Health/Mental Health Issues
in Psychology ·
silentangler92 said:Hey everyone, haven't popped onto the forum in a minute.
But here I am. Honestly, I can't even wrap my head around how things went down. I laid it all out there—just being completely real with her, no filters.
She told me she needs a few days to let everything "settle." So, what now? Any advice? How do I look out for myself while still giving her the space she needs?
Look man, I'll give it to you straight: first, I'm right, second, what I'm saying is true, and third, you're screwed. Life follows certain rules, including psychology, and my take might be a bit unconventional. It's simple: you want her so badly that you forgave her even when you didn't want to, just to keep her around. By doing that, you surrendered your leverage. You aren't "on top" anymore, which explains why you're losing touch with reality and why the intimacy in the bedroom is dying. 😢 It's a classic push-pull dynamic. She’s essentially playing the antagonist here; she broke your trust and walked away without any consequences. If you were Mike Tyson, you would've handled it differently, but instead, you chose to follow outdated social norms rather than standing your ground. And look where that got you—heading straight toward a marriage you aren't ready for. Congrats, I guess. If you've learned this lesson once, hopefully you won't repeat it, but if she keeps doing what she knows she can get away with... well, who cares, right?🙂🙂🙂 and if she does, whatever... right?🙂
edit: PTSD is just a delayed reaction to danger. You could say you suppressed your own reaction, or maybe you couldn't express it because you're still tied to those societal expectations. If that's the case, it's not your fault, but you'll realize the cost once you're left hanging. Some might say if you've already identified as an altruist, you're in trouble, and if you haven't, you're still stuck... though there's always :coffe: