Emotional Intelligence

Does anyone have any good recommendations for books on EQ in English?
Where have you guys actually applied this stuff in the real world if you've used it, or anything else related to EQ...
There’s been so much buzz about EQ lately that I'm curious to hear what everyone else thinks about it all.

Cheers,

There’s this book called Emotional Intelligence—I can’t recall the author offhand, just Google it.

I actually studied EQ back in college. The takeaway was pretty clear: people with high emotional intelligence tend to crush it in their careers and life in general, often outperforming those who rely solely on raw IQ.

The core pillars of EQ are basically:
- understanding your own feelings
- managing the intensity of those emotions
- self-motivation—you know, that internal drive
- reading other people's emotions—empathy (which is huge)
- building and keeping solid relationships

I'll dig through my old coursework to see what else I can find. Might have more info later.🙂

Melissa Torres4 said:- knowing how you actually feel
- keeping those feelings from spiraling
- self-motivation—basically, finding that internal drive
- reading the room—empathy (huge part of EQ)
- building and keeping actual relationships with people

... yeah, sounds like I've still got a lot of work to do.

I was reading this book in American, translated from English. The author is some American guy, but I can't recall his name right now.

I've got the ISBN, the title, and the author's name somewhere. If nobody jumps in before then, I'll let you know tomorrow night. Sound good?

Vladimir Takšić's Doctorate: Construct Validation of Emotional Intelligence. 1998.
... You can probably find a copy at the Library of Congress.

When I first started my job, I picked up 'EQ at Work' by the same author...
🙂

I have a copy of *Emotional Intelligence* by Daniel Goleman. Not sure if it would be helpful to you. I could even sell it to you if you're in the Chicago area.👋

Thanks everyone,
Terry Parker15, I’m not actually from around here, so I’ll have to hit up the local library or a bookstore to track it down.

Did it actually help you—assuming you've got a kid—with the whole parenting thing and just talking to them?

Does anyone happen to know if there's an online version available? Maybe something in PDF format?

The core pillars of EQ include:
- understanding your own feelings
- managing the intensity of those emotions
- self-motivation—basically, having that internal drive
- picking up on what others are feeling—empathy (definitely one of the big ones when it comes to EQ)
- building and keeping up relationships with people

Basically, the jerks always seem to have an easier time. For instance, someone who thinks manipulating people is just part of the game, or views subtle threats as anything other than blackmail... they’re never going to get far.

How much resistance a person shows toward emotional intelligence directly impacts their ability to thrive, both in the office and in their social life.

Honestly, EQ feels a lot like those management books you see everywhere—just documented observations designed to make you think you'll suddenly become that person once you finish the last chapter. But in my view, if you weren't born with it, no book is going to fix you. It's probably better to just figure out what you're made of, accept the reality of it, and then find your own little corner in this messy social and professional world.

Does anyone here with a background in psychology or education have some book recommendations? Even just some popular reads... anything that dives into emotional intelligence in general would be great.

There is actually a book with that exact title—it was written by Daniel Goleman.

hmmmm... 🤔

isn't that just one of those phrases made up by people who aren't really all there?

it's kind of like when people say someone is "beautiful on the inside" because they're actually pretty rough looking, I guess... maybe you could say people call someone "brilliant on the inside" when they're actually just being dim-witted. 🙂

Hey quietdriver3, did you ever get around to reading that book?
There are people you wouldn't call stupid, per se, but they spiral and panic over every little thing. They spend their entire lives acting like that, which, when you think about it, is actually pretty idiotic.

jadetinker85 said:So, quietdriver3, did you ever actually get around to reading that book?

A book, huh? I wonder if you could even turn that into a video or something... 😛

jadetinker85 said:There are certain people who aren't exactly dim-witted, but they just freak out and panic over every little thing, and honestly, spending your whole life like that is pretty stupid in the end.

Hmmmm... so what you're saying is, maybe hypochondriacs are just emotionally less intelligent than everyone else????? 😕

😉

quietdriver3 said:A book? Can you actually turn that into a video?? 😛

Ugh, maybe. I think there was some documentary about this a few years back.

Hmmmm.. are you saying hypochondriacs are emotionally less intelligent than everyone else????? 😕

😉 [/B]

Well, uhm, 🤔 hypochondria is an illness, so I don't know how you look at it. I think hypochondriacs know they aren't actually sick, but they're still freaking out.

Look, let's keep it simple. Anyone who spends most of their life stressing out, panicking, or just being self-destructive is acting foolishly, even if they're otherwise great at handling new situations. 😁
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jadetinker85 said:Look, let's just keep it simple. I guess anyone who spends most of their life stressed out, constantly anxious, or just generally making themselves miserable is kind of acting foolishly... even if they're actually pretty sharp at handling new situations when they pop up.

But why though??

Maybe they're just seeing things that "foolish" people tend to miss. 🙂

You can find lists of research from IBM on sites like
http://www.eiconsortium.org/research...m_building.htm

Pay close attention to the work by Salovey and Meyer. They essentially pioneered the whole concept of EI.

I think I have some of their papers saved as PDFs; I can email them over if I track them down.

In the States, Professor Takšić took this quite seriously—he actually earned his doctorate in EI. Also, the late Professor Kulenović published a paper focused on the measurement side of things, specifically regarding scales for different EI dimensions.

There might be more recent publications out there, but I wouldn't know. I haven't kept up with that field lately.

quietdriver3 said:Hmm... 🤔

Isn't that just a phrase cooked up by idiots?

It’s like when people say someone is "beautiful on the inside" to cover up how ugly they are—people say someone is "smart on the inside" to cover up how stupid they are. 🙂

And you're totally off base here, quietdriver3. 🙄 You have absolutely no clue what you're talking about. You're completely uneducated, kid. Try reading a book or actually learning something so you stop spouting such nonsense. 😉