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mistynomad5 mistynomad5 MemberOP
16 messages
joined Jul 2007
#1 ·
I don't be under any illusions that this post will change anyone's mind—it likely won't open many eyes—but it’s been weighing on my mind, and I need to get it out there.🙂
I'm relatively new to Reddit, and over the last few days, I've had the chance to observe quite a bit. There have been plenty of beautiful, positive, and encouraging moments, but also a fair amount of ugliness.
Let's start with the good stuff:
I truly appreciate seeing so many people here who genuinely want to help others—whether it's through advice, sharing knowledge, or offering their own life experiences.
In my opinion, it’s people like that who make life worth living. Even when you lose faith in humanity, or when bitterness starts to take hold and you feel like there's no goodness left in the world, you get those pleasant surprises that pull you back.

Now for the ugly side:

I honestly don't get how some members treat everyone else here. There's this pervasive negativity and a sense of snobbery—this artificial hierarchy being established between regular users, moderators, and admins. To be perfectly honest, I don't see a difference anywhere; we are all just people, and the only thing that should separate us is our character, nothing else.
People constantly jump at the chance to mock, ridicule, or belittle someone else (and just to be clear, I'm not acting as anyone's defense attorney here).
Before the moderators here start lecturing me about how sometimes one has to be blunt with members, let me just say: there is absolutely no need for that kind of explanation.
I understand what it means to be an admin or a moderator—I know how much work goes into deleting posts and cleaning up after users. I get it.
But being a moderator is a volunteer role, and in many ways, they should be setting the standard for the rest of the community. They should show us how things are done and, above all, ensure that members aren't tearing each other apart.

I'll take this opportunity to quote one of the mods; her words really gave me pause:

"Do you know the two greatest sins one can commit in society and conversation? Being boring and having no sense of humor. I'm afraid you suffer from both."

Are people really categorized that way now?
Is that truly the ultimate sin?
Is it really a crime if someone isn't as highly educated as everyone else, or if they struggle to express themselves perfectly? It seems the self-proclaimed academics here find it difficult to tolerate anything less than perfect prose.
Why is the spotlight always shone on these trivialities? Isn't it more important that this little corner of the internet provides a space where people generally get along?
Where people find community, conversation, comfort, and friendship.
Isn't that the whole point and purpose of forums like this?

I don't know anyone here yet, and I can't judge people solely based on their posts, but so far, two individuals have stood out to me. When I read their contributions, I see strong characters and genuinely good people.
Those would be Daniel Ward87 and Roger Evans.

Reading this forum lately, I get the impression that only those with fancy degrees are welcome—those who can flaunt their intellect—while the rest of us mere "mortals," especially those brave enough to hold an opinion, are looked down upon.

Who gets to measure how much intelligence someone possesses?
Who decides who is literate enough?
Isn't it more vital that we act as human beings, that we strengthen our shared communication, build bridges between different walks of life, and foster friendships?

So, I realize this is a long post, and perhaps my grammar isn't exactly top-tier.😁
But I'm writing what is in my heart, what my soul tells me, and in those moments, grammar and spelling don't really have a place.😁
I'd love to hear your thoughts. You've all been here much longer than I have; you know the people and the general climate of this place better than I do.
boldjackal10 boldjackal10 Member
39 messages
joined Dec 2009
#2 ·
Look, just like every other newbie hitting up Reddit, you show up with this big vision of how things should work and a million questions about why we don't do stuff "this way" instead. Honestly? You're just tilting at windmills. Things here run the way they run. Don't sweat the small stuff too much—just ride the wave and you'll realize it’s not nearly as bad as you thought when you first arrived.
Man, I don't know what kind of utopia you're expecting from an online forum. This isn't some place where everyone lives in harmony and total understanding. Forget it. If you're just looking for a way to kill some time and have a little fun, drop those high expectations for "super intelligent communication" or trying to build bridges between nations and people. I mean, sure, maybe it happens once in a blue moon, but don't count on it.
mistynomad5 mistynomad5 MemberOP
16 messages
joined Jul 2007
#3 ·
boldjackal10 said:Look, just like every other newbie hitting up Reddit, you show up with this big vision of how things should work and a million questions about why we don't do stuff "this way" instead. Honestly? You're just tilting at windmills. Things here run the way they run. Don't sweat the small stuff too much—just ride the wave and you'll realize it’s not nearly as bad as you thought when you first arrived.
Man, I don't know what kind of utopia you're expecting from an online forum. This isn't some place where everyone lives in harmony and total understanding. Forget it. If you're just looking for a way to kill some time and have a little fun, drop those high expectations for "super intelligent communication" or trying to build bridges between nations and people. I mean, sure, maybe it happens once in a blue moon, but don't count on it.


