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Fear of rubber bands in Feedback & Suggestions ·
Grace Edwards92 said:Why was my identical thread deleted from Psychology?

I don't believe I was being vulgar or disrespectful; in fact, I felt it was perfectly appropriate for the subforum. I made a conscious effort to avoid criticizing the moderation and tried to encourage other users to maintain decorum while expressing their feelings.

Where did I go wrong?

I agree; it was a well-constructed topic. I even wrote a thoughtful post to a colleague regarding how to stop overthinking—something that pertains to psychology rather than moderation. However, we were met with nonsense. I request an explanation from the moderators.🍿
Just a random thought from a nobody in Spirituality ·
Lawrence Torres56 said:@steelmarlin77, you're basically talking out of turn without any actual ground to stand on 😁, because let's face it—no one can ever truly erase the existence of anything or anyone... sure, they might try, but they’ll always fail because there's always going to be someone out there to "bring you back," no matter who you were or what you did during your time here... I mean, if you think you have the power to "bring back" your own ancestors, or even those ancient lineages from way back, then why wouldn't those coming after you have that same chance to bring you back? Just by being born, you become this vital link in a massive chain, connecting all these other links together... maybe that feels totally insignificant to you right now, but for someone else, at some point in time, it could be everything.

👍 Precisely that. 👍
živijo 🙂
Just a random thought from a nobody in Spirituality ·
steelmarlin77 said:Nobody can be (exactly) like me, sure... but maybe nobody even needs to be. Here’s a little story about that. Once upon a time, I made some tarot cards that could essentially nullify reality. For instance, something happens, you flip those cards, and the event is canceled. All the causes and consequences stemming from that event are wiped out. Like it never happened. Except, of course, the event still lingers in your mind, because if you tried to erase it from there, you'd end up erasing yourself too. Now, imagine you flip those cards and erase yourself—as if you never existed. What would fundamentally change? Nothing? Something? If you erased Tesla, for example, things would definitely change. Maybe I wouldn't be typing this right now, because there wouldn't be any invented current. Just kidding—someone else would surely have invented it, but maybe everything would have been based on direct current, and alternating current would have been discovered much later and talked about as some kind of miracle of green tech. Who knows. But honestly, if you look at it that way, you could erase him or anyone else, and the world would keep spinning. Even if you erased the whole country, the universe would still be there. And even without this universe, there would probably be other universes. Nothing is so vital that it isn't replaceable or, frankly, unimportant. That's my thesis on this topic, and it seems like nobody has really disputed it; most people just nodded along... And here I was, hoping someone might prove that we are somehow truly essential, that things simply couldn't happen without us. Though, nobody can be (exactly) like us, or as the late Zvonimir Balog put it:

When God
Issued the command
That someone should be
Zvonimir Balog

Everyone stood frozen like stone
No one dared
Accept that duty
Except me.

