
Can someone please break down the prefixes for me? I need a clear, entertaining explanation. Also, let’s try to keep things upbeat—I’m trying to make my parents proud here.
His successes in math and logic serve as more than just accolades; they’re the fuel driving him to push even further.

When you look at it that way, a person actually finds more reasons to adjust their behavior. It leads to a much stronger sense of duty—both to oneself and to the common good.

Lawrence Robinson5 As stated by:
Your logical addition is on the right track... but it’s walking straight into a trap. Sometimes, doing what is absolutely necessary for my own sake ends up hurting the people I love most. And sometimes, that necessity isn't driven by malice or selfishness—it's just a fundamental requirement for survival. It’s a personal necessity that, quite frankly, hurts me just as much as anyone else.
So, how could this possibly be a win for me? Well—it works, provided we aren't being shortsighted. Sometimes, making the right call for the long haul requires paying a painful price upfront. And if the decision is truly sound, that cost ends up looking laughably small in hindsight.

I don't buy the idea that my ultimate happiness has to be built on the suffering of someone I love. It just doesn't sit right with me.
But then again, I'm just a fool anyway. 😁 It’s a mistake to discuss these topics in such broad, sweeping generalities. It’s much more compelling to observe how lofty, high-minded ideas actually behave when they're squeezed by the messy realities of a specific case. If you have a solid example that illustrates what you wrote, I'd be interested in reading it.

There’s no such thing as "better" or "worse" here. It’s all relative. The only real question worth asking is which good is more vital—which one takes precedence? Or, more bluntly, which good are we willing to sacrifice when they inevitably clash?
Better, more important, primary, high priority, justified, valuable... When you're dealing with questions like this, it all feels like semantic hair-splitting to me.

It could be either.
If we’re strictly looking at the logical structure of the question, then yes—in an inclusive disjunction, they can.
But when you look at what's actually being said, the first part ("exclude") inherently negates the second, making it impossible for both to be true at once.šŸ˜› šŸ™‚

P.S. This thread is heading down a dead end if we keep chasing these vague generalities.
My goal here is to find answers within the constraints of everyday life—to figure out how an individual can reach an optimal balance with the greater good.

šŸ™‚
If multiple people happen to fall for the same individual, then logically, that person ought to be someone of genuine substance. It’s a matter of basic interest. For instance, if I find myself enamored with a woman who happens to be in a happy, fulfilling relationship with someone else, I shouldn't be miserable about it. Instead, I should feel a sense of satisfaction knowing she is making choices that she believes are best for her own life. If what we call "love" doesn't include the element found in point 2 of that Hegelian Quote, then in my view, it isn't actually love at all.

I’ll double down on that point. I probably wasn't clear enough when I brought it up before.
"Look for ways to justify what benefits the community by pointing to the good of the individual, and conversely, justify what serves the individual by claiming it serves the greater good..."
My intention was simple: to weigh the collective against the individual, all from the perspective of a single person who actually takes responsibility for their own actions and strives to improve them.

Take, for example, an instance where someone evaluates their own conduct through the lens of both personal interest and the greater good.

There’s this high schooler out there—someone like me, I suppose—who actually gets a kick out of grinding through math and logic. He genuinely enjoys the mental friction, that feeling of sharpening his intellect against a tough problem. But let's be honest: he's lazy. Getting himself to actually sit down and focus is an uphill battle every single time. Yet, once he finally forces the issue? It clicks. He finds a certain rhythm in the reasoning, a sense of satisfaction in the discovery. He knows, deep down, that this discipline is good for him. Looking at the landscape of the American economy, he sees a glaring shortage of engineers and mathematicians. He realizes that by mastering these fields, he isn't just helping himself—he's doing something useful for the country.
It’s also clear that many people struggle to grasp the situation, which only confirms why it’s actually in their best interest to...
Can someone please break down the prefixes for me? I need a clear, entertaining explanation. Also, let’s try to keep things upbeat—I’m trying to make my parents proud here.
His successes in math and logic serve as more than just accolades; they’re the fuel driving him to push even further.

When you look at it that way, a person actually finds more reasons to adjust their behavior. It leads to a much stronger sense of duty—both to oneself and to the common good.

Lawrence Robinson5 As stated by:
Your logical addition is on the right track... but it’s walking straight into a trap. Sometimes, doing what is absolutely necessary for my own sake ends up hurting the people I love most. And sometimes, that necessity isn't driven by malice or selfishness—it's just a fundamental requirement for survival. It’s a personal necessity that, quite frankly, hurts me just as much as anyone else.
So, how could this possibly be a win for me? Well—it works, provided we aren't being shortsighted. Sometimes, making the right call for the long haul requires paying a painful price upfront. And if the decision is truly sound, that cost ends up looking laughably small in hindsight.

I don't buy the idea that my ultimate happiness has to be built on the suffering of someone I love. It just doesn't sit right with me.
But then again, I'm just a fool anyway. 😁 It’s a mistake to discuss these topics in such broad, sweeping generalities. It’s much more compelling to observe how lofty, high-minded ideas actually behave when they're squeezed by the messy realities of a specific case. If you have a solid example that illustrates what you wrote, I'd be interested in reading it.

