Condemnation
in Psychology ·
I suppose once people stop assuming they have the "privilege" to forgive others—a privilege they don't actually possess, anyway—all that judgment might just fade away.
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Student-teacher dynamics vs. parent-teacher dynamics
in Students & Teens ·
I've been wondering lately if a third-grade teacher should really wrap up the school year by grading a student based solely on mastery. For instance, what about a boy who tries his absolute best, turns in all his homework, shows up to every tutoring session, and is just a polite, hardworking kid, yet he simply struggles to grasp math and numbers?
It seems like the same situation as when your own child might receive an undeserved A in PE for a specific drill, even though they truly earned their grade through sheer effort!
It seems like the same situation as when your own child might receive an undeserved A in PE for a specific drill, even though they truly earned their grade through sheer effort!
Would you ever help someone who abused you?
in Psychology & Therapy ·
I’m certainly not judging you, and I truly didn't mean for it to come across that way!
You don't necessarily have to bring her into your own home, but maybe you could help her find a shelter, reach out to the proper authorities, or look into local social services.
I personally feel that taking some kind of action is the right thing to do, regardless of who she is.
I think it might be helpful to let go of any judgment—or even resentment, if you're feeling that—because holding onto those things never seems to help anyone in the end. Even if your mother wasn't able to be the parent you needed, you can still choose to be a good person and honor that connection.
You don't necessarily have to bring her into your own home, but maybe you could help her find a shelter, reach out to the proper authorities, or look into local social services.
I personally feel that taking some kind of action is the right thing to do, regardless of who she is.
I think it might be helpful to let go of any judgment—or even resentment, if you're feeling that—because holding onto those things never seems to help anyone in the end. Even if your mother wasn't able to be the parent you needed, you can still choose to be a good person and honor that connection.
Would you ever help someone who abused you?
in Psychology & Therapy ·
Reading through these comments is honestly quite upsetting.
Of course I would help a stranger if I were able to, let alone my own mother.
When you say she abused you mentally and physically, what does that actually entail? Are we talking about being disciplined as a child, or perhaps her not letting you stay out late when you were sixteen?
Looking at your story, it seems like everything revolves entirely around your own perspective.
Maybe try helping your mother by actually asking her what is going on in her life instead of making assumptions based on photos. Did you also conclude that you were solely to blame for everything else just by looking at pictures?
Perhaps it is time to take charge of your life and act with more maturity and responsibility.
Of course I would help a stranger if I were able to, let alone my own mother.
When you say she abused you mentally and physically, what does that actually entail? Are we talking about being disciplined as a child, or perhaps her not letting you stay out late when you were sixteen?
Looking at your story, it seems like everything revolves entirely around your own perspective.
Maybe try helping your mother by actually asking her what is going on in her life instead of making assumptions based on photos. Did you also conclude that you were solely to blame for everything else just by looking at pictures?
Perhaps it is time to take charge of your life and act with more maturity and responsibility.
Reported moderator posts
in Feedback & Suggestions ·
What holds true for one person might not apply to everyone else... or perhaps, what works for some simply doesn't work for all.
Issues with my brother
in Psychology & Therapy ·
Your "life story" sounds much harsher than it actually is.
When I looked back at my own past, it felt terrible, but looking at it now, things don't seem quite as catastrophic.
I won't go into specifics, but I just want to say that sometimes we perceive our situations as being far worse than they truly are. You aren't a bad person just because you can't—or shouldn't have to—act as a surrogate parent to your brother, or because you had typical young adult preoccupations like dating and going out.
And what about aunts or grandmothers? I know they might not be able to live under the same roof, but they could certainly offer some support.
When I looked back at my own past, it felt terrible, but looking at it now, things don't seem quite as catastrophic.
I won't go into specifics, but I just want to say that sometimes we perceive our situations as being far worse than they truly are. You aren't a bad person just because you can't—or shouldn't have to—act as a surrogate parent to your brother, or because you had typical young adult preoccupations like dating and going out.
And what about aunts or grandmothers? I know they might not be able to live under the same roof, but they could certainly offer some support.
How do you spot a minor these days?
in Psychology ·
I suppose the parents are primarily at fault here; if a sixteen-year-old looks like they're twenty-six because of how they dress and wear makeup, there's a lack of guidance.
On another note, I'm not sure if this was for a night out, but why would a sixteen-year-old be working late shifts at a bar or cafe anyway?
I don't know, but in my opinion, it feels far too early.
On another note, I'm not sure if this was for a night out, but why would a sixteen-year-old be working late shifts at a bar or cafe anyway?
I don't know, but in my opinion, it feels far too early.