So, there it is—one playful look at my own "necessity," obviously with a healthy dose of self-deprecating distance. That’s what keeps me going. It’s uncomfortable being responsible. It’s actually quite nice knowing that all those blowhards who think they’re so responsible for our destinies aren't responsible for anything at all, not even themselves. They’re driven by impulses and passions that build up like electrical surges in the brain, and when the charge gets high enough, a reaction occurs, something shifts, and people say, "that was my (free) will." If everything is necessary, then we are necessary too—we're just not important. But we can't exactly remove ourselves from the entire system around us without everything falling apart. That's the point of that "nobody can take my place" idea, because if I don't occupy it, nobody else would be able to occupy theirs either; there wouldn't be Tesla, Einstein, Mozart—no genius, no solar system, no entire universe could exist if I vanished. Uh... But how can I nullify an event and stay alive? You can understand the answer through the lens of many-worlds theory. In "my universe," an event can never be undone, but in other people's universes, it can be canceled, and they continue existing in a universe where that event never occurred, one that only marginally overlaps with mine. By canceling the event, I've "exiled" myself from my universe, and now I exist in my own unique bubble, while other people exist in a universe where that event doesn't exist and perceive me only in that peripheral way. Let's assume most people have a certain number of "intimate" events that concern them and perhaps a few people around them, and because of that, they mostly live in their own private universes, which vanish along with their passing. For other people, that intimacy doesn't exist. Now, you could tell me I write books, like Proust or Genet... but did you ever read all of Proust? And how much of it went unsaid...? Anyway, you get me... There's no way a person's entire intimate world can be recorded in the minds of everyone else, so those events vanish, ceasing to exist when that person dies. I can't preserve myself, save myself onto a floppy disk or a CD; they don't reach their climax, their resolution... Through a work of art, we see only a tiny fragment of a vanished person, which everyone interprets through their own intimacy, in their own way, potentially touching on the human and universal, but only if they have an affinity for art. Montaigne wrote solely to turn himself into a book, to live within those pages so that some friend might flip through them and "breathe" with him again. Eternity within an inanimate object. Woody Allen would say, "I prefer to achieve immortality by—not dying." But I'm not afraid of death; in fact, it kind of excites me because it feels like individual existence is a limitation... If there's reincarnation, you can try something again; if not, you can be one with the universe, having a complete understanding of everything, or even more—individuality for acting within all that. What haunts me is the cessation of everything that was intimately important to me, and the fact that no one will continue down that path or know anything about it. When I was younger, it seemed so important to hide these things, to make myself an unknown, a "faceless author" who leaves behind only the "work"... Now, it seems to me that's completely wrong... Screw the work; the author is what matters. Who gives a damn about the work anyway...?

You overthink things and underdeliver 🙂. You aren't essential enough for the world to stop turning without you, even if your presence provided some sense of purpose or inspiration to someone else.

If you prefer to lie around and take beatings from life, that is your prerogative, though I suppose even Christ had his suffering.

While much of what you say holds weight, I see a certain logic in your current state.
A man who talks without acting achieves nothing. He’s less useful than a houseplant—consuming oxygen and resources without contributing anything. What is the point of existing if you produce nothing? There is no greater waste.

Pick up a shovel and dig a hole; at least that constitutes work, even if you're just digging your own grave 🙂. Perhaps I am being blunt, but it seems you need the wake-up call, so please don't take offense. živijo, brother; I hope things improve for you. 🙂
Just a random thought from a nobody in Spirituality ·
Benjamin Taylor6 said:So, it sounds like your biggest headache is basically your mother and your lovely wife.😁

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You analyzed that quite well again. 🙂 Are you a surgeon by any chance? 😁
Just a random thought from a nobody in Spirituality ·
steelmarlin77 said:That's all pretty abstract, though. But how do you handle a concrete mess? Like, say, you love two different people, but they absolutely loathe each other, and both of them are giving you an ultimatum: ditch the other one or lose me forever. I'm telling you, that's a real-world problem that can only be solved by triage. You have to pick who matters more and cut the other one loose, no matter how much it sucks. How would you handle that "shoulder to shoulder" thing with life in that scenario? You could also just do nothing, let them both dump you and tear each other apart, or just ditch both of them right now and go find a third option. It seems to me that for these kinds of inevitable, recurring headaches, you really need thick skin. And I see these thick-skinned types all over the place—people who delegate their problems, dodge their debts, act cold toward anyone in need, cause chaos, steal, climb the corporate ladder, and just thrive... Did life reward them with that thick skin because it just doesn't care about anyone else? In a specific case like that, do you think you should be a pacifist and let nature take its course, or should someone like that get a little "rubbed the wrong way" so their skin thins out and they actually start paying attention to others next time? I don't think it's always wrong to push back; if people acted with a bit more backbone, maybe we wouldn't run into these endless, unsolvable conflicts all the time. Because, truthfully, these impossible situations fuel the thick-skinned people, and those people, in turn, fuel the situations. It's a feedback loop.

Those who set ultimatums, no matter how good they are, aren't truly looking out for you. It's especially brutal when it involves family, but if it's someone else, the logic remains. Remember, you were born alone and you will die alone, so prioritize being a friend to yourself first.

