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Hi. I need an answer. Honestly, I'm a little worried here, and I'm naturally an anxious person. A few days ago, just out of the blue, I had some blood drawn and did a CBC at work. Since I'm a medical technician by trade, I don't have any symptoms or any actual reason to be running labs right now.
I'll just list the parameters that fall outside the ref units.
Leukocyte 11.2 (Ref: 3.4–9.7). LYM 1.9 (Ref: 1.2–3.9), though lymphocytes seem to be at 2%, which is slightly below the normal 20–46% range. Granulocytes are 8.6 (Ref: 2–7.6), making up 77% (normal range: 44–70%).
RBC 5.77, HCT 0.520. These values are slightly elevated.
I'm just handing over what was automatically detected.
Leukocytosis, lymphopenia, granulocytosis, erythrocytosis.
Two years ago, I had a routine blood panel done. My red blood cell count was slightly elevated, but my doctor didn't think twice about it because everything else was within normal limits. Back then, my lymphocyte levels weren't nearly as low as they are now. The current numbers—specifically these leukocytes and the drop in lymphocytes—are what's bothering me. I don't have any actual symptoms of inflammation. I am dealing with some stress, both personally and at work, but that's it. I have an appointment scheduled with my doctor in about ten days, but honestly, I’m starting to get anxious about it. Pfff.
I honestly thought there would be more active people weighing in on this thread. I was hoping to hear some different perspectives, grab some advice, or maybe find someone who’s dealt with a situation just like mine... 🤔
Donna White50 said:You've gotta fix this because you're seriously screwing yourself over. You could end up blowing a potentially amazing relationship—marriage, kids, all that—just because of some basic fear of rejection.
Just try to tell yourself: if she leaves, then she simply wasn't the one for me, and why would I even want someone like that? There are plenty of other women out there who will actually care about me. You can't lose your sense of self just because someone walks away. It happens to everyone, all the time... yeah, it sucks, but it's just part of life. Don't overthink it, just accept it.
There are other people out there, sure. But the issue is that when I fall in love, I struggle to believe I'll ever find someone better or feel this way again. I immediately start picturing her with someone else, even though we haven't even broken up and aren't anywhere near it yet. Right now, it sounds a bit ridiculous, but I know I have to change this mindset somehow.
Donna White50 said:First things first—maybe work on your punctuation before you start lecturing people...
Also, it’s pretty obvious you’re struggling because you just can't handle the idea of rejection. What happens when a girl actually walks away from you?
Look, you aren't the center of the universe. There are billions of other people out there, and human emotions aren't set in stone—they shift. It's actually super common for partners to move on; very few relationships honestly last a lifetime. Plus, we're all just humans—we're selfish, we're hypocritical, we mess up, we get sick, lose jobs, or even just lose our minds sometimes...
Basically, what I'm saying is there's zero guarantee for anything in life. Nothing and no one can stop a woman from cheating, leaving, or just losing feelings for you—even if you're the most perfect guy imaginable. Your actual mission—the "holy grail" of getting your head straight—is to just accept that reality, no matter how much it sucks. There’s no other way around it.
The fix is to just live day by day and soak up the good stuff. That kind of spontaneity is actually what keeps a partner drawn to you, because it shows a healthy, positive vibe toward life. You both realize you're together because you love, understand, and support each other, but also because it's a mix of timing, chemistry, and your own choices. You both know deep down there are tons of people out there you could be with, but you choose to be together because you click and enjoy each other's company.
Loss is just part of being alive. Just like you found your girlfriend, you can lose her too. Of course, you'll put in the work because you love her, and yeah, you'll probably fear losing her sometimes, but you have to face the fact that you're often the source of your own drama, which ends up affecting her too. Seriously, go talk to a therapist and deal with this issue, because it's a big one. Possessive people are incredibly tough to be with—please, just take care of this...
Whatever, my phone is acting up—spacing issues, periods jumping around—but anyway... I agree with everything you said. I can only imagine how hard I would be for her, considering how hard I am on myself right now and the pressure I'm putting on my own head. My mental state is a disaster, believe me. I'm hoping unknown will pull me through with the help of a therapist; that's why I reached out to a professional. Still, it helps quite a bit to share my problems with someone on a forum I don't even know...
Hi everyone,
The core issue is my own insecurity. It’s bleeding into my relationship, even though, objectively speaking, things are going great. My girlfriend gives me absolutely no reason to doubt her. When we are together, everything functions perfectly. But the moment we are apart, I start spiraling. I convince myself she’s texting someone else or that there’s someone else she finds more attractive. There is zero evidence for this; it’s entirely internal. Social media is the main trigger. She has an Instagram account, which is standard, but seeing a photo get a hundred likes sends me into a tailspin. I find myself obsessively checking who liked her posts, clicking through their profiles to compare myself to them, and checking if she liked their photos in return. It’s a possessive, obsessive loop that I can't seem to break. I’ve actually reached out to a psychologist for help, but I’m still waiting for my appointment. She’s actually very transparent. She was the one who put a heart and our anniversary date in her Instagram bio, essentially showing her followers that she’s in a committed relationship. Her posts are completely innocent—just simple selfies or scenery. She’s a decent, polite, and somewhat shy person. Sometimes she’ll post a photo and immediately follow it with a story of us together, which I find sweet. But even after those moments, two days later, I’ll be back to imagining her leaving me or hiding someone from me. Subconsciously, I know it isn't true. Our communication is excellent. We are incredibly affectionate, and I probably overcompensate by telling her how much I love her constantly because I'm terrified of losing her. She gets shy and blushes because she’s genuinely a modest, well-mannered girl.
To be blunt, I’ve descended into monitoring everything: whose photos she likes, who follows her, who she follows. If I see a guy from her high school liking all her posts, I immediately start comparing myself to him, thinking he’s a better option and that she’ll eventually leave me for him. It sounds manic, but it’s my reality. In truth, there is no logic to my suspicion. She is top-tier. She doesn't even have a passcode on her phone, and when we are out, it sits right there on the table. No other guys message her, and she isn't texting anyone secretly. When a friend texts her, she just opens Messenger or Instagram right in front of me. She hides nothing. This gives me peace for maybe two days, but as soon as life gets busy with college or work and we aren't seeing each other, the paranoia returns. It’s affecting my quality of life, causing anxiety and depression. She even keeps a photo of us as her phone wallpaper, which is a clear sign of her commitment. I know she cares about me, and she tells me so constantly, but I can't stop the cycle. I am going to see a professional, but I would appreciate any advice from anyone here who has dealt with similar experiences. How did you handle it? The post is long, but there is more weighing on me that I haven't even mentioned yet. I think I've covered the main points.
To be clear, I’ve been dealing with anxiety for a while now—specifically health anxiety and hypochondria. I’m on medication for it, which honestly works great; the physical symptoms are gone. But this mental struggle regarding self-doubt and my general outlook on life is killing me.
I actually brought this up with her once before. I asked if her feelings toward me had changed, even though there wasn't any actual reason or sign to suggest they had. It was just my own head playing tricks on me. She told me they hadn't changed and asked me to stop asking, because questioning it like that ends up hurting her feelings since she hasn't given me any reason to doubt her. She's right, and I know it.