Ashley Vaughn79 said:I’m sorry, but that didn’t come across as particularly well-intentioned on your part.
The woman hasn't actually done anything to you directly, other than posting a US ad, which she is completely entitled to do.
It’s her choice how she presents herself both on this forum and in her ads, just as it’s up to every individual to decide whether they want to respond to a certain type of ad or forum presence.
It isn't our job to judge whether someone is trolling or not, and we certainly shouldn't be dragging people through ten different posts with a condescending tone.
I wouldn't want someone of this type to discourage people from placing a US ad, especially since we already have a separate thread where people dissect forum history and basically mock others.
That isn't the point of the US section, and I wouldn't want the ad commentary thread to turn into that kind of thing.
Maybe I would have reacted more calmly if you hadn't kept up the same tone after I pointed out that what was happening wasn't right.
It's rare that a specific username gets under my skin like this. I'm not being zloban now, nor will I be tomorrow. That's a pretty harsh classification on your part... honestly, quite unfair and incorrect.
The content posted by this user does tend to invite mockery, simply because it lacks logic and common sense.
Where I do agree with you is that we shouldn't intimidate people who want to post an ad. And okay, I didn't account for that part.
You guys seem to police trolling so strictly—even Swithim expressed surprise at the author in the original thread. A crowd of forum users immediately starts debating "troll or not troll."
I didn't twist or paraphrase anything; I quoted it. I wasn't imagining things, and I didn't go beyond what was explicitly stated. Time will tell who is behind this handle.
I'm currently at an annual retreat waiting for a medical checkup, so I've had plenty of downtime... which leads to more posts.
If that user hadn't written what they wrote and opened an ad within a single day, it wouldn't have triggered this much feedback (from me or anyone else).
I don't make a habit of stalking anyone, whether in real life or online.
I understand this is your job, that you have guidelines and your own way of handling things... but you assigned a motive to me that wasn't there, treated me like a child—given how you phrased it—and effectively stripped away my right to speak.
That goes completely against the very principles you claim to defend regarding online identities.
And if we're moving into moral territory—since you're calling me zloban—is it considered "okay" to advertise looking for new partners while you're seeing someone else? Is that what we're defending here?
Just totally fine.
As for my own ads, since you pivoted to that later when you were lecturing me... I used to post ads too, meeting many guys over a decade ago. One of them is my best friend today. So, I've been through the experience, and I think it's a wonderful opportunity for people to connect both virtually and in person...