Injustice is a bitter pill. We live in a world where unfairness happens daily. You have two choices: fight every injustice you see (which is noble, but wastes energy on things likely beyond your control), or act within your own sphere of influence. We can't exactly solve the famine in sub-Saharan Africa, so focus on helping your own community.
The qualities you possess are not a curse; rather, you have a beautiful, learned trait. Imagine if there were 3.5 billion people like you—half the world population thinking this way would elevate humanity to a magnificent level. So, act according to what you've learned. If you want to look out for your own interests a little (though I believe everyone does, as we are only human), there is no shame in that. The more people like you exist, the more beautiful and just the world becomes. Remember, by changing ourselves, we change the world. And if you can't enjoy life a little, what was the point of it all?
Here is a bit of motivation for you.

http://www.ted.com/talks/matthieu_ri..._be_your_guide

Now, if the situation involves a woman or a mother, it becomes incredibly difficult. I suspect there are similar stories on this forum, so look there for perspective. On one hand, your mother gave you life, and on the other, a partner carries your legacy forward; eventually, you'll have to make a choice. Just remember, a mother's love is unconditional 😁, whereas for women, it's a bit more complicated 🙂.
Cheers to 🙂
Just a random thought from a nobody in Spirituality ·
steelmarlin77 said:Sure, those are the broad strokes, but there’s plenty of life to live outside of religious doctrines and programmed paths. Christianity is a tricky one; they demand you give everything up with the promise of some Heaven in another place that nobody has ever actually returned from to talk about. What if you don't believe in an afterlife? Or what if it simply doesn't exist? Does any of it even matter then? And honestly, does it *really* matter if you're only doing good just to secure a spot in paradise? Because at that point, you're just manipulating yourself into creating a sense of purpose where none exists.

People need connection because, at the end of the day, we’re social animals. We give and we take whenever the mood strikes. You can't really judge who’s been more selfish or stingy, because even the tightwads are losers, or maybe Dickens was just messing with us regarding that miser who hated Christmas. Whether someone is cheap or generous usually just comes down to how they were raised. Some people are taught to be selfless from the time they can walk, while others are taught to be total narcissists. It's like how people say folks from certain regions are stingy while others are big spenders—it's often just a product of their upbringing. But that’s not the point; the point is self-actualization through giving. Man, even Mother Teresa probably wondered near the end of her life if there was any actual point to wiping the asses of the world's sickest patients, even if she did end up with all that fame and global applause. What kind of self-actualization is that? Christianity says she’s heading to a Heaven that might not exist, devotional religion would say she should have prayed or fasted more or listened closer to her guru, the Satanists would call her a fool, and the New Agers would say she should have focused on herself instead of wasting away for others. The only thing I see is that some of these selfless types burn out early, hitting a wall in their thirties or forties. So, from a pure survival standpoint, being selfless doesn't seem to pay off, but maybe, just maybe, it does from the perspective of self-actualization.

My apologies for my previous post regarding the jam and the way that joke landed. 🙂

On a serious note, I will leave you with just one or two sentences:
You reap what you sow.
What you plant is what you harvest.
In my view, selfishness isn't learned; it's innate (you have to look out for yourself to ensure the survival of your inner circle), so the struggle against nature is constant. Service, while learned, becomes a habit, and once you possess that habit, there is no reason to worry about it.
It is only when we stop expecting anything in return for our labor that we truly recognize our gifts. Stay positive. 🙂
Just a random thought from a nobody in Spirituality ·
bluemason3 said:To be honest, this feels more like a psychology lecture than an actual PDF. Self-actualization depends entirely on which crowd you decide to hang out with. In this context:

- Buddhism/Advaita: Who is this "you" experiencing the problem? Where do these issues even originate? None of it—not your ego, nor the stuff happening to it—has any objective or lasting reality. Once you grasp the illusionary, transient nature of existence through a direct insight into reality, everything else just sorts itself out. If you don't have to make things difficult, don't.

- Devotional Religion: A higher power dictates and knows everything. Your best bet is to surrender and let go. Let it happen according to His will and grace. Whether it works out or not, we play by His rules.

- The Dark Path: Stop being a coward. Build yourself up, learn to look out for number one, and quit blaming everyone else for your own weaknesses. Make a fortune, maybe summon a demon in a black hoodie if you feel like it. Do whatever you want. Just make sure you're the one in control when it counts.

