Posts by Amanda Stewart7

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amberheron3 said:Sometimes I find myself laughing hysterically at absolutely nothing... or maybe just cracking up at some silly little thing that doesn't even seem that funny to anyone else. I know it’s probably a bit weird, but I guess I just can't help it!😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

And you don't have to—you aren't looking for help. But if you're out riding a bike and you die laughing, then we might actually have a problem on our hands....

Dana Morales64 said:Why does this happen? Have you ever had one of those moments where you just start cracking up at something totally mindless—something that isn't even funny, really—and you simply can't stop for like thirty minutes? You end up sounding completely out of your mind. 😁
I had this experience the other day—just some guy riding his bike down the street, lost in his own world, when he suddenly started laughing like there was no tomorrow. I almost tripped over my own feet watching him. He’s just pedaling along, cackling like a maniac... it wasn't even a normal laugh, just that loud, borderline manic kind of hysteria. 😂

That's what they call inappropriate behavior.

Then just get it done as soon as you can. Since you aren’t working anywhere right now, pick up a book and—just study.
There’s really no excuse here, because you don't have to balance school with a job; studying is literally your only responsibility. Talk to your mom about setting aside time for it, or better yet, head over to the library at UCLA. You'll actually be forced to focus there, and being away from home will probably stop all those arguments from happening in the first place.
Set a schedule for yourself. Decide on specific hours to sit down at the library where everyone else is grinding, enjoy the quiet, and just finish that degree.

Roger Morgan4 said:That’s true, but look at it from this angle: if I know there is a 99% chance my child will inherit something like SCH, isn't it selfish of me to bring them into this world? No matter how advanced the medication becomes, or how great the psychotherapy and support systems are, a person still feels the weight of their condition. I can't shield my child from the reality of their own illness. In that light, wouldn't it be more fair to simply not have them at all?

It's the truth, unfortunately. If the odds are 99%... then yeah, you're right.
And I agree—in a situation like that, bringing a child into the world would be a selfish move.

I know a woman whose mother and grandmother both struggled with bipolar disorder. Her grandmother ended up taking her own life, while her mother managed to live a pretty decent life—as much as one can given the diagnosis. She kept things steady: held down a job, cooked, kept a clean house, and most importantly, she never missed a single dose of her prescribed medication. She was fully functional. She had a family, people respected her, she put in the work with her kids, and everyone could see how hard she was trying.
Now, looking at this girl I know... she started out with just minor issues, nothing that stopped her from being a perfectly normal part of society. She worked, hung out with friends, lived a totally standard life.
But then, she traded that stability for a crowd of toxic people, heavy drinking, and experimenting with drugs. It didn't take long before she spiraled into a full-blown illness that manifested way more aggressively than anything her mother ever dealt with. Today, unfortunately, she’s a very severe psychiatric case.
My point is, I think there’s a level of personal responsibility involved here. Regardless of the diagnosis, you have to try. At the end of the day, your lifestyle choices might actually play the biggest role in how everything unfolds.

That’s a fair question. Take manic depression or bipolar disorder, for example. If a mother struggles with it, her daughter will almost certainly inherit some level of genetic predisposition. Whether that manifests as a mild tendency or something more severe? Honestly, it's tough to say ahead of time.
When it comes to schizophrenia, genetics definitely play a major role, but you can't ignore the environment either. How someone is raised—their upbringing and surroundings—matters quite a bit. It's a significant factor.

Megan White4 said:😠 And there she goes again, messing things up... I’ve been telling her for a month now that I wanted to head down to the coast on July 20th for a week at a rental house. I finally get home looking forward to it, only for her to drop this: "Oh, I rented out the beach house to a friend for that exact week." Then, she has the nerve to suggest, "Well, if you really want to go, you can just stay an extra week." When, exactly? At the end of August when everyone else has cleared out? 😠

I feel like I’m actually going to lose my mind...

Look, just focus on finishing college as fast as possible so you can move out. People like this—the way older parents can be—they just get more difficult as time goes on.
I won't lie to you and say things will get easier with her; honestly, it'll probably just get harder.....

Peter Phillips32 said:Look, I think you're phrasing that a little off, so let me set the record straight here. The real weaklings aren't the ones struggling to cope; they're the ones who refuse to even step up to the plate and face life head-on. You give people the roadmap, you show them what needs to be done, and if they still end up whining and taking the path of least resistance, well, that's on them. It's their own damn fault at that point.
Nobody ever promised anyone that life would be a walk in the park; if you want something, you've gotta grind for it. Nothing worth having is just handed to you on a silver platter.

Trust me, I've had my own moments where I felt completely leveled by reality—days where I looked at my own mindset and realized I was totally off base—but honestly, those hits just left me with an even more stubborn drive to go out there and fight for the things that actually matter to me.

Exactly. That's really the core of it.

Freedom of speech can only be restricted if it clashes with public order, health, or morality. That's what Article 10 of the European Convention on Human Rights says.

