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ruggedraven29 said:A few days ago, our family hit a wall—we’re dealing with a really heavy diagnosis. My mom was just diagnosed with a liver tumor that has already spread to her lymph nodes. The doctor down in Miami basically told us modern medicine has reached its limit with her.

Like so many others before us, we want to look into alternative treatments because there isn't much left to expect from the standard stuff. She’s still full of life, cheerful, and stays active—that's just who she's always been. What have your experiences been like? Who can we actually reach out to when we're looking for some kind of hope?


Hey everyone, to those fighting this and their families too!

Hang in there and don't back down!

quietpilot87, you honestly had me tearing up too...🙂...I think you're being incredibly brave...and you're clearly an amazing daughter to your mom...

ruggedraven29, I won't repeat myself too much, but here’s the short version: my mom was diagnosed with metastatic melanoma seven months ago. After three surgeries to clear out the metastases, she’s currently undergoing immunotherapy—which isn't really an option here in the States, so we went over to Germany (www.IMMUNTHERAPIE.org). She also completely overhauled her diet...

I highly recommend Dr. Soltyšik—he’s a favorite for a lot of people in this group!

If you want more details on the immunotherapy side of things, go back and read my old posts—and specifically check out what Dandelion wrote, she was pretty spot-on about all of this.

Sending so much love to you and your mom; keep fighting, and I really hope you win this battle for her health!
bluegull18 said:Hi everyone, I just wanted to say to everyone on this thread that my heart goes out to you all.
I wish I could offer some actual comfort to those who need it, but honestly, I came here looking for those exact words myself.
....
Thanks to everyone for any kind word at all.

God, bluegull18, your story really hit home... it felt like deja vu for me... I went through something similar back when I was a teenager... my grandparents lived with us... and he spent a long time dying from prostate cancer... during those last few months, even morphine wasn't touching the pain, it was that bad... he loved all his grandkids so much, but I was especially close to him... my parents worked, so my grandparents were basically raising us... I can still hear him moaning in pain... it was gut-wrenching knowing I couldn't do anything to help... I just prayed to God to let him go from the suffering... he took everything so bravely... he had such a rough life, and I kept thinking how incredibly unfair this disease was... why him? My grandma slept on the couch next to his bed for the last five months, just being there to serve him, to comfort him, to help... I still admire her so much for that today... he’s gone now too... I barely made it through the funeral... I tried to tell myself he's finally free from the pain, in a place where there's no more suffering... but it's hard... just pray... and hang in there... I don't know what else to say, because...

Now, my own family is fighting for survival again... it's been exactly six months since we got my mom's heavy diagnosis... we were talking yesterday... laughing and stuff... but I can see she's terrified... she's skeptical about the treatment... and I keep telling her that she's going to pull through, no doubt... I'm praying for it... she'll be getting her third vaccine soon... and it's almost time for follow-up checkups... I'm scared of the results too, honestly... but I'm still holding onto hope for the best.
At the same time, you have to keep living and functioning... I have a husband and two kids... at first, it was brutal—I couldn't eat, I couldn't sleep, and when I did, it was nothing but nightmares... I still have weird dreams every now and then... things got a little easier once we actually accepted the diagnosis and faced it head-on (Angela Wright wrote about that here—you should definitely read her posts!) and started fighting... it isn't easy... but is there any other way? We're ready to do whatever it takes, absolutely everything, to get Mom healthy again... to make her better.

I read this forum every single day... I just don't always have the energy to write anything... I feel for everyone here... slyseal28, Grace Fowler, Nancy Hernandez43, Lisa White54, Nancy Thomas18, and everyone else—please don't take it personally that I don't know everyone's names... stay strong and keep fighting...