- Fluffy New Age Vibes: Calibrate your aura, read some mystical poem about love and wisdom, and pay someone to tell you how special you are. Basically, just get lost in the sauce.

That’s pretty much the long and short of it.

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I would simply add that wasting time has therapeutic benefits for the ethereal body. 🙂
GPU Buying Guide - (Read first post) in Desktops ·
Adam Moore3 said:The primary issue you'll face with this upgrade is the power supply. Systems like yours often come with cheap, off-brand units, so trying to squeeze a better one into that specific build isn't practical. If you can set aside about a hundred bucks, just grab THIS PSU and spend the rest on a used GTX 560 or something in that same class from eBay.

Thanks for the info. I appreciate the reminder regarding the power supply, though this unit technically has more wattage than the standard version. However, since it's a slim chassis, there's no room to swap in a different card anyway. Thanks again. Cheers.
GPU Buying Guide - (Read first post) in Desktops ·
Thanks for the info, everyone. It seems I was looking in the wrong place 🙂. If you don't mind me asking, can I install newer graphics cards with this chipset? (Forgive me, I'm a bit out of the loop here). Also, what does an x16 PCI Express slot actually imply—is it just a standard slot or something superior? Basically, if I pick up any card up to $167, won't my performance gains be negligible?
Could someone please suggest an upgrade for this rig with a budget of $333 so I can play some modern titles 🙂? Apologies for being a nuisance; my hardware knowledge has declined significantly 🙂
GPU Buying Guide - (Read first post) in Desktops ·
Greetings, fellow hardware enthusiasts. I am seeking your expert opinions on a matter. I will soon be acquiring a very inexpensive http://support.lenovo.com/en/documents/pd013522
It features an i3 processor paired with an Intel Q65 chipset
My question is: which graphics card would you recommend for decent performance? It is primarily intended for virtual machines, though we do some gaming when those VMs are running 🙂
I can spend up to $167 on a GPU, so please share your suggestions. I trust your judgment regarding compatibility with my current setup

I noticed there are two PCI slots available. Could someone explain if it is possible to merge cards so they function as one? I may have just stated something entirely foolish 😁 By the way, the integrated graphics are either Intel HD 2000 or 3000. Thank you for your time

Additionally, I have not specified the exact type yet; I am still waiting to confirm 🙂
Spirituality and money in Spirituality ·
Benjamin Taylor6 said:Theoretically, you’ve got a point there. But then again, you have to consider the psychology of the complete opposite extreme—the idea that people might just decide to walk away from material progress altogether and start Living like the Amish!
Or maybe like humble friars—honestly, if everyone had actually stuck to the literal teachings of Jesus, we’d still be out here driving horse-drawn carriages instead of high-tech EVs.

So, some group of so-called "expert" theologians got together—you know how it goes, they sit around in their ivory towers—and decided to cook up an entirely different set of rules for the game. Apparently, they think they’ve found a way to tie everything directly to the evolution of modern capitalism. It's all very interconnected, if you ask me...
The Protestant work ethic—it’s one of those concepts people love to toss around in academic circles, but if you actually sit down and look at the gears turning underneath, it gets a bit complicated. It isn't just about being a "good worker" or showing up to the office in Chicago at 8:00 AM sharp; it’s a deep-seated psychological framework that shaped how much of our modern world was built. Back in the day, particularly within certain branches of American Protestantism, there was this intense idea that success wasn't just about luck or divine favor—though people certainly prayed for it—but rather a sign of one's standing with God. If you were industrious, disciplined, and avoided the "sinful" temptations of leisure or excess, your prosperity was seen as a sort of outward evidence of your inner grace. It turned the act of working itself into a spiritual discipline. You weren't just grinding away to pay the rent; you were fulfilling a calling. Now, I know what some might say—and I’ve heard folks like Benjamin Taylor6 argue similar points in different contexts—that this mindset is what fueled the massive industrial expansion we saw in the US during the 19th century. And they aren't wrong. That relentless drive to optimize, to save, and to reinvest instead of spending on frivolous luxuries... well, that's the engine that powered the American Dream. It created a culture of extreme productivity, but let’s be honest—it also laid the groundwork for the burnout culture we’re all drowning in today. I remember my grandfather used to talk about his time working in the steel mills back in Pennsylvania. He didn't see it as a "career path" in the modern, sanitized sense; he saw it as a duty. To him, wasting time was practically a moral failing. There was no "quiet quitting" back then—not because the bosses were nicer (they certainly weren't), but because the internal compass pointing toward hard work was so heavily calibrated. But here’s where it gets messy. When you take a spiritual motivator and turn it into a purely economic one, things start to warp. We moved from a belief in "calling" to a blind worship of Mammon. We traded the pursuit of meaningful labor for the sheer accumulation of capital. It’s a slippery slope, really—one where the dignity of the individual often gets lost in the pursuit of the bottom line. We kept the "work" part of the equation, but we slowly stripped away the "spiritual" foundation that was supposed to keep it grounded. It’s why so many people feel like they’re running on a treadmill that never stops, even though the religious fervor that started the race has long since faded into the background.