There’s no such thing as "better" or "worse" here. It’s all relative. The only real question worth asking is which good is more vital—which one takes precedence? Or, more bluntly, which good are we willing to sacrifice when they inevitably clash?
Better, more important, primary, high priority, justified, valuable... When you're dealing with questions like this, it all feels like semantic hair-splitting to me.

It could be either.
If we’re strictly looking at the logical structure of the question, then yes—in an inclusive disjunction, they can.
But when you look at what's actually being said, the first part ("exclude") inherently negates the second, making it impossible for both to be true at once.šŸ˜› šŸ™‚

P.S. This thread is heading down a dead end if we keep chasing these vague generalities.
My goal here is to find answers within the constraints of everyday life—to figure out how an individual can reach an optimal balance with the greater good.

šŸ™‚
If multiple people happen to fall for the same individual, then logically, that person ought to be someone of genuine substance. It’s a matter of basic interest. For instance, if I find myself enamored with a woman who happens to be in a happy, fulfilling relationship with someone else, I shouldn't be miserable about it. Instead, I should feel a sense of satisfaction knowing she is making choices that she believes are best for her own life. If what we call "love" doesn't include the element found in point 2 of that Hegelian Quote, then in my view, it isn't actually love at all.

I’ll double down on that point. I probably wasn't clear enough when I brought it up before.
"Look for ways to justify what benefits the community by pointing to the good of the individual, and conversely, justify what serves the individual by claiming it serves the greater good..."
My intention was simple: to weigh the collective against the individual, all from the perspective of a single person who actually takes responsibility for their own actions and strives to improve them.

Take, for example, an instance where someone evaluates their own conduct through the lens of both personal interest and the greater good.

There’s this high schooler out there—someone like me, I suppose—who actually gets a kick out of grinding through math and logic. He genuinely enjoys the mental friction, that feeling of sharpening his intellect against a tough problem. But let's be honest: he's lazy. Getting himself to actually sit down and focus is an uphill battle every single time. Yet, once he finally forces the issue? It clicks. He finds a certain rhythm in the reasoning, a sense of satisfaction in the discovery. He knows, deep down, that this discipline is good for him. Looking at the landscape of the American economy, he sees a glaring shortage of engineers and mathematicians. He realizes that by mastering these fields, he isn't just helping himself—he's doing something useful for the country.
It’s also clear that many people struggle to grasp the situation, which only confirms why it’s actually in their best interest to...
Can someone please break down the prefixes for me? I need a clear, entertaining explanation. Also, let’s try to keep things upbeat—I’m trying to make my parents proud here.
His successes in math and logic serve as more than just accolades; they’re the fuel driving him to push even further.

When you look at it that way, a person actually finds more reasons to adjust their behavior. It leads to a much stronger sense of duty—both to oneself and to the common good.

Lawrence Robinson5 As stated by:
Your logical addition is on the right track... but it’s walking straight into a trap. Sometimes, doing what is absolutely necessary for my own sake ends up hurting the people I love most. And sometimes, that necessity isn't driven by malice or selfishness—it's just a fundamental requirement for survival. It’s a personal necessity that, quite frankly, hurts me just as much as anyone else.
So, how could this possibly be a win for me? Well—it works, provided we aren't being shortsighted. Sometimes, making the right call for the long haul requires paying a painful price upfront. And if the decision is truly sound, that cost ends up looking laughably small in hindsight.

I don't buy the idea that my ultimate happiness has to be built on the suffering of someone I love. It just doesn't sit right with me.
But then again, I'm just a fool anyway. 😁 It’s a mistake to discuss these topics in such broad, sweeping generalities. It’s much more compelling to observe how lofty, high-minded ideas actually behave when they're squeezed by the messy realities of a specific case. If you have a solid example that illustrates what you wrote, I'd be interested in reading it.

There’s no such thing as "better" or "worse" here. It’s all relative. The only real question worth asking is which good is more vital—which one takes precedence? Or, more bluntly, which good are we willing to sacrifice when they inevitably clash?
Better, more important, primary, high priority, justified, valuable... When you're dealing with questions like this, it all feels like semantic hair-splitting to me.

It could be either.
If we’re strictly looking at the logical structure of the question, then yes—in an inclusive disjunction, they can.
But when you look at what's actually being said, the first part ("exclude") inherently negates the second, making it impossible for both to be true at once.šŸ˜› šŸ™‚

P.S. This thread is heading down a dead end if we keep chasing these vague generalities.
My goal here is to find answers within the constraints of everyday life—to figure out how an individual can reach an optimal balance with the greater good.

šŸ™‚
The thing is, every time someone references a specific number from a Quote, I find myself having to dig through old posts just to find where those points were originally listed—scrolling back and forth through 1, 2, and 3—just so I can wrap my head around what you're actually talking about.

It would be a huge help if we could make this a little more straightforward... šŸ™‚
Jonathan Brooks8 Jonathan Brooks8 Active Member
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#19 ·
It’s a purely theoretical question—every real-world scenario is its own unique beast, after all—but still... when we act out of genuine concern for others, even if that means total self-sacrifice at our own expense, we are essentially looking out for ourselves in the long run. Why? Because we are establishing a standard that others within the community will eventually apply back to us. There is an old American adage that "kindness begets kindness," which serves as a broad moral framework, and from a strictly mathematical or logical standpoint, it actually 😁 holds up—it creates a closed loop. Spiritually speaking, it is the very essence of self-renewal.

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