Best wishes to you all!
Taylor Kelly9 said:I’ve been scrolling through the old posts, and honestly, I have so much respect for everyone here—mainly for the sheer grit and willpower you all show. My mom finally got her diagnosis, which turned out to be NBA lymphoma. Her hematologist said it’s actually the "best-case scenario" type because it grows slowly. But then—just when we thought we were processing that—they hit us with papillary thyroid cancer too. It came completely out of nowhere. We were all still reeling from the lymphoma news, just starting to wrap our heads around it, and then boom, this second thing pops up. What are the odds of one person dealing with two different cancers at once????
She had surgery on her thyroid, and they finally let her come home after a long stint. Now that she's recovering, we’re gearing up for chemo.
Yesterday she got a bladder infection, and I’m already starting to crack—and my mom is too. I can't help but wonder if she, or even all of us, will actually have the strength once the chemo kicks in. If a simple bladder infection can mess with our heads this much, how are we going to handle the heavy stuff? I've spent days asking myself why her, and why both at the same time. It doesn't do much to comfort us that the doctors called both "growths" favorable.
I haven't read everything—maybe I missed a thread—but where do you guys get royal jelly?

We buy freeze-dried royal jelly at the pharmacy; in Miami, there are four different spots that carry it, and they ship it in from San Diego within two days. You can find all the info at www.maticnamlijec.hr.

There are tons of royal jelly products out there. The one Mom is using is pricey—probably more expensive than most stuff you'd find on the US market—but it seems to be working for her, so we aren't changing anything.

In just four and a half months, Mom has gone through three surgeries under general anesthesia. She switched to macrobiotics, lost 10 pounds, and has kept it off. She feels good. She was doing imemune injections for a while, and she just got her second immunotherapy shot. Despite the heavy diagnosis, we're hoping for the best...

Oh, right—for anyone who hasn't scrolled through the entire history of this thread, Mom was also diagnosed with metastatic melanoma 😠, but we’re fighting and we aren't stopping!

I’m rooting for everyone here to hang in there until you're all healthy again!

Best,
Melissa Kim45, please accept my sincere condolences 😢!
Melissa Stewart said:Dina, I’m so sorry about everything you're going through, but please, just hang in there.
I know, easy to say, right? But we have to stay strong for our parents. We can't give up as long as there's even a shred of hope.
Could you tell me a bit more about immunotherapy and where you went? How does it actually work—is it for all types of cancer?
I have a cousin over in Dortmund, and she mentioned hearing about Dr. Nicholas Cage, though I think she said he works in Austria.
Sorry, maybe you already explained this, but my brain is just fried from everything I've been reading.
Thanks

anita, just go back and read my old posts and the ones from Dandelion regarding immunotherapy. It's all there.

My mom and I actually went to Duderstadt, www.immuntherapie.org, and for her second vaccine dose, I arranged for her to get it right here in NYC so she doesn't have to fly all the way back to Germany.
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Robin Wright27 said:Whether they like it or not—why offer the feature at all if it's an issue?
I called them back and mentioned I'd fax over my most recent pay stub so they could review my income history dating back to 2006 and assess my creditworthiness—which seems perfectly reasonable on their part.
🤷

They asked me for a current pay stub because the one they had on file was several years old. That's just how they update their records, but I wouldn't bet against you getting that new loan approved.
If there was actually a problem, they would've told you straight up!

🙂
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Robin Wright27 said:The loan amount? If it was too high, they likely scaled it back.
I spend about $3,500–$4,000 a month.
My bills are always paid on time.
I make regular cash withdrawals.
I didn't ask for a breakdown—they aren't obligated to provide one, are they?
Again, my bills are paid punctually.
They can easily see my existing debt via my Visa card online.
I'll try calling them again—we shall see.

Based on how they talked to me when I called about a cash withdrawal, it seems like they just don't care for people using their cards at the ATM.

I've never even pulled cash from my American Express—honestly, I don't even know my PINs (but since everything is chip-based now, I'll probably have to actually learn 😁).
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Count me in with the American Express loyalists!

Just got back from my trip abroad, and I ran into one massive expense—we're talking nearly $11,000—and honestly, the thought of lugging that much cash around was just too much for me. So, I put it on my American Express. I gave them a heads-up about the big purchase beforehand, and they cleared it instantly. No drama.

