Posts by Robert Diaz7

Honestly, who’s even saying he actually existed? But I guess I'm curious about what you're basing the idea that it's just a bunch of different people throughout history on.
It doesn't really matter if we're looking at a group of disturbed individuals or just one deeply troubled 🙂
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I remember reading somewhere that Jesus became a saint because he died on the cross!! Just think about that for a second. It's like Christianity sets this requirement for sainthood—that you have to die for a cause. A total sacrifice of your life. If that isn't completely twisted, I don't know what is.

mistygardener59 said:If an individual genuinely believes they are the Son of God, possesses immortality, and expects to undergo reincarnation—all while maintaining that they can absorb the sins of others through crucifixion and that their personal suffering serves a greater good for all of humanity—what kind of clinical diagnosis would actually fit such a person?

Probably borderline with a heavy lean toward psychosis. 🙂 And honestly, it probably ends in full-blown psychosis.

I actually dig this topic, because if I'm being real, I think that's exactly what Jesus was—just someone dealing with mental illness. Like, you have this guy show up, totally ready to take on every single sin ever, super charismatic (which is a classic trait for people struggling with psych issues), and that's basically the whole story. It’s kind of like how people view Judge Dredd today, I guess.
And hey, if you ask me, the people who actually believe in Jesus are pretty messed up too, at least in my book. 🤷

I had a buddy just like that, honestly, a carbon copy. He was always walking on eggshells trying to please his mom, so I gotta ask... is that how it works with you too? 🙂

He’s 23 now, but he’s still pretty much terrified of her... and even though they live out in 311 miles, he's still having such a hard time actually moving forward with his life.....

maybe it’s time you actually faced reality for once? 😛 😉 like, specifically that person staring back at you in the mirror? 😛

Lisa Rodriguez84 said:There are some solid points here. Honestly, the best move is to just find a hobby—anything, really, as long as it’s actually useful. Or, if you're feeling desperate, just ask a moderator to ban you for a few days. If nobody bites, try posting twice in the politics section; you'll inevitably annoy someone, and then you can just tell them exactly what you need. Boom, ban achieved.
Taylor Campbell4 started a thread just like this one maybe two or three months ago. I can't remember how it ended up.
By the way, if you want to see how much someone actually uses this forum, just look at their daily post count:
@briskgull27—you've got 60. Isn't that actually a bit overkill?
And if you check out the top 10 or 20 most active users on the site, their average sits right around 30.

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Gary Cooper11 said:Hmmmmm... whether psychology actually qualifies as a science is a bit of a debatable topic, isn't it?
I feel pretty certain about one thing, though: you just can't learn how to be a psychologist or a therapist through a textbook. You either have that innate intuition from birth, or you don't.
Because of that, I honestly think most formal psychology courses end up being quite useless. We would all probably learn much more effectively by simply studying one another—really diving into self-discovery, constantly analyzing our own behaviors, and working to better ourselves.
If everyone actually did that—if we were all truly honest and approached it the right way—we wouldn't even need books or any of those "artificial" academic teachings!

man, you really haven't done your homework, have you? 😲

I mean, look, almost anything can be treated as a science these days—you could technically have a science dedicated to studying internet forums 🙄 so yeah, psychology might be a science, but it isn't really a social science 👎

I've learned the hard way that it all really comes down to you—sometimes things click and people step up to help, and other times they just don't... Honestly, you can totally flip that around and use it against yourself based on what some folks have mentioned here, but you could just as easily use it to your advantage for those same reasons.
If you’re actually smart and have a bit of maturity about you, you’ll eventually figure out how to turn it into a win for yourself and move past those childish, narcissistic impulses, which ultimately makes things easier for most people; I mean, even if it's just a tiny bit, it definitely helps!!!

Terry Gray60 said:From what I've seen personally: if I actually take the time to look decent and head to the train station looking all put together, there’s a way higher chance some guy—doesn't matter how old he is—will come up and ask if I need a hand (which is why being a girl is pretty great 😍). But if I haven't really done anything to get ready, that offers from guys just doesn't happen.

maybe you're just not naturally gorgeous 🙄

people who are actually attractive don't even have to try that hard to be magnetic 😳

velvetmarlin24 said:Maybe, but honestly, that feels kind of unfair.
I can tell you one thing for sure—back when I actually looked good, I felt like garbage. I was totally obsessed with myself and my appearance, just trying so hard to be perfect (visually😕) that I ended up constantly tearing myself down over every little flaw.
Now that I’m a little older and carrying a few more pounds than I probably should, I don't even stress about that stuff anymore, and honestly, I'm actually pretty happy about it.
😘

It’s the exact same story with me, too. Back when I was actually in my prime and looking really good, I was just hyper-fixated on every tiny detail of my look, but now that I've messed things up by being so picky, I finally realize what I actually had... and once I get back there again, I know I'll actually appreciate it. 😁

I think I remember reading somewhere that according to some study, the happiest and most successful people out there were actually those who scored between a 1 and a 5 on a scale of 10.
and honestly, that just makes sense to me.

