Posts by casualhound

Edward Grant3, please take my condolences. Honestly, I am just so incredibly sorry. It takes a long time—really, a lot of time—for someone to get used to the physical absence of a person, but I truly believe you'll start feeling this other kind of presence... a different kind of love instead

hollowridge88 said:Good evening. I don't know if anyone here remembers me—my sister and I have been posting about our mom, who was diagnosed with metastatic lung cancer last November... We’ve typed so much here, searching for help and answers... Well, we are at the terminal stage now. We tried everything—chemo, radiation, smart drugs, more radiation, even oral chemo—but unfortunately, nothing worked. Mom fell in the hospital, broke her hip back in June, and ever since, it's just been one thing after another. We are in the final stretch; she’s been eating maybe two tiny spoonfuls of broth a day for the last 10 days (she can't swallow food or water, she has a tracheostomy, her throat and esophagus are infected, and she's in pain in her throat and chest). She drinks maybe 10ml of water (she's severely dehydrated, we finished the IVs but they aren't even helping with those anymore). A week ago, she had pains like she's never felt before (we got some morphine drops). She has no appetite, she's cold, she looks yellow, her head looks sunken, she's maybe 30kg (and 15 days ago she was around 45kg), she sleeps constantly, has this blank stare, can't concentrate, can't listen, and sometimes can't even talk... sometimes she just says nonsense... Everyone tells us it's the end, that we should prepare... is it really the end? Can someone please explain what this means based on my description?! Mom has adenocarcinoma of the lung with metastases in the brain, lymph nodes, spine, kidneys, adrenal glands, near the heart, in the bones, stomach, and even blood metastases in her hands... She has sores from lying down because she's been bedridden for 3 months... Please, can someone tell me what this state means and how long someone can last without food and water in this condition? Thank you. I wish everyone healing and strength; it looks like we just have to say our goodbyes and let go.

Honey, I am with you with all my heart. A few months ago, I was "forced" to watch my dad's painful passing due to pancreatic cancer. I say "watch," because there was literally nothing that could be done. I nearly lost my mind reading, living, researching, trying... Everything moved at an unbelievable speed—just a month and a half from diagnosis to his passing. I didn't get to hold on until the very last minute—I just couldn't believe he was going to die, that there was nothing we could do. I could only witness the daily changes in my dad's body (many of which are the same ones you mentioned). In those last 3 or 4 days, he barely spoke to us (he was in the hospital), he hardly opened his eyes, he was extremely yellow, thin, exhausted, and in pain. At the exact moment he passed, I was right there, and it simply wouldn't sink in that it was my dad. The physical changes in him were truly drastic; the person I was looking at in that bed didn't even look like him.
From my experience, what you're describing sounds like the end is near. I know it's hard, it's painful, it's terrifying. One of the worst feelings you can go through is witnessing the painful death of someone you love. My advice would be to try to think about her life—about all the good she did while she was on this planet—and try to feel grateful for every single moment you spent with her. I'm also trying to change the way I think and the emotions that flood me when I remember the illness and my dad—trying to turn the grief, the misfortune, and the suffering into gratitude for everything he gave me in life. The people we "lost" are so much more than the event of the illness or the death that we become so consumed by. That's how I try to look at it.
I know I can't comfort you, I know it's hard. I want to send you so much strength.

Amanda Miller69 said:man, I am dreading this part all over again🙄

Hang in there, Zachary Howard2—you've got this!
Just know we're all rooting for you and keeping you in our thoughts!

Sending my deepest condolences, feralsurfer7 😢
🙂

And thanks so much for sharing that song—it’s absolutely beautiful.

feralsurfer72 said:Is it even possible to have pancreatic cancer and liver cirrhosis at the same time?

Hey feralsurfer72, I am seriously so sorry to hear about your dad. Honestly, I don’t even know what the smart or encouraging thing to say is—I just want to tell you to hang in there and give it everything you've got while you're in the middle of this fight. I totally get how much stress there is, the uncertainty, the feeling like your nerves are just about to snap.
Please, please try to take care of yourself as much as you can—though I know that sounds way easier said than done. Everyone tells me the same thing, but let’s be real, I barely get a few minutes in an entire day where my brain isn't spinning, let alone having time to actually do something "for myself."

Since you were wondering if that combination of diagnoses is possible, I wanted to share what I saw with my own dad—just based on my own experience with that kind of cancer.
With him, the symptoms started out as really intense pain in his stomach and back, plus he lost his appetite completely... basically, most food just didn't "sit right" with him anymore, so he started dropping weight fast.
As things progressed, the pain just became unbearable, the weight loss got much more drastic, and then his skin started turning yellow—and eventually, his eyes went really, really yellow too.

Hey everyone,

It’s actually kind of tough for me to show up here on the forum—honestly, just skimming through your posts brings back all that uncertainty, fear, stress, and those endless questions that were keeping me up at night until very recently.

My dad passed away from esophageal cancer, and it happened way too fast.
It was basically a month from the initial diagnosis to him being gone. The disease just moved through him with this terrifying speed, day after day.
The doctors didn't give us any hope or even a fighting chance, so unfortunately, my dad is gone.

Just like all of you here, we didn't throw in the towel until the very last second. That’s why I really want to wish you all so much strength and grit—please, never give up!

Since conventional medicine wasn't offering us any real options or hope, I really wanted to look into some alternative solutions. But because my dad’s condition became so critical so quickly, we barely had time to try anything. So, I can't really sit here and tell you which specific methods or supplements work or don't work.

But, I did want to mention—if anyone here is already familiar with Graviola, I can help you get a hold of it for way cheaper than what they charge in the States.
See, I'm living in Indonesia right now, where 50 grams of Daun Sirsak (Graviola) costs literally $1.75. Meanwhile, I noticed that over in the US, people are paying as much as $67 for 100 grams.
So, yeah, if anyone wants me to mail some to you, we can make that happen. You’d just cover the cost of the Graviola and the shipping—I don't want anyone thinking I'm trying to turn a profit off this.
It honestly just breaks my heart seeing how much money people are forced to shell out for these things...

Anyway, I'm wishing you all nothing but luck, strength, and success in your fight.

Hey there! So, I just flew through about 32 pages 🙂 of all your advice and replies—seriously, some of you have dropped absolute gems! I’ve only got one little thing left on my mind, though, and it’s about the gynecologists over at the university clinic (the one in downtown Chicago). I’ve heard rumors that one guy there can be pretty vulgar—like, totally out of line—while another one is actually decent. Apparently, they even brought on a female doctor recently, but I don't know anyone who has actually seen her yet.
Is anyone here seeing the doctors at the uni clinic? What’s been your experience like?

Heyyyy!