The whole idea behind the Protestant work ethic really boils down to this sense of sincere, straightforward devotion—you know, that deep-seated focus on honoring the Holy Trinity. It’s all rooted in that classic Christian heritage where you live out your faith through personal prayer and studying the Bible, while also being an active part of the community within the Church. There’s this one core theological principle that drives the whole thing—and it’s simple, though I think people overlook how vital it actually is: any job, no matter what it is, can be done for the glory of God if you approach it with honesty, dedication, and sheer persistence. It’s about putting your heart into the grind. To put it plainly—and I mean this in the most essential way—this kind of piety naturally encourages thriftiness. When you combine hard work with being smart about your money, you start creating the exact social conditions needed for capital to accumulate. Once you have that capital, and you use it rationally instead of just blowing it, you reinvest it to generate profit. Eventually, that leads to material prosperity for both the individual and society at large. It’s a cycle, really—work, save, invest, prosper. Simple as that.

See, the modern Christian capitalist doesn't actually get a kick out of just hoarding piles of cash to spend on himself—that’s not the point at all. No, his real goal is to scale up, to build more factories and provide enough jobs so that his workers can actually enjoy a decent standard of living.
The owner takes a tiny slice of the profit for his own personal luxuries, while the lion's share goes right back into the business—you know, upgrading technology and improving the actual foundation of the work. Take the owner of a massive retail chain like Walmart, for instance; he’s the textbook definition of this kind of capitalist.

It is the polar opposite of those nouveau riche American capitalists you see popping up everywhere lately—the ones whose only real ambition is to grab as much cash as possible and build gaudy mansions. They’ll even drive their own companies straight into the ground just to do it. Then again, most of them probably snatched up their businesses for pennies during some shady privatization deal anyway.
Take someone like a local tycoon looking to make a quick buck; they represent that classic, shallow American capitalist mindset. And apparently, once an American capitalist hits fifty with a fat bank account, the rule is that he absolutely has to marry a much younger woman.😁

I mean, let's be honest, that counts as accumulating material goods too:


You've dissected that quite precisely, almost surgically.🙂 👏
Spirituality and money in Spirituality ·
Michael Gonzalez77 said:I can't say I agree with that.

Whether you’re wealthy or struggling, everyone is driven by that same restless hunger. It’s a universal constant. Kids and young adults are the perfect example—they’re always reaching for something more than what they currently have, ranging from tiny trifles to massive ambitions. To someone sitting on a mountain of cash, the "big dreams" of an average person might seem trivial or even meaningless, but that's no consolation. Even those at the top are constantly chasing the next thing, forever looking for something more.

If we could just solve that one single issue—this relentless hunger for power and wealth—humanity would be in a vastly better place. It really comes down to a fundamental flaw in how we think. Honestly, I believe a broken mindset is the root cause of pretty much every problem and all the evil we see today. When people let that distorted thinking drive them, the fallout is nothing short of catastrophic.

