Posts by Steven Walker5

Robert Harris16 said:Once I actually understood what was happening, the last few symptoms just vanished.

Like I said before—everyone’s journey is different. This isn't some virus you can just medicate away; it’s an emotional disorder, and emotions are complicated. I spent years digging through the dirt, but I only just now realized where the root cause was hiding. Once I identified it, I took a straight line right to the source. Everything else in the process just fell into place logically after that. So, yeah—no more symptoms, no more issues, no more questions, and zero need to seek out outside help. Honestly, I mostly just feel disgusted by my old self—that emotional vampire who used to manipulate everyone to get his way, regardless of the cost to himself or anyone else.

Better?

Yeah, that’s exactly what I was wondering—your take on the whole thing.
Thanks for getting back to me. 🙂

Robert Harris16 said:Honestly, I don't view BPD as a distinct disease. It’s more like an umbrella term for a massive spectrum of emotional issues—stuff rooted in a lack of stability, or just the distortion of basic human emotions during early development. You end up suppressing certain feelings and filling those gaps with constant escapism. Add a steady layer of dissatisfaction to those fantasies, and—voila—you've got depression.

I'm feeling perfectly fine, man.

Sorry, but I’m still not quite following. If you don't consider BPD an actual illness, I assume you don't see any point in treating something that isn't a disease?

But I didn't get an answer to my question: do you feel like you still deal with the symptoms that led to a BPD diagnosis, or do you think that gaining this new perspective has actually cleared those symptoms away?
Or perhaps they're still there, but you just don't view them as problems anymore—just parts of who you are?

Robert Harris16 said:Like I said before, I'm convinced there's a fix. There was a lot of digging involved—lots of trial and error—and this was the final piece of the puzzle, at least for me. Feel free to hit my inbox, but I’d rather keep this discussion right here in the open so everyone can benefit from it.

Could you clarify that?
Are you saying you no longer meet the criteria for a BPD diagnosis?

I'm not sure if this has crossed anyone's radar yet, but there’s been some significant headway recently in pinning down the exact genetic drivers behind the disease:

https://www.theguardian.com/science/...-brain-changes

Jonathan Hayes said:I mean... saying someone "has or doesn't have mental health issues" is such a massive, vague umbrella term.
If we actually break it down like this:

a) someone dealing with psychosis
b) someone with neuroticism who’s actually doing the work (they have self-awareness and are trying to improve their quality of life)
c) someone with neuroticism who isn't doing the work (no real insight into their issues, no attempt to make life better)

d) someone without a diagnosis who just lacks any capacity for perspective or understanding different ways of being e) someone without a diagnosis who actually possesses empathy and the ability to understand others

Personally... I'd be perfectly fine starting a relationship with anyone from groups B through E.😁

But what about those in the middle—even if we use precise clinical terms to describe someone sitting right between a) and b)? 😁How would you categorize them? 😛

jadelynx2 said:In short, I will stay single forever. 🕺

And that sentence right there—that’s the crux of it. The fact that you’re worrying about being alone is actually proof that you're looking for someone else to fill in the gaps. It’s as if you think you'll remain "incomplete" unless you find that "other half."

I don't want to sound like some New Age guru, but we really need to stop looking for another person to make us happy or complete our lives.
Only we can actually do that ourselves—through personal growth. And no, it isn't easy, but it's certainly not as impossible as we tend to believe. 😁

It isn't a simple issue, either—our entire society teaches us this way. Every movie, every book, every story we encounter while growing up reinforces the idea that there's "that one person" out there meant for us—some kind of soulmate connection that merges two people into one and brings total happiness. Been there, done that... 😛

I find it difficult to even define what people mean when they talk about "searching for a normal person." What does that actually entail? Are you just wandering around looking for someone exceptionally emotionally stable because it’s supposedly better for you? 🙂
The reality is, you probably won't find them—mostly because there won't be that mutual spark or attraction to pull you together in the first place.

In my experience, you tend to gravitate toward someone with a similar level of emotional stability at any given stage of life; essentially, people act as mirrors to your own personality.
It might not be obvious right away—sometimes it's something buried deep within you—and from a distance, it might even look like the opposite, but I'm fairly certain that's how it works.

This is especially true with people dealing with emotional struggles; partners often end up trying to "fix" one another, attempting to patch up each other's flaws. It becomes this transactional dynamic—a sort of "you provide this, and I'll provide that" setup. 😁

However, I believe the foundation for a truly "healthy" relationship requires that neither person is looking to fill a void or merge their identity into the other. For a relationship to work properly, two fully realized, stable individuals need to enter it without being codependent.
And let's be clear—relationships can certainly exist without those conditions being met, but the question is really about how much emotional chaos you're willing to endure.