Vasectomy info/advice?

So... here's the thing. I'm really not a fan of using condoms, but let's be honest, things can always slip up or fail unexpectedly... so lately, I've been seriously looking into getting a vasectomy.

I'd love to get some insight from you guys—what are your thoughts or any advice regarding the procedure? Like, what are the actual pros and cons... how much does it cost, what are the side effects... is it actually worth the risk?😕

Any urologists hanging out here? What’s the actual process like? I’m 32 and I don't want kids—ever. Seriously, ever. I’ve never been in a relationship in my entire life, and I don't want one now, later, or ever; just the thought of accidentally becoming a parent gives me a massive anxiety attack.
I’ve had a few flings where I was stuck waiting around for them to get their act together because they were running late—honestly, I aged five years in a single month. Even though I used protection, I am absolutely done dealing with that bullshit ever again.
With all due respect, we all know how women can be regarding certain things. At first, they claim they'd never have kids with some "adventurer" they know everything about from the jump, but if they actually get pregnant? They'll just go for an abortion. That's the fat majority right there—damn hormones. For us guys, we end up getting hit with child support, and then one day that kid grows up wanting answers, and you're forced to tell them the truth about how things went down and why they didn't have a father all those years. It's obvious everyone loses in that scenario, and frankly, that chaos and bad blood isn't worth it for anyone.
Look, I know I'm selfish, cold, and heartless—but that's who I am, and at least I'm honest about it.

Bottom line: I'm dead set on this decision and I want to make it happen. If there's a decent soul here who can share their experience on where to go and what the procedure is actually like, let me know. Thanks. 🙂

crimsonwolf21 said:Any urologists hanging out here? What’s the actual process like? I’m 32 and I don't want kids—ever. Seriously, ever. I’ve never been in a relationship in my entire life, and I don't want one now, later, or ever; just the thought of accidentally becoming a parent gives me a massive anxiety attack.
I’ve had a few flings where I was stuck waiting around for them to get their act together because they were running late—honestly, I aged five years in a single month. Even though I used protection, I am absolutely done dealing with that bullshit ever again.
With all due respect, we all know how women can be regarding certain things. At first, they claim they'd never have kids with some "adventurer" they know everything about from the jump, but if they actually get pregnant? They'll just go for an abortion. That's the fat majority right there—damn hormones. For us guys, we end up getting hit with child support, and then one day that kid grows up wanting answers, and you're forced to tell them the truth about how things went down and why they didn't have a father all those years. It's obvious everyone loses in that scenario, and frankly, that chaos and bad blood isn't worth it for anyone.
Look, I know I'm selfish, cold, and heartless—but that's who I am, and at least I'm honest about it.

Bottom line: I'm dead set on this decision and I want to make it happen. If there's a decent soul here who can share their experience on where to go and what the procedure is actually like, let me know. Thanks. 🙂

Pretty sure every sexually active person has had a moment of pure insanity while waiting on test results... 😉 It's cool that you want to be responsible and have figured out your stance on parenthood, but honestly, I think there’s an age limit for this stuff, just like there is for women. Not sure why it's such a big deal here in the States, feels overly strict... like people can't just make their own damn choices.

If I remember correctly from other threads, you work abroad, right? Might be worth checking out the process and costs in another country...

Out of all the contraceptive options out there, he’s actually opting for this absolute "middle ages" disaster. crimsonwolf21, you really need to do some digging through the forums on this one. There are serious side effects following the procedure—I’ve already mentioned a few, but honestly, trying to undo this once it's done is an absolute nightmare. His sex life isn't going to improve; it's likely going to take a massive hit. Here are the risks:
http://www.theturekclinic.com/servic...effects-after/
On top of that, I've seen plenty of people reporting issues with impotence after the surgery:
https://www.healthexpress.co.uk/erec...fter-vasectomy
http://www.topix.com/forum/health/er...CK71H3DQ2821SD
And let's not forget the physical reality: the volume of ejaculate decreases, which inevitably leads to a much less satisfying orgasm.

Morgan Newman7 said:Pretty sure every sexually active person has had a moment of pure insanity while waiting on test results... 😉 It's cool that you want to be responsible and have figured out your stance on parenthood, but honestly, I think there’s an age limit for this stuff, just like there is for women. Not sure why it's such a big deal here in the States, feels overly strict... like people can't just make their own damn choices.

If I remember correctly from other threads, you work abroad, right? Might be worth checking out the process and costs in another country...

That "breakdown" actually left me with some serious health issues. But hey, lessons learned, right? Luckily everything turned out fine.

