Chris Morgan said:I honestly don't understand the point of all this.
For heaven's sake, we are talking about wedding guests, not a symphony concert. Why would anyone need musical expertise in this situation?!
I fail to see how requesting specific music constitutes any kind of abuse.
My own requirements are completely different (no country music, no repetitive tracks, no requests), and I certainly don't consider that to be offending anyone.
Additionally, I see very little difference between a DJ and a band regarding song selection. This is a private party where the newlyweds pay for someone to play the music they want, not to attend a concert.
Bill, whether you're playing country hits at a wedding or performing classical pieces in a theater, you still have to know how to play, and you definitely have to know how to sing. You need a certain level of training for all of that, right?
Sure, there are hacks in every profession, and maybe even more so in music, but that's a whole different conversation...
There is also a massive distinction between a DJ and a live band... a DJ just hits play and grabs a drink while the band is actually out there performing live... that is a huge, huge difference...
Of course, weddings aren't meant to be someone else's concert...
The requirements you mentioned—"no country, no repeats, no requests"—are perfectly normal, but that wasn't what was being said in the post I was replying to. In that post, they were basically belittling musicians by saying they don't have any say in things, and claiming they should make their arrangements "two notes longer"—honestly, I have no clue how anyone could even compare that to anything; it makes zero sense. And don't even get me started on using the harmonica as a rhythmic instrument in a band... that isn't comparing apples to oranges, that's just plain ignorance... and the part about "when I'm paying, nobody tells me what to do" is just pure primitivism. It's like walking into a Ford dealership and saying, "Hey, I'm paying for this truck, so I want one seat red, one blue, and the third one yellow"... I mean, what do you expect them to say to that?
There’s a professional way of doing things that needs to be respected... because of that, a local DJ can show up with a laptop and some cheap speakers for a few hundred bucks and just blast MP3s, whereas being a musician is a real profession that gets valued because we're the kind of people who appreciate quality.