I stay far away from Diners Club, and while I carry my Dell and Visa cards and they work fine, it's exactly what the title says: American Express is king.

P.S.
marko, get in touch, seriously, reach out! 😁
slyseal28 said:We’re stuck waiting on meds again. Therapy was supposed to kick off on August 14th. But since the holidays lined up—with the 5th and the 15th being off—everything just fell apart. We had it all planned out, then moved it to Thursday the 21st. But now, the clinical trials committee of a US hospital hasn't cleared all the cases, including ours, so Thursday is off the table too.

The excuse? Not enough staff because everyone is on vacation. How am I supposed to explain to a hospital committee that cancer doesn't take a summer break?

So now therapy is two weeks behind schedule, and who’s going to answer for that? Nobody. Just the patient.

That statement from the Minister about how solutions for expensive drugs get sorted in a week is total nonsense.

I’ve already reached out to the media.

God, slyseal28, I really hope the therapy starts this Thursday!

I'm exhausted by all these delays, but even if we have to crawl, we have to keep pushing for our loved ones!
Hang in there, 🙂!

I haven't been on the forum much lately; I've mostly been staying with my parents helping my mom.
For the last 15 days or so, she and I were actually in Germany, where she got her first immunotherapy injection (for anyone wondering what that entails, go read Elizabeth Gonzalez55's posts).
On the 6th day after another surgery, we traveled; we had previously sent the removed tumor tissue to Germany, which serves as the primary immunotherapy, and the results are looking even better.
Mom handled the trip (two legs of about 30 hours each) pretty well, plus the leukapheresis went fine, along with five local hyperthermias. Her biggest issue right now is swelling in her arm—which makes sense, considering she doesn't even have lymph nodes left after three surgeries in five months. Hopefully, she can start lymphatic drainage soon.
She's back home now, and we're just hoping for the best!

That article from the local paper hit me hard, too. And my mom's doctor kept stalling with interferon, trying to push chemo and radiation, even though we all know those aren't helpful for melanoma... meanwhile, the surgeon wrote her an urgent prescription for interferon... Mom chose immunotherapy, and honestly, if she hadn't, I don't know if she would have ever gotten that interferon unless she fought for it... it's terrifying...
I agree with what Elizabeth Gonzalez55 wrote above—the placebo effect is massive, and that lady really should have received that interferon prescription.

Now all we can do is pray and believe that Mom will be okay! That's what keeps us going.

To everyone fighting this and their families—stay strong and don't back down. Believe in healing; the fight is far from over!
Here’s the link:

Way to go, Katherine—huge props to the Association 👍!

Sending good vibes to everyone out there—stay strong!
God bless everyone, I haven't been around here in forever... honestly, life just got in the way!

First things first, an update on Mom: she had her surgery 20 days ago, was discharged from the hospital on day 8, spent day 9 strolling around Central Park, and they finally took her stitches out on day 10.

She’s in great spirits—really feeling herself. She’s back at it with the usual housework (even though we’re constantly nagging her to actually sit down and rest, at least after lunch), and she's sticking to a specific meal plan put together by Dr. John Doe. It’s mostly macrobiotic stuff. Her therapy involves walking several miles every single day—which she sticks to religiously—along with a handful of supplements daily, and lately, she's started Isorel injections. Oh, and quail eggs every day, too.

She’s also been taking royal jelly for two months now and it’s clearly working; her neck wrinkles have even "smoothed out." We’ve been teasing her that while the surgeon was removing the metastases, he must have done a little facelift on the side! 😁! Look, that might sound like dark humor, but trust me, my mom has this way of laughing so sweetly and genuinely that it lifts all our spirits.

All three nodes were quite large and turned out to be metastases, so she was sent for more testing to make sure the damn thing hasn't spread—God forbid! So far, two out of the three tests came back clear, and I’m praying the third one follows suit!

I know I’ve rambled, but I just had to share some good news with you all😍, even though I've stayed in touch via calls, emails, and texts with Angela Wright, Elizabeth Gonzalez, noemi, and belami!