Yeah, I work for a foreign company that sends me on field assignments all over the national map. Anyway, I found this clinic in Vienna. They have a website and it's even available in English. 👍 In the USA, there's an age limit of 35, so that's a total non-starter for me. What kind of fanatic wrote that law? 🙄 Austria is definitely on the table for now. 👍
I'll check out Canada too.

Dear crimsonwolf21 🙂

Thank you for your inquiry.

We perform the so-called “no-scalpel” vasectomy. It is currently the easiest and most modern method.

Please find additional information regarding the details attached. The surgical procedure is simple and only takes about 20 minutes.

The entire appointment lasts about 1 hour.

Once you reach 25 years of age, every man is entitled to undergo a vasectomy. Consent from another person is not required.

You can schedule an appointment within one to two weeks.

Please keep in mind that you should take it easy during the first few days following the vasectomy (no sports, no heavy physical labor).

The fees for the vasectomy include the necessary semen analyses and amount to 910 €. We require some information concerning your health status to set the appointment—this can be handled via telephone, email, or in person.

For more details, please give us a call during our Office Hours : Monday to Friday, 8:00am to 5:00pm and Saturday, 8:00am to 1:00pm.

For further information, please visit our website at www.prowoman.at or www.provasektomie.at.

We would like to invite you to our next consultation session with one of our urologists to receive more detailed information and advice. The next one is scheduled for Friday, December 9th, 2016 at 2 pm.

This is an open discussion with a maximum of 10 participants. Please call us beforehand if you would like to attend.

Hoping to have answered all your questions,

Kind regards,

Dr. Nina Stastny
Planned Parenthood
Sexual Medicine and Pregnancy Support
Planned Parenthood

New York City, NY

http://www.prowoman.at/proman.php?ka...&changelang=en

rustybadger49 said:Out of all the contraceptive options out there, he’s actually opting for this absolute "middle ages" disaster. crimsonwolf21, you really need to do some digging through the forums on this one. There are serious side effects following the procedure—I’ve already mentioned a few, but honestly, trying to undo this once it's done is an absolute nightmare. His sex life isn't going to improve; it's likely going to take a massive hit. Here are the risks:
http://www.theturekclinic.com/servic...effects-after/
On top of that, I've seen plenty of people reporting issues with impotence after the surgery:
https://www.healthexpress.co.uk/erec...fter-vasectomy
http://www.topix.com/forum/health/er...CK71H3DQ2821SD
And let's not forget the physical reality: the volume of ejaculate decreases, which inevitably leads to a much less satisfying orgasm.

If you’d actually bothered to read those links, you wouldn't be talking such nonsense. It’s obvious there are "side effects" after surgery—meaning you have to recover from the procedure itself. That’s just standard for any surgical work—even one this relatively non-invasive.

This procedure is a total game-changer—honestly, in my case, it beats the hell out of the idea of having a kid I didn't plan for and all those forced responsibilities that come with it.

I mean, wouldn't it just be way easier if you stopped having sex altogether?

Chloe King4 said:I mean, wouldn't it just be way easier if you stopped having sex altogether?

Sure, it's easy—but I'm not about to deny myself that if I don't have to! Look, you don't *have* to eat either—you could just hook yourself up to an IV drip with glucose or whatever—but that pretty much kills your quality of life, doesn't it?

crimsonwolf21 said:Sure, it's easy—but I'm not about to deny myself that if I don't have to! Look, you don't *have* to eat either—you could just hook yourself up to an IV drip with glucose or whatever—but that pretty much kills your quality of life, doesn't it?

I mean, from what I've been reading, it totally trashes your sex life too, so you're definitely hitting the nail on the head there.

Chloe King4 said:I mean, from what I've been reading, it totally trashes your sex life too, so you're definitely hitting the nail on the head there.

You're reading it wrong. It doesn't tank your sex life at all. You're just sterile. Your testosterone production keeps right on humming.

To put it in plain English...

It’s like having a gun that fires blanks instead of real bullets. It still goes off, but it isn't doing any damage. I don't know how much clearer I can make that.

crimsonwolf21 said:You're reading it wrong. It doesn't tank your sex life at all. You're just sterile. Your testosterone production keeps right on humming.

To put it in plain English...

It’s like having a gun that fires blanks instead of real bullets. It still goes off, but it isn't doing any damage. I don't know how much clearer I can make that.

I don't know man... I wouldn't want anyone messing around with my junk if I could help it, but hey, if you want to go for it—be my guest!

Chloe King4 said:I don't know man... I wouldn't want anyone messing around with my junk if I could help it, but hey, if you want to go for it—be my guest!

