Posts by Douglas Phillips7

I’m thrilled to see this idea gaining such incredible momentum! We’re already getting inquiries coming in from Seattle, too, so we definitely need someone on board to handle the logistics 🙂

So, one meeting finally happened. If there's another one down the road, I won't be attending. Still, I'm honestly glad I managed to stick it out long enough to see this gathering actually take place. To me, that feels like a real victory, even if it seems minor to others. Everyone, please, just keep pushing. It is possible—you just have to try not to overthink the outcomes or get lost in the "what ifs" of everything. I've just come to realize that all of this was essentially my own subconscious cry for help, something a certain person helped me see. That was probably the biggest breakthrough for me: finally admitting to myself and accepting that I have an issue, rather than constantly pointing fingers at everyone else for how I feel.

I want to say thanks again to everyone who backed this idea!

We held our very first meetup today. :klap: Everyone got introduced, grabbed some coffee, and shared a bit about their own journeys. Everything went exactly as we had hoped it would. Honestly, guys, it’s really not as intimidating as it seems! I want to say a huge thank you to everyone who found the courage to show up. You all are amazing! We are still looking for a few more members to join us, so if you're interested, please reach out!

analogviper9 said:I really love the idea, but I don't personally struggle with social anxiety.
I tend to have a strong animosity toward certain types of people—does that count as being part of this group😁?

Not exactly, at least not directly. 😉

Our first meeting is officially on the calendar for next week! There are currently eight of us signed up, but we still have a few spots left if you want to jump in 😉

...there are only six of us left! things are moving fast 🙂 we still have some room!

Right now, we have four people on board! And we’re just getting started... 👍

Spot on! Thanks so much for having my back! 🙂

Donna White50 said:Zero response so far, what a bummer...😢

Just a heads-up—if you’re actually thinking about starting a group, you really need a psychiatrist running the show. It works just like real life, honestly... everyone falls into their own little roles. You’ll end up with those dominant personalities doing all the talking while everyone else just sits there watching and staying quiet. You need someone there to moderate the vibe, guide the conversation, and help pull out all that buried fear, aggression, or anger... someone to actually push you toward making a change...

Trying to grab coffee with a group where everyone's actually opening up? Man, that’s a tough nut to crack when you're all strangers... It usually takes months of hanging out in a group setting before people finally feel safe enough to get real and talk about their private lives. You just can't manufacture that kind of trust over a quick latte—there's zero chance of it happening that fast... even if the vibe of meeting people who've been through the same stuff is definitely worth it...

Hmm.. you didn't get any interest? Because I already have two people interested right here.
And you don't necessarily need a psychiatrist; this type of therapy was originally designed to be used independently. So, look at this as mere support to make sure no one gives up too early and to give us a chance to socialize a bit. As for those "dominant" types, they deal with the exact same issues and would surely have the empathy and willingness to help others. There's no need to dig deep, force anything, or overcomplicate things. This isn't meant to be a replacement for medical treatment.

Here is my previous post on this topic if you want to dive a bit deeper:

Calling all social anxiety warriors!!!

I’m looking to put together a small group here in Chicago—about ten people—to dive into Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). The goal is to meet up, share our personal stories, hang out, and actually work through CBT techniques together. This whole idea was sparked by a forum member, "tns"! Huge thanks to tns for suggesting this; we desperately need more groups like this. There are way too many people struggling with social phobia; it quietly devours us, one massive bite at a time.

According to the literature on how to most effectively apply CBT for social phobia, working in a group setting is absolutely essential for achieving optimal treatment and the best possible results.
For those who aren't familiar, the book I'm referencing is "Overcoming social anxiety : step by step" by Dr. Thomas Richards. Here is a link to an English version if you want to check it out:

If you're interested, shoot me a private message!
Let's crush this SFobi once and for all!