Anonymous said:I’m not entirely sure if this is the right sub for this specific issue, but it felt like the closest match to what I’m going through right now.
So, here’s the situation... I’ve been divorced for a few years now. I have two kids. After the split, I moved us to a different city, and the kids started at a new school there.
My oldest has adjusted beautifully and seems really happy. My youngest, however, is struggling.
I’m guessing they’re acting out because of general frustration, but lately, things have taken a turn for the worse. Here is the most recent thing that happened:
I opened my monthly phone bill and nearly had a heart attack. Looking at the statement from $0.67, I saw a massive charge for $0.53 calls to premium-rate numbers—basically those adult entertainment hotlines.
Since I didn't make those calls, and my oldest didn't either, that left my youngest (who is only 10) as the only option.
I sat them down for a serious talk, and they actually confessed!!!
In total shock, I tried to tactfully figure out what kind of conversations they were even having, but...
It was like talking to a brick wall!!!
Of course, the first thing I did was call the service provider to block all those numbers immediately!!!
I have been absolutely eating myself alive over this; it’s actually caused me some physical health issues from the stress!!!
I finally reached the point where I went to my doctor to get a referral for a therapist because I am completely at a loss. Does anyone have any experience with this or any advice to offer???
Please, I’m asking for serious responses only because I am really hurting right now!!
Thank you!!!
Your hysterics are doing more damage to your kid than some minor panting on the phone ever could.
Like Ashley Vaughn79 mentioned, it’s just basic childhood curiosity.
Your child is heading into puberty; you’re going to see plenty more examples of this kind of curiosity.
Remember, these behaviors are totally normal. By reacting with hysteria, health scares, psychologists, and accusations, you're sending the exact opposite message—that they are doing something deeply, terribly wrong. That message, I repeat, is what actually hurts them.