Posts by Nicholas Lee41

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Time Management and Productivity Tips in Psychology · Oct 29, 2018

I can't get behind it either, but I suppose it beats the alternative. Honestly, just thinking about living a perfectly organized, structured life makes me feel physically ill. It's revolting.

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Can we just get straight to the point instead of rambling? in Psychology & Therapy · Sep 7, 2018

wearyrider16 said:When is suicide actually considered a rational choice?

Or is it always viewed as a defeat, a surrender, or just plain cowardice?

Keep it brief, please.

It’s either always or never.

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Love: A blessing, a curse, or both? in Psychology · Aug 22, 2018

Joseph Bailey41;71261345 said:
Nicholas Lee41 said:Why doesn't that part make sense to you for that reason? 😁
I think I actually said the opposite. It makes sense to me that tempting fate happens when you are apathetic toward life or don't respect it—meaning, either you simply don't care whether you live or die, or you are indirectly striving to be dead.
I misspoke when I wrote it in a way that made it sound like tempting fate inherently implies disrespecting life; I jumped straight to the life-death connection...
I actually agree that life should be experienced to its absolute maximum, tasted fully...

I'm not entirely sure if it's a matter of pathology. I'm not currently in a phase of contemplating suicide, nor would I want to be, because as soon as I start with that nihilistic crap, everything suddenly gains a sense of purpose while life itself loses it. 😁
Edit: aaaaaahahaahha, it looks like I'm just answering my own posts now, this is actually hilarious.

Yeah. I'm young (even if I don't feel it), I'm twenty years old, and honestly, I have no clue if I want the things I don't want, or if I actually want the things I do want. It's... awkward, I guess.

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Love: A blessing, a curse, or both? in Psychology · Aug 21, 2018

Joseph Bailey41;71253609 said:I was actually aiming at what you wrote on the previous page:

Nicholas Lee41 said:When it comes to apathy, I find it incredibly easy to reach and maintain regarding most things in life, but I can never quite bring myself to be apathetic about the fact that I am apathetic. I suppose apathy is fine as long as you can keep it under control—being indifferent toward specific targets or goals is one thing—but the real issue arises when it starts bleeding into everything, evolving into this pervasive, generalized indifference. For me, that state was absolutely toxic; even with just a tiny spark of rational thought, it would steer me straight toward suicidal ideation.

Another complication with love is how much it limits a person. For instance, if I didn't have these feelings holding me back, I’d probably have already taken the risks my mind tells me to take. Whether those moves would actually pay off or if I'd end up scrubbing toilets in a county jail, I guess it doesn't really matter, but at least I wouldn't be hesitating.

Why doesn't that part make sense to you for that reason? 😁
I think I actually said the opposite. It makes sense to me that tempting fate happens when you are apathetic toward life or don't respect it—meaning, either you simply don't care whether you live or die, or you are indirectly striving to be dead.
I misspoke when I wrote it in a way that made it sound like tempting fate inherently implies disrespecting life; I jumped straight to the life-death connection...
I actually agree that life should be experienced to its absolute maximum, tasted fully...

I'm not entirely sure if it's a matter of pathology. I'm not currently in a phase of contemplating suicide, nor would I want to be, because as soon as I start with that nihilistic crap, everything suddenly gains a sense of purpose while life itself loses it. 😁
Edit: aaaaaahahaahha, it looks like I'm just answering my own posts now, this is actually hilarious.

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Love: A blessing, a curse, or both? in Psychology · Aug 21, 2018

Joseph Bailey41 said:And that’s exactly why you’re stuck in this state of total apathy. You can't spend your entire life dodging everything (whether it's love, flying on a plane, crossing a busy street, or even grabbing a burger...) just because there's a *slight* chance it might lead to some kind of pain down the road. I mean, sure, you could do that, but what kind of life is that?

Sorry, I don't really get that first sentence. I think I follow, but I can't quite make it fit. Help?
By the way, I'm not actually avoiding anything; I was just responding to that comparison with a little bit of humor.
In my opening post, I think I expressed pretty much exactly how I feel about love.
As for this idea of proactive avoidance, it feels the same to me as "tempting fate." I don't like it because it seems pointless to me, because... well, I want to live. If you hold yourself back, you're limiting your own experiences (which is huge for me), and if you go out looking for trouble, you aren't respecting life—unless, I guess, you just don't care or you're actively seeking self-destruction.

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Love: A blessing, a curse, or both? in Psychology · Aug 21, 2018

Ashley Bailey75 said:And just like everything else in life, there's two sides to every coin.

Suffering is just as much a part of the deal as love is. Most people spend their lives running from it—trying to numb it out or ignore it—but honestly? It’s pretty valuable. It’s basically a signal that you’re off track or working against your own interests.

It's like when you smell something rotten—your body tells you to stay away because it's dangerous. Pain works the same way. It's necessary for survival.

I suppose you could twist that logic to use it against love. You don't consume it because it smells, or rather, it "smells" because it might cause suffering that could be fatal to your survival. Since love isn't always physically detectable—meaning it doesn't literally have a scent—your intellect tells you it's harmful because of those potential consequences.
That is a truly bizarre comparison. 😁

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Love: A blessing, a curse, or both? in Psychology · Aug 21, 2018

When it comes to apathy, I find it incredibly easy to reach and maintain regarding most things in life, but I can never quite bring myself to be apathetic about the fact that I am apathetic. I suppose apathy is fine as long as you can keep it under control—being indifferent toward specific targets or goals is one thing—but the real issue arises when it starts bleeding into everything, evolving into this pervasive, generalized indifference. For me, that state was absolutely toxic; even with just a tiny spark of rational thought, it would steer me straight toward suicidal ideation.

Another complication with love is how much it limits a person. For instance, if I didn't have these feelings holding me back, I’d probably have already taken the risks my mind tells me to take. Whether those moves would actually pay off or if I'd end up scrubbing toilets in a county jail, I guess it doesn't really matter, but at least I wouldn't be hesitating.

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Love: A blessing, a curse, or both? in Psychology · Aug 21, 2018

Joseph Bailey41 said:Happy Wednesday! 👍

In that case, suffering isn't actually caused by Love—it’s triggered by loss, whether that loss is real or just something we imagine.

Indirectly, maybe. If there wasn't any love involved, there wouldn't be this kind of suffering for those close to you. It would probably manifest in other ways, but in my experience, no kind of pain hurts quite as much as this byproduct of love.

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Love: A blessing, a curse, or both? in Psychology · Aug 20, 2018

Love as an emotion, in every sense of the word.

To me, it’s a double-edged sword, though one side usually carries more weight—and honestly, most of the time, it feels like a curse. It’s the root of weakness, fear, sadness, and suffering; I can't help but feel all of that is just a byproduct of love. But then again, would it actually be better if I swapped it out for its total opposite? You know, hate? Or maybe just complete apathy?
I suppose it wouldn't, though. Even as much as it indirectly throws us curveballs, it seems to be the one thing that actually gives some color to an otherwise gray existence. You're stuck with it, with or without it, so I guess there's not much to be done about it.

I'm curious to hear what you guys think about this emotion—it's something that was glorified and mystified way too much in the past, and now, in the present day, it's constantly being oversimplified by laypeople using pseudo-evolutionary explanations.

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