The average person struggles with a skewed mindset regardless of their circumstances. When they’re doing well, they let their greed and endless desires run wild. When they’re facing an existential crisis, they might become more practical and focus on survival, but the negative thoughts still pile up either way. If you look at how human civilizations have actually progressed, history shows that growth usually happens when people aren't constantly starving. There’s an old saying that goes, "Religion isn't for empty stomachs." Essentially, having enough material stability provides the foundation needed for spiritual growth. Unfortunately, most people stay trapped by their worldly cravings, obsessing over whether their material wants will be met or not. That constant cycle of desire and disappointment? That’s the root of all suffering.

Back during the socialist era in America, we didn't actually solve our core issue: our flawed mindset. Even though most people were—let’s call it what it was—perfectly fine with their material status in many cases, the underlying rot remained. They still dealt with systemic negative thinking and chronic stress. Think of it this way: that stress is purely psychological. On its own, it might not seem like a massive hurdle to clear, but because people live in ignorance, they carry these patterns for thousands of years. It becomes an ingrained part of the human condition that most people don't even realize they have until it completely wrecks their nervous system, leading to debilitating chronic illnesses. If you aren't willing to throw yourself headfirst into fixing those internal patterns—if you aren't absolutely relentless about resolving that conflict within yourself—you simply cannot achieve spiritual growth.

The way most people think every single day is fundamentally broken. This constant loop of negative thoughts and unnecessary stress is arguably the root cause of almost all our societal issues. It wears down your nervous system, which essentially sabotages every part of your life. You end up stuck, limited, and completely unable to tap into the massive potential sitting right inside you—potential that’s far greater than anyone could ever imagine.

Wealthy people are just as selfish as everyone else, mostly because they're operating from a place of ignorance. If they actually understood the bigger picture, they’d be working to build a world that prioritizes the common good—but that would require them to confront their own greed. Of course, there are exceptions to the rule, but those people are few and far between.

The religious paradox is staring us right in the face. Look at Vatican City today—as the heart of the Christian organization, it stands as a massive monument to wealth and the pursuit of Mammon. It’s the polar opposite of the core essence of Christ's teachings regarding serving humanity. Meanwhile, we have millions of people around the globe dying from hunger every single year, most of them just children. On the flip side, you look at Islam, which for centuries has been intensely focused on the "desire for power." Sure, those two things are always intertwined, but in one case, greed takes center stage, while in the other, control is the main driver. In many Islamic nations, religious organizations hold the reins of government, but even where they don't currently rule, they remain an incredibly powerful opposition. They have massive followings and are essentially just waiting for the right moment to topple the current leadership through violence and everything else that comes with it.

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In a sense, you make a fair point. I am uncertain, however, if you are speaking from personal experience regarding having unlimited wealth, or if this is simply your general philosophy.

If one reflects deeply enough, a wealthy individual eventually realizes that their capital holds little intrinsic value. We see this today with various Hollywood stars and pop artists who, despite being extremely well-off, suffer from depression. While not all depression stems from a lack of spiritual life, I believe many of these individuals realize there is "something more" to existence through such struggles. Of course, I am generalizing here, and that is not always the case.

What such a person typically does—and finds easiest—is pay a "guru" to teach them the secrets of life. Some might claim they wouldn't, but let's be realistic: if I had as much money as I wanted, I would certainly find myself attending the most expensive spiritual seminars available.
I am not questioning their desire for knowledge; rather, I suspect that someone accustomed to handing out money still retains the habit of "paying for a service" instead of "working for a service."
To my mind, that is a flawed concept because money truly possesses no value, especially to them.

If we simplify the idea: suppose this wealthy person loves driving their Lamborghini at 150 mph on a specific highway. That is a passion. They also enjoy the money they possess.

But if you asked them, would they rather give up a portion of their wealth or the experience of driving that Lamborghini at 140 mph? Personally, I believe they would surrender the cash before they would ever give up the thrill of the drive.

Similarly, I believe that to receive something, one must first give. If you give away something that holds no personal value—money, for instance, which you view as trivial because you have plenty—then the act won't feel significant since you didn't work hard for it. However, if someone sacrifices something precious—an experience, in this case—they will perceive its value as much greater because they gave more of themselves. Eventually, they may realize that the value of driving a Lamborghini isn't inherently better or worse than riding a bicycle, even if a Lamborghini is certainly not a bicycle.
I hope this clarifies my perspective to some extent.

