graniteseal2 said:Hi everyone, I’m joining this thread, unfortunately. I find myself here because of my mother (she's 83) and a potential cancer diagnosis she’s facing. We’re based in NYC. I’ll write out the full details below, but for now, it really boils down to one main question:
– which private oncologist (or just generally) in NYC is worth seeing if we have radiology results (an MRI) suggesting a malignant tumor? It looks like there might be metastatic changes in her vertebrae, and the primary tumor could potentially be breast cancer. Basically, I need a recommendation for a solid oncologist who can confirm the diagnosis (or order the necessary follow-up tests first), explain the prognosis, and walk us through the options.
I need to take action; I can't just sit around and watch everyone pass the buck. With the holiday season here, the hospitals seem completely empty of staff.
To give you some context: over the last few months, Mom has had trouble walking and has been dealing with back pain. We went to an urgent care clinic, and they insisted on seeing an MRI of her lumbar spine before they would even touch the pain. To avoid any delays, we went ahead and got a private MRI.
The scan was done about a week ago at a local imaging center using a 3T machine with contrast, focusing on the lumbar spine. The results showed (among other things) "fresh compressive fractures of the L1 and L2 vertebral bodies, suggesting intraosseous, secondary propagation of a primary process (possibly breast?)" and recommended seeing an oncologist immediately. As I understand it, this would mean bone cancer—specifically metastatic bone cancer that started somewhere else, perhaps the breast.
So, my first question, as I mentioned—who should we see? Does anyone have recommendations for a great oncologist? Is it better to go private or wait for a hospital appointment? How long is the typical wait for an oncologist when using a referral through Medicare? And specifically, which private oncologist is actually worth the investment?
My second question—since certain family members are reacting this way—does it even "make sense" to pursue treatment? Mom is 83, and she’s already managing age-related issues like diabetes, heart problems, and high blood pressure. Some relatives are already saying we should look into palliative care or hospice right away (even though we don't have a formal diagnosis yet). Mom herself understands what the diagnosis might be and is handling it quite well, though she might not fully realize how much pain this could eventually cause. So, my second question is: what are your experiences or insights regarding treating malignant tumors in the elderly (80+)? I'm not necessarily talking about a "cure," but rather about stopping the spread, improving quality of life during these remaining years, and everything related to that.
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