Sending love to everyone—may God keep you safe. Hang in there and stay strong in the fight for your health🙂!

Grace Fowler I went back and read through all your posts again today—stay strong, you are my hero!
Joshua King77 said:Since I had melanoma surgery myself back in January, I’d love to swap stories with others dealing with melanoma.

God, Joshua King77,
you’ve probably already seen this mentioned on these forums, but my mom is fighting melanoma too.
She just went through surgery last week, and now she’s gearing up for therapy.

I was wondering—are you on any specific treatments right now? And what about supplements to help boost the immune system?

Hang in there, sending good vibes!
Well, looks like we’ve got another case just like Alen's, unfortunately:

And once they actually manage to raise the money—assuming they can—will they even be able to bring it into the country, considering it isn't registered here in the States?
neonhound32 said:My mom was just diagnosed with bone cancer or leukemia today. It’s bad—she’s lost so much weight, she can barely move, and honestly, she’s just completely lost her spirit.
It took them two whole months of dragging her from doctor to doctor just to finally tell us what’s actually going on. I’m in total shock right now; everything feels heavy, and I have no idea if she’s even going to make it.
I spent the day at the hospital tidying her up a bit and making her some sandwiches. She managed to finish half a yogurt.
Tomorrow they’re doing a bone marrow biopsy, and once they pin down the exact type of cancer, the treatment starts.
Does anyone have any experience with this? Is my mom going to be okay?

I am so sorry it took them this long to get an answer, especially since it sounds like things aren't even fully cleared up yet!

I totally get that shock you're feeling. When I found out about my mom's diagnosis, it hit me like a freight train—especially because she hadn't been complaining about anything. She went in for a routine follow-up after a cyst surgery and came back with a diagnosis of metastatic melanoma😢!

But look, once that initial shock wears off—which, reading through here, seems to have wiped everyone out—you just have to get organized and keep moving. There isn't really any other choice.

I really hope you find the strength you need quickly so you can tackle this head-on alongside her.

Sending my best to you and your mom, and to everyone else in this thread.

Hang in there!
Angela Wright said:Take a look at this yourselves—just see the absolute disgrace of a Secretary of Health:


It's horrific 😲—honestly, I just hope someone from the Department of Health actually reads these threads and does something about this immediately!
Nancy Hernandez43 said:Last time my dad and I talked about this, the answer was a pretty solid yes. Her markers have been looking fine for six months now—but back in February, during her checkup, the doctors suggested she get a CT/PET scan just to be absolutely certain there isn't any metastasis hiding somewhere, especially since it’s been a year since the surgery. Apparently, overseas, a scan like that runs you about $1,500, but here in the States, you can often get it done for next to nothing if you've got decent supplemental insurance. My dad mentioned something about Mayo Clinic? Does anyone actually know anything about them? He said he already reached out to get some info, but he hasn't really filled me in on what they said.

My parents are heading back to the States tomorrow, so I should finally have some more breathing room to write—fingers crossed.🙂

Look, sorry if I'm being a bit blunt with the info here—just bear with me and try to keep an open mind while I lay it all out.

I’m dropping the link to Quest Diagnostics right here on these pages—not that I want to keep repeating myself—but since you asked, here’s the absolute latest info:

The PET/CT scanner is located over at Mount Sinai Hospital, but since it’s actually run by Quest Diagnostics, you have to go through them to get everything scheduled.

Look, you have to print out their specific forms—Form A and Form B—directly from their website. And just to be clear, the oncologist is the only one who fills these out—I mean, the actual doctor referring the patient for the scan. Once that's done, you fax it over to them. They’ll give you an appointment time, but honestly, if you want things to move faster, just pick up the phone and call them directly. They lay out the whole registration protocol on their site anyway, so just follow the instructions there.

If you’ve got that supplemental insurance card, the checkup through Medicare is totally free—no strings attached. If you don't have it, though, you're stuck paying the copay yourself. Simple as that. $433

A private checkup’s gonna run you about $11. $0.00But honestly, everyone’s just sitting around waiting for the first available opening anyway—so there’s really no such thing as cutting in line. It all ends up being the same.