Maybe.
But let's be real—we all started somewhere. Even the veterans here were once the "new guys" with their own little visions of how things ought to be.
Look, I'll admit it: I'm an idealist (though I seem to be losing that trait by the day). I don't expect anything specific from a forum like this, but if I see something unfair, I can't help but push back against it.😍
A Anonymous Veteran
3.6K messages
joined May 2005
#4 ·
I’ve read through everything 🙂

Look, I’ve been hanging around this site for a while now 🙄

Obviously, you’re going to find both the good and the bad, but that’s just how life works... except here, everyone has an open line to everyone else...

You can't really see someone's true emotions through a post, no matter how many emojis they throw in there. It leads to those awkward moments where someone gets offended because they think they're being attacked, when really, they just missed the irony...

Think of this as your primary spot for kicking back—it's meant for downtime, not a classroom setting...

So just have fun and enjoy yourself. If you stumble onto something great, celebrate it. If something sucks, just brush it off and move on...
mistynomad5 mistynomad5 MemberOP
16 messages
joined Jul 2007
#5 ·
Anonymous said:I’ve read through everything 🙂

Look, I’ve been hanging around this site for a while now 🙄

Obviously, you’re going to find both the good and the bad, but that’s just how life works... except here, everyone has an open line to everyone else...

You can't really see someone's true emotions through a post, no matter how many emojis they throw in there. It leads to those awkward moments where someone gets offended because they think they're being attacked, when really, they just missed the irony...

Think of this as your primary spot for kicking back—it's meant for downtime, not a classroom setting...

So just have fun and enjoy yourself. If you stumble onto something great, celebrate it. If something sucks, just brush it off and move on...


Are you exhausted from all that reading yet?😁
I agree that this is meant to be a place for fun, but sometimes it gives off this vibe like you're stuck in some strict boarding school—it’s actually a little intimidating. And honestly? I'm a bit of a scaredy-cat.🙂
And why does everything always have to be an obstacle course? Why can't we just look past all the nonsense we see—all the bad decisions people have made—and actually try to fix things? You know, for the sake of the individual, or even just for the greater good of everyone involved.
They wouldn't take even a single step toward making the world a better place—not if their lives depended on it.
A Anonymous Veteran
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joined May 2005
#6 ·
mistynomad5 said:Are you exhausted from all that reading yet?😁
I agree that this is meant to be a place for fun, but sometimes it gives off this vibe like you're stuck in some strict boarding school—it’s actually a little intimidating. And honestly? I'm a bit of a scaredy-cat.🙂
And why does everything always have to be an obstacle course? Why can't we just look past all the nonsense we see—all the bad decisions people have made—and actually try to fix things? You know, for the sake of the individual, or even just for the greater good of everyone involved.
They wouldn't take even a single step toward making the world a better place—not if their lives depended on it.

Not even close,🙂 😁not tired at all.

Look, helping people is great... but if you can see it's just not working... why kill yourself over it?😎

A strict school? Please—rules exist everywhere.

I’m not saying you should go overboard with everything, but I mean when someone is clearly and intentionally trying to stir up trouble—just plain old drama... it’s really not worth getting worked up over that nonsense.
neonhound10 neonhound10 Active Member
126 messages
joined Aug 2009
#7 ·
If you can't beat 'em, join 'em.

