Issues with girls.

I suppose I should start from the beginning. Back at the end of 2017, my classmates and I went on a five-day school trip. Like most guys our age, everyone was pretty much focused on girls and... well, you know what I mean. I remember trying to act all cool and telling everyone that the very first time I was ever with a girl, I was going to go all out. About an hour after I said that, an actual opportunity presented itself. This girl—who was easily the prettiest girl in our entire school and someone everyone was obsessed with—offered to do exactly that with me. At the moment, I think I just froze; I had no idea how to handle it, so I ended up turning her down. Now, we’re in high school together, and she’s honestly become even more stunning, and I find myself wishing I hadn't made that mistake. We were hanging out in the courtyard the other day, just joking around, when she leaned in to kiss me. Once again, I pulled away. Since then, I can't seem to stop thinking about it or wondering what might have happened if I'd just been a bit more decisive. I guess I'm just not quite sure what's going on with me.

So, when you’re right there with a girl and you know it’s time to lean in for a kiss—or maybe get a little more intimate—what's actually stopping you? Like, what is that specific thing you're afraid of? Just take a second to really look inward... what’s running through your head in those moments? What are the actual fears or desires popping up...

If you’ve never even kissed a girl before, honestly, it’s probably just that nerves-induced fear of messing it up. And hey, when it comes to that first time, being a total nervous wreck is completely normal—we've all been there, trust me. Just try to chill out, go with the flow, and things will work themselves out...
Besides, you guys are way too young for anything beyond kissing and hanging out...

placidwalker83 said:I suppose I should start from the beginning. Back at the end of 2017, my classmates and I went on a five-day school trip. Like most guys our age, everyone was pretty much focused on girls and... well, you know what I mean. I remember trying to act all cool and telling everyone that the very first time I was ever with a girl, I was going to go all out. About an hour after I said that, an actual opportunity presented itself. This girl—who was easily the prettiest girl in our entire school and someone everyone was obsessed with—offered to do exactly that with me. At the moment, I think I just froze; I had no idea how to handle it, so I ended up turning her down. Now, we’re in high school together, and she’s honestly become even more stunning, and I find myself wishing I hadn't made that mistake. We were hanging out in the courtyard the other day, just joking around, when she leaned in to kiss me. Once again, I pulled away. Since then, I can't seem to stop thinking about it or wondering what might have happened if I'd just been a bit more decisive. I guess I'm just not quite sure what's going on with me.

You're acting totally crazy, man, that's all this is; do you really need us to spell everything out for you?😁

ps: Just do what any desperate guy would do after a situation like this... offer to let her teach you how to love. And tell her if she refuses, you'll just end up running away.

That actually sounds kind of charming... and hey, maybe it's worth a shot. 😉

swiftowl7 said:You're acting totally crazy, man, that's all this is; do you really need us to spell everything out for you?😁

ps: Just do what any desperate guy would do after a situation like this... offer to let her teach you how to love. And tell her if she refuses, you'll just end up running away.

That actually sounds kind of charming... and hey, maybe it's worth a shot. 😉

Smooth move! 🎉

placidwalker83 said:I suppose I should start from the beginning. Back at the end of 2017, my classmates and I went on a five-day school trip. Like most guys our age, everyone was pretty much focused on girls and... well, you know what I mean. I remember trying to act all cool and telling everyone that the very first time I was ever with a girl, I was going to go all out. About an hour after I said that, an actual opportunity presented itself. This girl—who was easily the prettiest girl in our entire school and someone everyone was obsessed with—offered to do exactly that with me. At the moment, I think I just froze; I had no idea how to handle it, so I ended up turning her down. Now, we’re in high school together, and she’s honestly become even more stunning, and I find myself wishing I hadn't made that mistake. We were hanging out in the courtyard the other day, just joking around, when she leaned in to kiss me. Once again, I pulled away. Since then, I can't seem to stop thinking about it or wondering what might have happened if I'd just been a bit more decisive. I guess I'm just not quite sure what's going on with me.

🤔 I guess the universe really does work when you least expect it...