It felt like we were waiting forever—I mean, we applied back on April 10th and didn't even get an appointment until May 19th—so we finally just called it quits and went to Budapest instead. It cost us about $1,100 plus travel expenses, and the whole thing was organized by this company, DMGV PET CT America (I'm actually trying to pull up their website right now, but it won't load, which is just typical). From the moment we secured the slot to actually getting the scan done, the entire process took maybe seven days total. Fast.

Look, since your mom is doing okay and this is just a routine checkup, you should probably get her scheduled in NYC as soon as possible. We were actually rushing to get things sorted because my mom was diagnosed with metastatic melanoma—it turns out that follow-up was basically the only way they could figure out if the cancer had spread elsewhere, which, unfortunately, it had. 😢Look, you just can't pinpoint the epicenter using this method—it's fundamentally flawed.

To everyone fighting this battle right now—and to their families, too—I’m sending nothing but strength. You're going to need it, but I truly hope you find the grit and the success needed to pull through this.
Hey Brenda Walker58, sending my best to you and your family!

Honestly, I don't really have much to add beyond what you already said—just hang in there and don't back down.

I'm really hoping your parents pull through and feel better once they finish their treatments.

🙂
Grace Fowler said:I am truly heartbroken over your massive loss....
Look, I don't cry often—honestly, rarely—but right now, I am...

My oncologist looked at my results and decided we should wait four weeks to rerun the markers before figuring out our next move. I’m not losing my nerve or my will to fight, though—not by a long shot. Right now, I just want to picture myself in a better future, skipping all this agonizing waiting between tests... I'm sending good vibes to everyone else in the fight; let's stay brave, especially since summer is just around the corner...
Grace


Dear Grace, keep your head up. Reading through your posts, it's clear you're holding your own with serious courage👍!

I'm rooting for you—mostly wishing you nothing but health, above everything else...

I already know how terrible it feels dealing with my own mother's illness, so I can't even begin to imagine what you're going through. But believe me, seeing your posts here actually helps me feel a bit better—knowing you're still here, still fighting!

Wishing the best to you, and to everyone else in this group too!
Elizabeth Diaz60, please accept my sincerest condolences 😢!
Elizabeth Gonzalez55 said:Right, ocular melanoma. Basically, melanoma happens when melanocytes go haywire—those cells are mostly in your skin, but they exist in other parts of the body too, like the eye. It’s a rare type of melanoma, totally different from the skin kind; it’s incredibly aggressive and usually spreads to the liver pretty fast. Treatment usually involves surgery to remove either the affected part of the eye or, sometimes, the entire eye. 😢

Listen, people, this damn thing is popping up everywhere. We’re getting people reaching out to us because they heard through various channels that we’ve started traveling abroad for treatment, and honestly, it’s terrifying how widespread this specific cancer has become. Even a doctor here in the US told us that the incidence rate for melanoma is skyrocketing.

Summer is coming, which means we all need to be extra careful. We did a little digging into sunscreen brands and realized they aren't exactly a silver bullet—once we saw what they actually pack into those formulas, we decided the best move is just to stay inside and only head out early in the morning or late in the evening. On the days we absolutely have to be out in the heat, we’ll just stick to hats, sunglasses, and long-sleeved clothes...

I know paranoia isn't the answer, but an oncologist in Heidelberg told me I fall right into the high-risk category—blonde hair, light eyes, lots of moles, and having burned myself in the sun more than once in my life—so he recommended I get a dermatological exam. I keep putting it off, thinking maybe lightning won't strike twice, but seriously, I definitely need to go in for a checkup. And as for the sun? Forget about it, I'm done!

Thanks for the info. That whole ocular melanoma thing sounds horrific; I'll give her a call in a few days to see how things are progressing, hopefully in time...

And regarding the sun and risk groups—tell me about it. My mom, me, my girls (especially the youngest one), and my husband all fall into that exact same group...

THANKS for the info, cheers!