Make up your mind!

When you’re dealing with someone who just can't make up his mind—even when the chemistry is undeniable but the timing feels completely off—is it worth stepping back to see if he actually notices your absence? I want to know how to best push him toward a final decision. Is being constantly available actually working against me here? If I create some distance, will it force him to realize what he's losing, or will he just be confused by the sudden silence?😕

Elizabeth Hughes88 said:So, if you're dealing with a guy who just can't make up his mind—like, there’s clearly tons of chemistry and feelings flying back and forth, but the timing is just totally off—is it worth trying to pull back a bit? Like, maybe create some distance just to see if he actually notices or realizes how much he cares? What’s the best way to nudge someone into finally making a call on whether they want this or not? Is being constantly available a bad move? If I start stepping back, will he be sitting there wondering why I suddenly went quiet?😕

Christina...?

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Honestly, how many of us actually fall for this?! 😕 🤣

Look, if a guy claims he’s "undecided" (while his "feelings" only seem to trigger an erection 😁), he has actually made a very firm decision not to decide 😉. Don't reach out to him. You have much more important things to do than wait for him to suddenly call and tell you how much he misses you 😬 because he simply won't 🙂

Sophia White said:Christina...?

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Petra...?
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If you truly had both of those gut feelings, like you claim, there wouldn't be this much indecision hanging over your head. Just test the waters a bit if you actually care about the outcome. Stop reaching out to him every single time you have some flimsy, nonsensical excuse to text.

Looks like we're all out of bread... 🙄

Elizabeth Hughes88 said:So, what happens when you're dealing with a guy who just can't make up his mind? Like, there’s all this chemistry and feelings flying around, but the timing is just completely off. Is it worth pulling back—just creating some distance—to see if he actually gives a damn about you? What’s the best way to force a decision so he finally picks a side? Does being available 24/7 just mess things up? If I start acting distant, will he actually notice and wonder why I suddenly stopped reaching out?😕

Just give him some oral and he'll figure things out pretty quick.
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kissTHEsky said:If you're dealing with someone who just can't make up his mind—like, there's tons of chemistry but the timing feels totally off—is it worth pulling away just to see if he actually cares? What's the best way to nudge him to finally decide what he wants? Is being constantly available a mistake? If I step back, will he start wondering why I suddenly stopped reaching out?😕

If you spend your life waiting for a guy to have an epiphany, you might end up waiting until you're gray-haired.

Think of it like playing billiards. At the start, all the balls are just sitting there in a neat little triangle. It looks pretty, sure, but nothing is happening. You have to take a cue and really hit one of those balls into the pack. It gets messy, everything scatters, but that’s how things actually start moving.

Maybe try telling him how much you value your independence and freedom. Talk about how you love hanging out with your friends and aren't looking to tie yourself down just yet. Honestly, I think most women have that talk practically hardwired into them; once you start, you'll find your rhythm. Then, just go out and have a blast without him. Go out with your girlfriends, dress to kill, and really enjoy yourselves. Ideally, you want to look so good that guys are staring, but the main thing is that you're actually having fun. He might feel the sting and snap out of it. Or, you might realize you're having a great time without him anyway. You might even meet someone better. Even if nothing comes of it, at least you're actually living your life. 🙂

Life is meant to be lived---No use crying over spilled milk!