analogsurfer15 said:Exactly. Without reciprocity, you don't actually have a giver—you just have someone making an offer. There’s no receiver until they actually step up and take what's being offered.
A mugger isn't a "giver," and someone forcing something on you—like dumping trash in your yard—isn't a giver either. And if you actually pick up that trash? You aren't a receiver... you're just a fool.🙂
Little Bud starts out as an offerer, then becomes a giver once people show up to take, and eventually becomes a receiver once those takers start giving back. So, are we offering to give, or are we offering (and giving) just so we can receive?
Can you even truly be a giver without also being a receiver? Or do people who are *only* givers and *only* receivers actually exist in the real world? I'm thinking about it, really thinking... but I can't quite wrap my head around a real example...🙂
There’s also that old expression—offered as if it were accepted. 🙂
It’s that awkward moment when you try to give someone something, but they aren't interested, so you just sort of shrug and say, "well, consider it offered as received." 🙂 It’s this strange little middle ground between the giver and the receiver where the hand-off didn't quite land, 🙂 since nobody actually took anything, yet there wasn't a hard rejection either that would leave the giver feeling stung or insulted. It's honestly just a polite way to save face! It lets everyone maintain their freedom to give or refuse while still treating the gesture like a completed gift that did its job. 🙂
And sometimes, the person being offered something will use it too, saying "offered as received" to signal that, for all intents and purposes, they've accepted it. 🙂
It's basically just a verbal handshake to smooth things over.
*Thanks for bringing me into the conversation—consider me both offered and accepted.