And even then, you’re just going to end up assimilating anyway, because at the end of the day, we're all basically BORG...
mistynomad5 mistynomad5 MemberOP
16 messages
joined Jul 2007
#8 ·
neonhound10 said:If you can't beat 'em, join 'em.

And even then, you’re just going to end up assimilating anyway, because at the end of the day, we're all basically BORG...

Hmm...
I wouldn't say I've been assimilated here yet—nobody’s actually launched an attack on me, and if anyone tries, well, I know how to hold my own.😁
neonhound10 neonhound10 Active Member
126 messages
joined Aug 2009
#9 ·
Oh, come on now. It’s honestly silly to stress out about things before they even happen... When people start throwing insults around, all it really does is reveal their true character, especially when those attacks are totally unprovoked.

I do think there are times when you need to push back more forcefully, too. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with standing your ground when it matters...

As the saying goes, sometimes you have to wrestle with Bogey just to prove the strength of your faith.

In that same way, a strong reaction can be a wake-up call for a decent person who just didn't quite get it, but if someone is completely incapable of understanding, then trying to explain yourself to them is just a waste of breath...

So, really, there’s no reason for you to be worried, because you don't even know these people, and besides, you don't actually care about them anyway. It's perfectly natural to share what you've been through if you see someone else in a similar spot, just to help make their path a little easier...

From what I've gathered around here, I haven't run into a single serious debate yet; everything just seems to devolve into a contest of who can act smarter than the other person.

It's incredibly easy to point fingers, but defending yourself is much harder. Because of that, the people doing the attacking and accusing always seem to hold the upper hand over whoever is trying to defend a position, which gives this false impression that the aggressor is right, when in reality, they couldn't be more wrong...
Roger Evans Roger Evans Member
22 messages
joined May 2008
#10 ·
mistynomad5

Thanks for the kind words, 😍 😘

I’m with you on everything you said—but honestly, I've learned that life just tends to be pretty gray sometimes...

Reddit is basically just like life—one minute it's ugly, one minute it's sad, then it's fun, then it's toxic, then it's actually good and empathetic, or just plain trash... I could go on...

As for you, just stay brave—speak your mind, write what you think, and know that you fit right in 😉 👍
mistynomad5 mistynomad5 MemberOP
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joined Jul 2007
#11 ·
neonhound10 said:Oh, come on now. It’s honestly silly to stress out about things before they even happen... When people start throwing insults around, all it really does is reveal their true character, especially when those attacks are totally unprovoked.

I do think there are times when you need to push back more forcefully, too. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with standing your ground when it matters...

As the saying goes, sometimes you have to wrestle with Bogey just to prove the strength of your faith.

In that same way, a strong reaction can be a wake-up call for a decent person who just didn't quite get it, but if someone is completely incapable of understanding, then trying to explain yourself to them is just a waste of breath...

So, really, there’s no reason for you to be worried, because you don't even know these people, and besides, you don't actually care about them anyway. It's perfectly natural to share what you've been through if you see someone else in a similar spot, just to help make their path a little easier...

From what I've gathered around here, I haven't run into a single serious debate yet; everything just seems to devolve into a contest of who can act smarter than the other person.

It's incredibly easy to point fingers, but defending yourself is much harder. Because of that, the people doing the attacking and accusing always seem to hold the upper hand over whoever is trying to defend a position, which gives this false impression that the aggressor is right, when in reality, they couldn't be more wrong...

It's true—I don't know you all personally, but I do care about people; I'm not some cold, indifferent soul.
I get where you're coming from, I really do. I just find myself wondering constantly (and not just regarding Reddit) how people can actually act like that.
What do we actually gain by trying to outsmart everyone else? Does it make us more popular in social circles or something?
Of course, the real question is what some people are willing to do—like sucking up to others just to squeeze their way into those "elite" social groups.
Anyway, thanks for sharing your thoughts.👍
mistynomad5 mistynomad5 MemberOP
16 messages
joined Jul 2007
#12 ·
Roger Evans said:mistynomad5

Thanks for the kind words, 😍 😘

I’m with you on everything you said—but honestly, I've learned that life just tends to be pretty gray sometimes...

