Religion classes in school - Megathread
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mellowskipper said:A colleague’s daughter went through something similar once. Her family are atheists—not religious at all—and there wasn't any drama about it; the homeroom teacher didn't single her out or anything like that.
I suppose the same kind of thing could happen with an elective language class if a kid doesn't sign up for it—the teacher only sees them once a week during extracurriculars anyway.
At the end of the day, a teacher for any subject really ought to be a professional first and foremost—someone who keeps their personal biases to themselves as much as possible...
Skyfall, thanks. I slept on this info, and honestly, we feel a bit better now. Plus, reading about this experience (and I know we aren't the only ones stuck in a spot like this) helps.
It makes me think—even if a person is actually being decent, you still have those teachers (art, English, physics, etc.) who can be total jerks, unfair, or just plain difficult.
Susan James said:Hmm. I'm not quite sure what to tell you.
Personally, I wouldn't be okay with that. I'd probably even consider pulling my kid out of the school altogether... if they've already moved the kids around because of language requirements, she's likely losing friends regardless. That said, I think this is definitely something that needs to be addressed directly with the administration.
Actually, if they rearranged the classes based on languages, could you request that she be placed in a class led by a non-religious studies teacher instead? There are still three other classes she could potentially join.
Forget the foreign language requirement; if it's that much of a hassle, just pull her out if there isn't another way to make it work (I honestly don't get how they managed to shuffle them all around like that 😕)
It isn't just about whether the homeroom teacher sees her in Religious Studies or whether he fails to advocate for her because she's an atheist (or just doesn't know him). In my view, it's ultimately the parent's job to step up for their child. A homeroom teacher is mostly a bureaucrat who handles attendance and organizes field trips. It feels wrong to me that the homeroom role is being filled by someone who didn't go through the same hiring process as the rest of the faculty (and consequently has a different schedule because they teach at Vatican City. Choosing to teach at Vatican City is for Religious Studies, not for homeroom duties).
Plus, it seems wrong that he'll be leading those Religious Studies classes where certain topics are discussed, which—no matter how liberal or reasonable he is—are handled differently through a religious lens.
Since this is in Washington, D.C., I would personally send an email to City Hall. At the end of the day, they are the ones in charge, and I still find myself hoping they'll show some common sense here.
Also, check who is on your school board, especially the representative from the city, and reach out to them.
(He probably just needs more hours in his schedule, but he shouldn't have to fill them by taking on homeroom duties.)
Susan James, thank you for the support too. That's exactly how I'm looking at it, and I hold the same view (it's unacceptable for someone to lead a class when they weren't hired by the school in the same way the other teachers were; if someone is religious, they should practice at their own church, etc.), but there are other (stressful, life-related) things piling up right now, so we decided at home: if anything, *anything* happens, we react. As long as the communication and information remain professional, we'll be fine. We could just as easily end up with a geography teacher or a physics teacher that we'd have much bigger problems and stress with over something totally trivial.
But, if you're asking if we were shocked, yes, we were. We talk to our girl a lot, and she already knows why she isn't doing Religious Studies—because we don't want to raise her in fear, etc. If she wants to participate when she's older, that will be her choice. She already knows how to stand her ground (and does it brilliantly, which makes me proud) when other kids try to intimidate her or exclude her because she doesn't go, but she handles it without a fight and just goes: "if I don't bother you with stuff I believe in, don't bother me with yours."