Dennis Roberts6 said:May 17
Night of the Lotus Eaters
Dig / Tupelo
Tupelo's Lesson
Today's Lesson
Red Right Hand
Midnight Man
Let Love In
Deanna
Lie Down Here And Be My Girl
Moonland
The Ship Song
We Call Upon The Author
Papa Won't Leave You Henry
More News From Nowhere

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encores
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Lyre Of Orpheus
Get Ready For Love
The Mercy Seat (for the first time on this tour ?!?)
Into My Arms
Stagger Lee

I need this right freaking now!!!! 😍😍

Aaron Castillo9 said:Bulimia definitely isn't the issue here; she could never bring herself to overeat because the very idea repulses her.
The same goes for vomiting. If she has a standard meal, she’ll just skip eating for a longer stretch afterward to ensure she isn't constantly eating "normally"—which, in this case, means eating full meals.
So, while she might eat a satisfying meal occasionally, she prefers to fast for a bit afterward. She’s fine with salads or fruit, but she avoids bread, pasta, or anything too heavy. She absolutely detests sweets and won't touch them. She also tends to lie to others, claiming she's already eaten.
Because she looks healthy and eats moderately at times, she convinces herself everything is fine. But this is deeply psychological; it's about her relationship with food. It’s made worse when people around her make jokes about her eating or say things like, "Come on, just take a bite like everyone else," or "You're eating too slow, you can't even swallow water." I get why that kills her appetite, but others don't realize they're poking at a serious problem.
I can't label it as anorexia or bulimia, just like I said before.
(Plus, she’s too embarrassed to see a psychologist...)

But eventually, she's going to have to reach out for help. Better sooner rather than later, while it's still in the early stages.
Like I've said before, trying to push or convince someone like that is pointless; they just feel threatened and attacked immediately.
It would also be a good idea for her to get some basic blood work done first.

redharbor9 said:I’m talking about this specific person, not making some broad generalization that it could be a sign of bulimia🙂

The topic was anorexia.

redharbor9 said:I could even drop 12k on it, but you wouldn't even notice the weight if they're dealing with non-purging bulimia—they usually just burn it all off with insane workouts instead...

Look, if someone is actually taking in that many calories in a single day like you mentioned, even extreme exercise can barely touch it... and then you’ve got all these other factors swirling together too.

Amanda Stewart7 said:Yeah, that's a smart move. Honestly, the person she lives with probably has the biggest influence on her.
Take my cousin, for example. She stayed with me for about a month, and let me tell you, it was brutal. She struggles with anorexia—she’s about 5'6" and weighed barely 108 pounds.
It was constant math with her food. She’d barely eat anything, maybe an egg or a banana once a day, and the second she did consume something, she’d bolt to the gym and grind away for hours. Every single day. There were times I’d make this really nice, light meal, and she’d just sit there moving food around her plate with a fork. Watching her do that actually made *me* lose my appetite. I tried telling her, "Look, you have a problem," but nothing worked.
Of course, she ended up in the ER a few times because she’d just collapse from starvation, and even now, she deals with some pretty serious health complications.

Like I said.😁

redharbor9 said:Look, when it comes to those "mixed" states, they usually don't last forever because people dealing with bulimia often try to transition into anorexia. It’s like anorexia has a higher status—it's seen as this more advanced stage of the disorder...

And besides, purging isn't even a requirement for a bulimia diagnosis...

Sure, maybe not, but then you’ve got people slamming down at least 5,000 calories during a binge phase—sometimes way more—and they end up gaining massive amounts of weight. It's pretty obvious something is seriously wrong there.
So yeah, we're talking 5,000 calories, sometimes even higher...

redharbor9 said:Look, when it comes to those "mixed" states, they usually don't last forever because people dealing with bulimia often try to transition into anorexia. It’s like anorexia has a higher status—it's seen as this more advanced stage of the disorder...

And besides, purging isn't even a requirement for a bulimia diagnosis...

And honestly? They usually do.

Aaron Castillo9 said:So, you think she should lead with that? It doesn't sound like a bad idea...🙂 You have to start somewhere, after all.

Yeah, that’s probably for the best. But just a heads-up—these things aren't always black and white nowadays. You see a lot of "mixed" cases. For example, someone might struggle with both bulimia and anorexia. People like your friend can be incredibly sneaky; they can practically run circles around a doctor. They'll come up with an excuse in a heartbeat—saying they already ate out, or their stomach is acting up, or they need to stick to a strict diet. They'll claim they can't handle "heavy" food—which really just means regular meals. They dodge group dinners, spend fifteen minutes meticulously cutting up a salad with a knife, and then the second you turn your back, the whole plate ends up in the trash while they sigh about having overeaten.

By "mixed," I mean there isn't always a clear line between bulimia and anorexia. If someone barely eats for five days and then goes on a binge on the sixth, followed by purging, and then cycles back to not eating... it's all connected. You really have to pay attention to the tiny details of how they eat and where they're "cheating" just to avoid eating anything they deem "wrong."
It’s definitely a brutal job.
The thing is, with bulimia, a person can look perfectly "normal" on the outside. It’s nearly impossible to catch them purging after a meal. With anorexia, though, the weight loss is usually obvious—you can see the bones. Bulimic patients don't always show that; they can maintain a totally "ideal" weight and look completely healthy and fine.

redharbor9 said:That’s another huge mistake right there. Saying "It's not normal to be afraid of food" basically translates to: "Just eat, you're already fat anyway; It's not like you'll lose weight; Being overweight is fine; You're ugly regardless, so who cares if you're heavy..." That's exactly how someone in that headspace hears it.

Don't take things so literally. Look, she’ll start by saying she’s afraid to eat—because that’s exactly what she told me, I'm talking about a friend here. And since she’s self-aware about it, that gives some "distinguished psychologist" the perfect opening. They’ll go straight for the thing they KNOW is going to sting.

Aaron Castillo9 said:She says she’s at a loss for words when it comes to explaining her situation to the doctor, especially since her appetite hasn't changed at all.
Is it feasible, for instance, to have her boyfriend accompany her to the appointment to lay everything out for the physician? I feel like that might be the most realistic way to portray the situation, given that he’s the person closest to her.

See, there it is. She thinks everything's normal... he can tag along if he wants, but it won't do much good if she isn't willing to cooperate. Honestly, just have him—or you—tell her straight up that being terrified of food isn't exactly "normal." If she could just start there, it wouldn't be such a mess.