Reddit is basically just like life—one minute it's ugly, one minute it's sad, then it's fun, then it's toxic, then it's actually good and empathetic, or just plain trash... I could go on...

As for you, just stay brave—speak your mind, write what you think, and know that you fit right in 😉 👍

Oh, don't worry about thanking me—it’s just how I feel. Your personality really struck a chord with me, and I have a lot of respect for people like you.👍
I've always been the type to speak my mind, but you're mistaken if you think being blunt makes it any easier to "fit in." In fact, it's usually the exact opposite—not everyone enjoys someone who insists on having such a distinct sense of self.😁
Roger Evans Roger Evans Member
22 messages
joined May 2008
#13 ·
mistynomad5 said:Oh, don't worry about thanking me—it’s just how I feel. Your personality really struck a chord with me, and I have a lot of respect for people like you.👍
I've always been the type to speak my mind, but you're mistaken if you think being blunt makes it any easier to "fit in." In fact, it's usually the exact opposite—not everyone enjoys someone who insists on having such a distinct sense of self.😁

Totally agree, though my take is more like... WHO CARES!!
I can't—and honestly don't want to—change how people see me or bend over backwards to please everyone.
I’m just gonna be myself, whether people like it or not. At the end of the day, the people who actually matter will accept me for who I am, and as for everyone else? Like I said, who cares...
mistynomad5 mistynomad5 MemberOP
16 messages
joined Jul 2007
#14 ·
Roger Evans said:Totally agree, though my take is more like... WHO CARES!!
I can't—and honestly don't want to—change how people see me or bend over backwards to please everyone.
I’m just gonna be myself, whether people like it or not. At the end of the day, the people who actually matter will accept me for who I am, and as for everyone else? Like I said, who cares...

Heh, I know—that's why people usually call me a rebel and a wild card.🤣 😍
Just keep being you.👍
Dennis White2 Dennis White2 Member
11 messages
joined Jul 2007
#15 ·
mistynomad5 said:I don't be under any illusions that this post will change anyone's mind—it likely won't open many eyes—but it’s been weighing on my mind, and I need to get it out there.🙂
I'm relatively new to Reddit, and over the last few days, I've had the chance to observe quite a bit. There have been plenty of beautiful, positive, and encouraging moments, but also a fair amount of ugliness.
Let's start with the good stuff:
I truly appreciate seeing so many people here who genuinely want to help others—whether it's through advice, sharing knowledge, or offering their own life experiences.
In my opinion, it’s people like that who make life worth living. Even when you lose faith in humanity, or when bitterness starts to take hold and you feel like there's no goodness left in the world, you get those pleasant surprises that pull you back.

Now for the ugly side:

I honestly don't get how some members treat everyone else here. There's this pervasive negativity and a sense of snobbery—this artificial hierarchy being established between regular users, moderators, and admins. To be perfectly honest, I don't see a difference anywhere; we are all just people, and the only thing that should separate us is our character, nothing else.
People constantly jump at the chance to mock, ridicule, or belittle someone else (and just to be clear, I'm not acting as anyone's defense attorney here).
Before the moderators here start lecturing me about how sometimes one has to be blunt with members, let me just say: there is absolutely no need for that kind of explanation.
I understand what it means to be an admin or a moderator—I know how much work goes into deleting posts and cleaning up after users. I get it.
But being a moderator is a volunteer role, and in many ways, they should be setting the standard for the rest of the community. They should show us how things are done and, above all, ensure that members aren't tearing each other apart.

I'll take this opportunity to quote one of the mods; her words really gave me pause:

"Do you know the two greatest sins one can commit in society and conversation? Being boring and having no sense of humor. I'm afraid you suffer from both."