Look, you just need to be educated—it makes life so much easier. This procedure has been around for over a century now, so we actually know a ton about how it works and what the fallout looks like. There's really no point in playing guessing games in the 21st century. Out in the West, this is a totally standard, normal procedure. But hey, maybe one day the 21st century will finally arrive here and people will actually know what they're talking about.

crimsonwolf21 said:Look, you just need to be educated—it makes life so much easier. This procedure has been around for over a century now, so we actually know a ton about how it works and what the fallout looks like. There's really no point in playing guessing games in the 21st century. Out in the West, this is a totally standard, normal procedure. But hey, maybe one day the 21st century will finally arrive here and people will actually know what they're talking about.

Wait, have you ever thought about just sticking to anal sex instead?

Chloe King4 said:Wait, have you ever thought about just sticking to anal sex instead?

😂 That would seriously tank my dating pool. 😁

crimsonwolf21 said:You're reading it wrong. It doesn't tank your sex life at all. You're just sterile. Your testosterone production keeps right on humming.

To put it in plain English...

It’s like having a gun that fires blanks instead of real bullets. It still goes off, but it isn't doing any damage. I don't know how much clearer I can make that.

Except that "cork pop" is going to feel significantly weaker than a real bullet—less volume, which usually means a lackluster orgasm—assuming you even manage to pull the trigger without running into potential impotence issues.

rustybadger49 said:Except that "cork pop" is going to feel significantly weaker than a real bullet—less volume, which usually means a lackluster orgasm—assuming you even manage to pull the trigger without running into potential impotence issues.

Seriously, go educate yourself for once. It wouldn't kill you.

http://www.vasectomy-information.com...ter-vasectomy/

http://www.healthline.com/health/ere...fter-vasectomy

Hey there! I'm looking to hear from anyone who's actually gone through a vasectomy. I want the real deal—the good, the bad, how long ago you did it, which doctors you’d recommend, and anything else that might be useful. No Google searches here; I'm strictly looking for firsthand accounts. Thanks!

Chloe Alvarez43 said:Hey there! I'm looking to hear from anyone who's actually gone through a vasectomy. I want the real deal—the good, the bad, how long ago you did it, which doctors you’d recommend, and anything else that might be useful. No Google searches here; I'm strictly looking for firsthand accounts. Thanks!

I've been thinking about getting a vasectomy for a while now and finally decided to pull the trigger, though I haven't picked a clinic yet... I'm over 36, have two kids... maybe I'll share my experience as I try to find the right place.🙂

It seems like everywhere I ask, a vasectomy is treated like a taboo subject here, which is pretty frustrating. Even though I've read on forums and in articles that any urology clinic in the US should perform them, my experience suggests it isn't that simple to find one.

First, I went to my GP for advice and maybe a recommendation for a clinic or a specific method. Unfortunately, he couldn't recommend anything because, as he put it, he doesn't have much concrete knowledge on it and hasn't had patients go through it before. He did refer me to a urologist at the Mayo Clinic, though. That urologist seemed somewhat uninterested; he mentioned they could do it, but it would require spinal anesthesia and a 24-hour hospital stay. He couldn't give me an exact price, but it would start at $667 since the procedure isn't covered by standard insurance (I assume it would end up costing me twice that in the end). I didn't really feel like I could trust his approach, and I noticed they perform the procedure extremely rarely, even though he claimed it’s routine and one of the simplest things in urology. They use the classic conservative method—scalpel incision and then stitches. They require a whole battery of tests beforehand, too. Then there's the waitlist for a hospital bed. (I haven't totally ruled this out, but the long wait, the 24-hour stay, all those tests, and the fact that I'd much prefer local anesthesia make it less practical.)

Next, I contacted a private clinic in Seattle that also uses the traditional method, but with general anesthesia. The price was around $3167!!! and the stay would be about 6 hours. (That option is out for me due to the cost and the general anesthesia.)

I also reached out to a private practice in Washington, D.C. that does the classic method using local anesthesia. Just one or two stitches. Price is $1000. Total time at the office: about an hour. (This one is definitely on my shortlist.)

In the US, I haven't found a clinic that performs the No-Scalpel method. That technique seems more common abroad. The recovery is supposedly easier and there are no stitches, just skin glue. I'm guessing the scarring is minimal without the stitches. From what I can see, a no-scalpel procedure in clinics in Austria costs between $300-$750 and takes about 45 minutes. So, I'm leaning toward that option, even though I'd much rather do it here in the States. The downsides are the language barrier and the fact that I'd have to drive 2-3 hours back from Austria afterward, and I wouldn't be able to easily make it to a follow-up, which apparently isn't always necessary anyway.

If anyone knows of a place in the US that does the no-scalpel method, please let me know—feel free to send a private message.

Is that rule still on the books where you can't do this until you're 35?

I'm 31, got a kid, and I'm divorced.