I had never viewed religion from that angle, but it makes sense. Thank you for sharing that. 🙂
Living.
Spirituality and money in Spirituality ·
The issue is that a wealthy individual lacks any real drive for more, since they can simply acquire whatever they desire. Eventually, they might realize money isn't everything, though they'd likely just spend it all again to find out. To them, money becomes meaningless once you have an abundance. That is why you have to force such a person to sacrifice something to gain 🙂. Some people actually exploit this; instead of asking for cash, they demand something far more Divine from him.
Spirituality and money in Spirituality ·
Robert Fisher9 said:Money itself, just like anything else, isn't inherently good or bad—it’s like a knife... you can use it to cook a great dinner or cause some serious harm... the choice is entirely yours. Having a ton of cash doesn't mean someone lacks spiritual depth; it's only the obsession with money that does that. Same goes for getting too attached to anything material—whether it's a house, a car, a person, or even an idea...

That being said, in today's world, money often acts as this awesome catalyst for spiritual growth... so honestly, thanks for existing, money! I'm a fan.=)

Hehe.🙂
It is certainly easier to buy meat from a butcher than it is to raise and slaughter the animal yourself.
I find the same applies to spirituality. One must give something to receive something—that is simply how the universe works. While money might hold no weight for some spiritual seekers, for others, it carries far too much.🙂
People who are choosing to be childfree in Psychology ·
Patrick Wright2 said:Look, I definitely don't want kids, man. Honestly, I’m just way too self-centered to take on that kind of massive responsibility, especially when you consider how much energy you have to pour into them for such an insanely long stretch of time. I’d basically have to put my own desires and ambitions on the back burner, and let me tell you, I am just not ready for that.

To be perfectly honest, 👍
People who are choosing to be childfree in Psychology ·
I consider myself responsible enough to realize I shouldn't bring a child into such an unfair world. (I'm basically being hard on myself here). Let’s be honest: I’m selfish. I love sleeping in until 10 or 11 on Saturdays, and I value my peace. One day, if I'm financially stable enough to provide a life similar to the one I had growing up, I might actually sit around and daydream about it. I can already picture a little kid running around and causing chaos for their old man. But let’s be real—even then, I’d probably find some excuse to avoid it. It always works out somehow. 🙂

If I were to find myself in that situation by pure accident, I’d likely eventually realize what a blessing it truly is. But for now, it's just baby steps.
Cheers 🙂
Jeffrey Fisher5 said:
Why do certain people attract Evil?

No one is born malicious. Not possible—regardless of what various fringe theories about demons or similar concepts might suggest.
We all start from the same baseline.
We enter this world as innocent infants, possessing no concept of the distinction between good and evil.
Then, evil finds us.
Often, it arrives wearing the face of those closest to us. Or, later, through strangers we encounter along our path.
But let’s be honest: evil exists within us, too. There isn't a single human being who isn't composed of both light and shadow.
And there isn't a soul among us who hasn't committed some sort of wrong, even when they truly believe they
are doing good.
The old adage "the road to hell is paved with good intentions" isn't just a cliché; it's a reality.

In your post, there is a very palpable need to do good (by your definition of goodness), yet there is an underlying expectation of a reward—in the form of recognition, respect, or affection.
True good deeds shouldn't require a trophy or a thank-you note.
One does them simply because you know they are right, or because it aligns with your internal compass. It shouldn't matter whether anyone notices.
Nor should it matter if someone else is rewarded for their unscrupulous behavior.
There is no room for envy or jealousy there, nor for comparisons.
One shouldn't feel diminished, nor should they stop being a good person, regardless of whether their actions are acknowledged by the people they specifically hope will notice.

You haven't quite finished the work of getting to know yourself yet, and because of that, you're already considering giving up (the suicidal ideation).
Once you truly understand who you are—your actual core—it becomes much easier to manage the darker impulses within yourself. You'll also better understand how to navigate the darkness in others, because evil doesn't always wear the same mask.
Life is, fundamentally, one long lesson.
Until our final hour.
Until then, just stay on your path... do good, and try not to look back at the shadows.