Are people really categorized that way now?
Is that truly the ultimate sin?
Is it really a crime if someone isn't as highly educated as everyone else, or if they struggle to express themselves perfectly? It seems the self-proclaimed academics here find it difficult to tolerate anything less than perfect prose.
Why is the spotlight always shone on these trivialities? Isn't it more important that this little corner of the internet provides a space where people generally get along?
Where people find community, conversation, comfort, and friendship.
Isn't that the whole point and purpose of forums like this?

I don't know anyone here yet, and I can't judge people solely based on their posts, but so far, two individuals have stood out to me. When I read their contributions, I see strong characters and genuinely good people.
Those would be Daniel Ward87 and Roger Evans.

Reading this forum lately, I get the impression that only those with fancy degrees are welcome—those who can flaunt their intellect—while the rest of us mere "mortals," especially those brave enough to hold an opinion, are looked down upon.

Who gets to measure how much intelligence someone possesses?
Who decides who is literate enough?
Isn't it more vital that we act as human beings, that we strengthen our shared communication, build bridges between different walks of life, and foster friendships?

So, I realize this is a long post, and perhaps my grammar isn't exactly top-tier.😁
But I'm writing what is in my heart, what my soul tells me, and in those moments, grammar and spelling don't really have a place.😁
I'd love to hear your thoughts. You've all been here much longer than I have; you know the people and the general climate of this place better than I do.

I second this. 🙂👍
mistybison mistybison Regular
495 messages
joined Aug 2008
#16 ·
mistynomad5 said:I don't be under any illusions that this post will change anyone's mind—it likely won't open many eyes—but it’s been weighing on my mind, and I need to get it out there.🙂
I'm relatively new to Reddit, and over the last few days, I've had the chance to observe quite a bit. There have been plenty of beautiful, positive, and encouraging moments, but also a fair amount of ugliness.
Let's start with the good stuff:
I truly appreciate seeing so many people here who genuinely want to help others—whether it's through advice, sharing knowledge, or offering their own life experiences.
In my opinion, it’s people like that who make life worth living. Even when you lose faith in humanity, or when bitterness starts to take hold and you feel like there's no goodness left in the world, you get those pleasant surprises that pull you back.

Now for the ugly side:

I honestly don't get how some members treat everyone else here. There's this pervasive negativity and a sense of snobbery—this artificial hierarchy being established between regular users, moderators, and admins. To be perfectly honest, I don't see a difference anywhere; we are all just people, and the only thing that should separate us is our character, nothing else.
People constantly jump at the chance to mock, ridicule, or belittle someone else (and just to be clear, I'm not acting as anyone's defense attorney here).
Before the moderators here start lecturing me about how sometimes one has to be blunt with members, let me just say: there is absolutely no need for that kind of explanation.
I understand what it means to be an admin or a moderator—I know how much work goes into deleting posts and cleaning up after users. I get it.
But being a moderator is a volunteer role, and in many ways, they should be setting the standard for the rest of the community. They should show us how things are done and, above all, ensure that members aren't tearing each other apart.

I'll take this opportunity to quote one of the mods; her words really gave me pause:

"Do you know the two greatest sins one can commit in society and conversation? Being boring and having no sense of humor. I'm afraid you suffer from both."

Are people really categorized that way now?
Is that truly the ultimate sin?
Is it really a crime if someone isn't as highly educated as everyone else, or if they struggle to express themselves perfectly? It seems the self-proclaimed academics here find it difficult to tolerate anything less than perfect prose.
Why is the spotlight always shone on these trivialities? Isn't it more important that this little corner of the internet provides a space where people generally get along?
Where people find community, conversation, comfort, and friendship.
Isn't that the whole point and purpose of forums like this?

I don't know anyone here yet, and I can't judge people solely based on their posts, but so far, two individuals have stood out to me. When I read their contributions, I see strong characters and genuinely good people.
Those would be Daniel Ward87 and Roger Evans.

Reading this forum lately, I get the impression that only those with fancy degrees are welcome—those who can flaunt their intellect—while the rest of us mere "mortals," especially those brave enough to hold an opinion, are looked down upon.

