bluejackal7 said:I’ve been wondering why anyone bothers doing something if it doesn't actually make them happy or feel right. Or is this sub just a place where people dump their problems and expect everyone else to play therapist with their advice?
Maybe it’s because people are just terrified of stepping outside the lines or failing to meet those societal expectations we all grow up with. There's this deep-seated fear of messing up, of being judged, or feeling like you won't fit in anymore. It’s like everyone is walking on eggshells trying to stay within the "accepted" boundaries.
Take education, for example. In America today, there’s this massive pressure to get a college degree—not necessarily because the country needs more intellectuals, but simply because the narrative is "everyone goes to college, and if you don't, you'll end up stuck in a dead-end job with a tiny paycheck." I was just thinking about how pointless that is; why try to force every single person into the exact same mold when they clearly don't fit?😕
Beyond that, having a degree is often more a testament to someone's grit and persistence than anything else, though I suppose it does help bump up your job prospects and salary—even if wages in the US can feel pretty stagnant regardless.
And it isn't just school. All these other social milestones—things like hobbies, learning second languages, getting married, or starting a family—they aren't even much of an "ideal" anymore. They've become so standardized that they’ve turned into a basic checklist for what a "successful" life looks like.
The only way to really push back against this influence is to be someone who genuinely doesn't care about what the neighbors think, or someone who actually knows exactly what they want out of life (and what they definitely don't).
Everyone else who rebels just for the sake of being a rebel, without any actual goals or direction, isn't really accomplishing anything.
Those folks won't find happiness or fulfillment either, no matter how much they fight the status quo.
So, I don't think it's safe to assume that just because someone breaks the rules, they’re automatically living their best life.