I get it, and there’s definitely a logical way to look at it. People do that stuff without even realizing they're doing it. But calling it a mental disorder? I just can't wrap my head around that. It doesn't sit right with me.
It feels like we’re hitting that point where you realize, "once you get close enough, you see that nobody is actually sane." Seriously, people are out here obsessing over the smallest, most random things.
I used to be a chronic nail biter, but I just stopped one day out of nowhere. It had been a thing since I was a little kid. People always try to link it to anxiety, but honestly, I don't get it—what could have possibly stressed me out back then when I didn't have a care in the world? So, why does this even get classified as a disorder? Could you dive into that a bit more for me?
I don't think anyone is strictly one or the other. That’s obvious. But if I had to break it down simply, "feelers" are the ones who let their emotions take the wheel first when things get delicate. Most of their reactions are driven by how they're feeling in the moment. On the flip side, "thinkers" basically flip a switch and engage their brains at light speed in those same situations. For them, logic is the primary tool used to solve the problem. They usually weigh everything carefully before making a move, so they tend to be more cautious and grounded. To me, it’s really just a matter of degree.
Oh man... I mean, surely we’re talking about giving when you actually have something to give. There’s no point in trying to be generous if your pockets are empty—it just doesn't make sense. And let's be real, a selfish person isn't going to step up even when they can. They won't do it without making a huge fuss about it either.
wearyhawk83 said:Look, loving anyone—including yourself—doesn't mean you can't be totally delusional. Basically, a person might honestly believe they're practicing self-love, but that doesn't mean they aren't just lying to themselves.
Exactly. Most people think they love themselves, but they’re doing it all wrong. They mistake egoism for self-love, or they force their views on everyone else because they're convinced they're always right. They lack any sense of self-reflection. Good grief, I love myself, and I'll be damned if I let anyone tell me otherwise. 🙄 Real self-love is actually the polar opposite of all that nonsense. If you truly love yourself, you want what's best for you.
feralranger said:I implore you, please, attempt to draw a clear line between practicing self-love and acting out of pure selfishness. Try to provide a definition that is actually universal and objectively grounded...
I’ve been working on this non-stop. I try to make that distinction because, honestly, there’s a massive difference. Just read a little more carefully 😁
I wasn't even thinking about wealthy people while I was typing, but let's just pretend I was so I can throw a similar question back at you... If you hand a rich guy more cash, it won't mean a thing to him in that moment. But if you give him a hug or do something genuinely kind from the heart—something he doesn't have to pay for—will that actually matter to him? Will he actually feel it?
Man, I read way too much stuff on here sometimes 😁 Like this whole idea of equating self-love with being selfish 😳 Or even the notion that selfishness is what drives us while altruism just holds us back 🙄 It’s such a blatant flip of common sense in today’s world, but let me try to address it without sounding like I'm lecturing everyone... What if someone's "self-love" is actually over the top and constantly stepping on other people's toes? That's just straight-up selfishness. Real self-love stays within your own lane and doesn't mess with anyone else's space. And what if a person genuinely loves themselves and finds pure joy in giving to others without expecting a thing in return? Are they stupid? Naive? Fine... people will take advantage of them, but whose fault is that really? Who's actually losing out here? I guess the solution is to either stop giving or start calculating every single move just to stay "protected." We've just reached a point where we can't feel a single emotion without using a calculator 🙄