Smith won't hang out with me
in Psychology & Therapy ·
Hey everyone, I’m having some issues with a cousin of mine. He’s about ten years older than me. I’m just a college student, while he holds some big-shot position at a major corporation like Google. I moved to the city where he lives about four years ago to go to school. In all that time, we’ve probably only seen each other three or four times. We basically only talk to say happy birthday, and that’s it. It’s been weighing on me because, well, he’s my cousin, and this dynamic feels wrong. I’ve actually told him straight up that I don't think this is okay. Lately, I've tried to push for us to hang out more, but he doesn't seem interested. He just ignores it. Everyone makes excuses for him, saying he’s too busy or has no time, but I find it hard to believe someone can't spare time once every couple of months for coffee or to invite me to a family dinner on his birthday. None of our aunts or uncles make an effort either, and neither do I. We should be close, but it feels like we're strangers. It’s really starting to get to me, and I guess I don't know how to just deal with it.😢If I posted this in the wrong spot, just move it, since I couldn't find a place for this kind of thing.