Who gets to measure how much intelligence someone possesses?
Who decides who is literate enough?
Isn't it more vital that we act as human beings, that we strengthen our shared communication, build bridges between different walks of life, and foster friendships?

So, I realize this is a long post, and perhaps my grammar isn't exactly top-tier.😁
But I'm writing what is in my heart, what my soul tells me, and in those moments, grammar and spelling don't really have a place.😁
I'd love to hear your thoughts. You've all been here much longer than I have; you know the people and the general climate of this place better than I do.

Does that imply the rest of us lack character or good intentions? 😠

I meant this as a joke, intended to demonstrate how awkward certain communication styles can be and how easily someone's words can be misinterpreted. 😉

I would love to hear your thoughts. Since you all have been on Reddit longer than I have, you certainly understand the community and its overall vibe better than I do.

Reddit is just like the real world—it’s full of different personalities, and you encounter all sorts of situations where you have to hold your own. In life, we aren't always coddled; we often have to deal with bluntness and learn how to stand our ground and carve out our own space. 🙂
mistynomad5 mistynomad5 MemberOP
16 messages
joined Jul 2007
#17 ·
mistybison;9352285 said:So, does that mean the rest of us aren't decent people with good character? 😠

Look, that was meant to be a joke—just a little experiment to show how clumsy this style of communication can be and how easily someone’s words can be twisted. 😉

Sure, but that only happens if we choose to take things the wrong way. Sometimes, honestly, it feels pretty good to misinterpret someone just so we have an excuse to dump our own frustrations on them.
I said "FOR NOW," though I’m really hoping I can add plenty more names to this list later on.
I get the sense you all think I started this thread because of my own ego (well, partly, I suppose) or because I'm having some sort of issue with the site.
That isn't it. I just genuinely wish a community with such high engagement would actually take pride in that and stay aware of it.
Of course, there are plenty of idiots who jump in just to win arguments by sheer exhaustion, but there are more of us here who actually want to communicate in a normal, civil manner.
We need to nurture that environment—and while that’s the moderator's job, it’s really on every single one of us.
Daniel Ward87 Daniel Ward87 Active Member
195 messages
joined May 2023
#18 ·
Don't take Reddit—or honestly, any online community—too seriously if you're a member... It’s really just the perfect spot to swap ideas (which I think is the whole point) and have a little fun along the way... Of course, just like anywhere else in the world, this place follows a perfect Gauss's curve... You'll find every kind of person imaginable here...

Once you spend enough time hanging out, you quickly figure out who's on your wavelength, who's a total clown, and who's actually sharp and knows their stuff... it's everything... Think of the site as a digital town square where people just come together to "talk"...

And as for being the new kid on the block... well, I'm still pretty new myself... I only joined about four months ago... I showed up, read the room, opened up to the crew, and ended up sticking around... At first, I was just dropping my two cents on various threads, but now I've met a bunch of folks here who are genuinely interesting and great people... definitely expanded my circle...

Just don't get worked up over things... if someone goes overboard, you can always just hit ignore and move on without replying...

Have fun...

Daniel Ward87
Brian Baker32 Brian Baker32 Member
19 messages
joined Jul 2007
#19 ·
The only real sin here is being an asshole to people

Honestly, chatting on here feels a lot like therapy

You can get way more real because you feel anonymous, plus there’s a massive variety of people reading your stuff

It helps you figure out who people actually are, but just a heads up: don't ever take anything written on this site personally or too seriously😘
mistynomad5 mistynomad5 MemberOP
16 messages
joined Jul 2007
#20 ·
Brian Baker32 said:The only real sin here is being an asshole to people

Honestly, chatting on here feels a lot like therapy

You can get way more real because you feel anonymous, plus there’s a massive variety of people reading your stuff

It helps you figure out who people actually are, but just a heads up: don't ever take anything written on this site personally or too seriously😘

I agree—insulting a complete stranger for no reason is definitely a sin 👍

Hehe, it's strange... I mostly just get showered with love here 😁 😁

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