I feel like looks are kind of a double-edged sword, you know? It really just comes down to how much you lean into it, because it can definitely give you that initial boost to get ahead in life and stuff.

But personally, I don't think it has much to do with actual happiness—at least not enough to make being good-looking a shortcut to feeling fulfilled.
it’s way easier to be happy if you've just got your head on straight...

Gerald Johnson4 said:look, I don't mean to be rude, but you're acting kind of weird... honestly... I just don't even know what to say to that..
and you're actually out here trying to compete over who spends more time online... wow... okay then, my bad if my post threw you off your game..

😲 😲 🤣

Gerald Johnson4 said:it doesn't matter, there are plenty of old ladies sitting in front of their TVs for ten hours straight, and I honestly don't get how you can act so tough online, 😢 ,, I mean seriously... I’m basically addicted to spending 15 or even more hours a day on this stuff, and I'm actually kind of proud of it,,, 🙂

well.... congrats on the 15 hours, gotta admit I don't think I could even beat that myself 😬

but, look, you play the tough guy because everything is just right there at your fingertips, I guess 🤣 -I haven't really started acting all big and bad yet, but I imagine if you, say,
play some violent shooters, you can wipe out half a town and go wild, plus you can trash talk half the forum (which is basically just a bunch of people using dumb comments as a vent 🙄 for their frustrations) and whatever else 😳 😁

and at the end of the day, that feeling of power comes from being able to be someone you aren't, having an audience while you play the star (if that's what you're into), which is something you just don't get watching cable TV.

Gerald Johnson4 said:No way, what about all those people who just binge-watch shows all day long?

TV shows don't really give you a way to actually get involved in things, so I guess it's harder to get hooked on them compared to being online where you can act like you're some kind of big shot 😍 😬

M3NT4L said:I’d honestly rather stick to heroin and coke, but if they offer me some Xanax, I guess I could try kicking this habit too 😁 😁 😁

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👍 haha, you're totally talking out of your ass 😬

Anyway, this is a pretty interesting thread with some wild takes..

I wouldn't call myself an addict or anything, even though I'm basically living online lately, but I'll admit I've gotten way too comfortable having everything at my fingertips... I'm definitely planning on cutting back on screen time soon 😬

roschyta said:so basically about a year and a half ago I just hit a wall and decided enough was enough, though I didn't even really say anything out loud, I just kind of did a total 180 on myself and now I'm easily the loudest person in any room I walk into, always the one driving the conversation and heading out to parties like a total maniac, honestly there's no shortage of guys hitting me up too, it's not even that I'm being open so much as I'm being way too much, just talking non-stop and causing all sorts of little scenes, plus I've gotten into modeling which is cool because it's just who I am now, I guess the only thing is I've gone a bit overboard with the wild energy lately, like my impulses are running the show and I probably need to tap the brakes a little bit

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you didn't say anything, so what exactly are you hooked on? 😉

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but seriously, ..... why do you even care what happened, none of your damn business😉

Carol Lee4 said:When a client comes in looking for a shoulder to cry on, saying "everything is just so hard," and the therapist just responds with, "I know, times are tough right now"—that’s not actual therapy, it’s just grabbing coffee and venting with a friend.
[/B]Cheers🙂

honestly, it really depends on which psychological school of thought you follow, you know? different schools have totally different takes on this kind of thing 😉

because when you're dealing with someone with BPD, simply bringing their processes to light isn't enough, and it doesn't matter if the therapist explains all those unconscious patterns to them... you can become fully aware of every single one of your defense mechanisms and still be stuck with BPD.

BPD is like a missing piece of a puzzle that a psychotherapist just can't force back into place using the usual methods they try to use... and I think that's why so many people find therapy such a failure.

