Charles Murphy53 said:Hey everyone...
I’m new here and I honestly have no clue how any of this works....... I could really use some help or maybe just some advice..
Anyway.. this has been weighing on me for a while now... I can't tell if I'm pregnant or not... /really hoping to find out by tomorrow/ I've been having some symptoms.. like constant nausea all day long,, food just doesn't taste right anymore even though smells are fine,, I'm running to the bathroom constantly,, and I've been craving things I normally wouldn't touch in a million years :SS
The thing is, my boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half now, and we aren't using any protection—well, except he never actually finishes inside me... so I don't know if I'm just being paranoid like usual!??
Also, another thing... I know nobody here can make the decision for me... but I really need your perspective 😢(( I'm 19, and if it turns out I am pregnant,, I'd actually want the baby,, but he absolutely does not... so now I'm stuck in this huge dilemma... I'm scared of ruining all the plans I've made for my future, but at the same time, I'm terrified that if I don't go through with it, I'll regret it deeply one day or—God forbid—never be able to have kids again 😢(
Help me please
Well, welcome to the club.
Regarding point one... yeah, it’s possible you’re pregnant. You might have symptoms, sure, but honestly? Just take a test. No one on some internet forum can tell you for certain if you're 100% expecting.
As for point two... look, I was pregnant at 19 and had my kid at 20. More than anything in the world, I wanted that baby. My husband? Well, he reacted like a typical guy—happy enough, I guess, but he wasn't exactly jumping for joy or throwing a parade.
Just remember, babies don't just drop from the sky out of nowhere. A baby has its own soul, just like you, your boyfriend, your mom, your dad... all of you. One day, all of you had to start from zero, from conception. And yet here you are, living your lives, talking to them, arguing with them... nobody here ended up here by pure accident, right? So if this baby is in you, it didn't happen by mistake either... everything happens for a reason.
The choice is yours. But I won't tell you to back down just because your guy isn't ready—or rather, hasn't matured enough to step up and handle the consequences of his own actions. He should've thought about this beforehand, and honestly, so should you.
You aren't fifteen anymore. You're adults in the US now, and you have to own up to what you do.
Life doesn't give anyone a free pass. It can be harsh and brutal, but it can also be beautiful and happy. It all depends on the path you choose.
Think hard about your future... if you really are pregnant... you aren't the first nineteen-year-old to find herself in this spot. 😉