I am genuinely surprised by the level of intellect on this forum. WELL DONE.🙂

Even when you do good and it isn't returned as you expected, push even harder.

Because those people provide the necessary soil for personal GROWTH.🙂

I feel a surge of genuine optimism seeing people actually grasp these concepts and take action.🙂
John Palmer9 said:If this isn't just someone trolling, then I guess:

There has to be some bad out there, otherwise we wouldn't really know what good looks like. It feels like you can't have one without the other. Maybe we should just accept that possibility—that some people are going to act maliciously toward you—and then try to figure out ways to deal with those toxic types. I suppose you also have to realize that you won't always win those battles, and sometimes you'll just have to endure the unpleasantness. That's just how life works, I guess. The good things will eventually make up for the bitter taste of dealing with all that negativity, and having plenty of positive moments might make the hard times a little easier to stomach.

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They are actually doing you a favor by giving you something to work on personally. However, the more you get worked up and fight back, the more power you hand them. Just let it happen, observe, and refrain from judging or criticizing. You only gain negative emotions through the judgment of others, so simply watch and learn from them. It might sound foolish, but that is the reality.
nimbleranger5 said:The author also touches on those unfounded prejudices—the ones where someone else serves us their own views, attitudes, or experiences. We then instinctively swallow that outside knowledge and treat it as our own. We end up resisting things that might actually be incredibly pleasant or positive for us, only to later realize how naive we were to accept someone else's "bad" experience as our own truth.🤔
In reality, those kinds of prejudices are just manifestations of the ego's fear of the unknown—basically, a fear of losing the security found in the familiar.

It seems to me that the author is suggesting we stay open-minded. We shouldn't judge something based on someone else's negative opinion, or even our own past setbacks, because doing so closes us off to something new. Maybe that "bad" experience was actually meant to teach us something or broaden our horizons—so maybe it wasn't even that "bad," right? Sometimes, a slap in the face (a "bad" experience) is just the Universe expressing unconditional love.
Truthfully, there is no such thing as a "bad" or "good" experience; there is only our impression of it—our own opinion or attitude toward what happened.

So why would you want to free yourself from them? ☕

What if those prejudices—those "bad" life lessons you've endured—are actually keeping you locked away from much more beautiful experiences?
What if, deep down, it's just a subconscious fear preventing you from trying something new? That prejudice might just be a projection of your mind, mapping one old experience onto a completely different situation. We end up avoiding things (without even knowing what) just to ensure we don't repeat a past mistake.

Take, for example, being afraid of something because your mind tells you that if you act (or don't act) a certain way, something "bad" will happen. Your mind projects a past scenario onto a future one that hasn't even occurred yet, effectively shutting the door on an experience that has absolutely nothing to do with the past. Every single experience is unique and unrepeatable. No two moments are ever identical.

But the mind is tethered to the past. It’s made up of everything we've learned, all our conditioning, our entire history—all this baggage stuck to us that prevents us from truly living and finding joy in the present moment.

Our minds are always looking toward the future through the lens of the past. But if a person could somehow step beyond the mind—if they could just step out, let go, and allow everything to unfold as it unfolds, without regret, without complaining, without trying to control, criticize, judge, worry, provoke, hope, or expect... if they could just *live*... man, if only we could do that... yeah...

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Raymond Taylor8 said:Deep down in the subconscious, there's always this underlying drive for self-preservation that basically fuels everything we do as humans, no matter how we choose to frame it.

Interesting topic. You know that feeling when you meet someone new and you're so wrapped up in yourself that you don't even register their name?
Well written. In my humble opinion, the average person can't seem to detach from their ego; they cling to it as if it were part of their DNA. Reality suggests otherwise.
I have to admit, I find it refreshing to see people on this forum acknowledging the ego. If we want to evolve as a species, we inevitably have to quiet that part of ourselves or minimize it as much as possible. There are different types: those where the ego plays a minor role, and those who let it become the center of their universe. To the self-absorbed "ego-trippers," I’d suggest spending two weeks at a remote monastery in Montana without speaking—just you and your ego—and see how quickly your perspective shifts.👍