Carol Lee4 said:If you're making a generalization, you don't really use specific terms; you usually stick to things like most of the time rather than saying always or constantly or whatever.

That's total nonsense, because most times that's just how generalizations work anyway. ☕

Carol Lee4 said:It’s honestly kind of wild how much people just operate in total ignorance lately, like they’re just drifting through life without ever actually checking if what they believe is even remotely true.
Psychiatrists and psychologists—all those therapists out there—they’ve got mandatory requirements they have to meet. supervision I guess you could call it "so-called." Guided psychotherapy and support. It really just depends on where they’re stationed, but you're looking at support sessions at least once a month—though honestly, most places pretty much do them weekly or maybe every couple of weeks. It’s always handled by an outside therapist, someone totally independent who doesn't actually work for the organization itself. So, instead of the staff having to trek out to a clinic, the therapist comes right to them on-site, which is a mandatory part of the job that you just can't skip.
I’ve already gone on at length about why I chose my major for totally personal reasons, and honestly, we’re basically on the exact same page here—we might be using different words to say it, but the heart of the matter is identical.
I’ve also spent a lot of time posting about the whole "normal" versus "abnormal" thing; honestly, you have to realize that even therapists aren't immune to pathology, because at the end of the day, they're just human too. Look, let’s be real, everyone carries a little bit of pathology under the surface, and honestly, that isn't even the issue; it’s more about whether you actually have the control and the self-awareness to manage it, which is exactly why things like supervision are such a massive deal.
So, about this whole theory thing...If you’ve never actually dealt with your own mental health struggles firsthand, how are you even supposed to wrap your head around what that feels like? That’s how it looks.It doesn't really hold water—meaning, for example...
I honestly feel like the best pediatricians, teachers, and educators are always the women who actually have kids of their own, you know? There’s just something about that lived experience that makes them better at what they do, whereas the ones without any children of their own seem to struggle more with connecting or truly getting it. Or maybe I'm just overthinking things.
I honestly feel like the best family doctors are the ones who have actually dealt with a bunch of different health issues themselves, because I mean, how can you really know how to treat someone if you haven't gone through the struggle firsthand and felt it on your own skin? Or maybe I'm just overthinking it.
Honestly, I’ve always felt like the best moms are the ones who have a whole house full of kids; or maybe that's just me being a sucker for the chaos.
I mean, if you’ve never actually dealt with a migraine before, how are you even supposed to know how to handle one when it hits? It just goes on like that forever, honestly... and don't even get me started on oncologists.
It’s all about...
I'm honestly just kind of over it all today, feeling pretty drained and just trying to find some peace in the middle of everything.College life.
2.I guess I’m just out here trying to figure things out as I go, honestly. It feels like I'm constantly stumbling through these half-baked ideas, just hoping that if I stick at it long enough, some kind of actual substance will finally start to show up. It’s a bit embarrassing how much I overthink everything, but I suppose that's just how I'm wired, isn't it? Just keeping my head down and hoping for the best.
3. I'm all about that lifelong learning thing, just constantly keeping tabs on all the latest scientific breakthroughs happening around the world. Honestly, if you really want to get anywhere with literature, you can't just dabble; you have to be all in, constantly absorbing everything and putting in that relentless, nonstop work to actually engage with the craft.
So, I’ve been thinking about putting more effort into hitting up those big-deal seminars, specialized workshops, and national conferences... you know, the kind of professional gatherings that actually move the needle instead of just being a way to kill a Tuesday.
Just looking to open up a space where we can all swap some real-world stories, whether that’s venting about those annoying hurdles we hit during a session, sharing some fresh insights from new research, or just tossing around ideas on better ways to approach our work—basically, a spot for us to trade experiences, talk shop, and figure things out together.

I truly believe that anyone can be helped, you just have to master the art of active listening and approach things with a positive vibe from the jump. It’s all about communicating on equal footing—keeping things civilized and showing genuine respect for the person in front of you, because at the end of the day, every living soul deserves that. Instead of jumping in to judge, you should be there to offer support, and honestly, you just have to love what you do; for me, that means helping someone find their way back to themselves.
Sometimes things move at lightning speed, other times they feel like you're wading through molasses, and some days everything just feels heavy and impossible while other days it's smooth sailing, but the main thing is that it’s actually happening, and honestly, that's all that really matters.
I’ve always felt that "letting someone go" is best understood through the lens of birds—which, if you know me, you know I'm absolutely obsessed with them. It’s like when you gently lift them up, giving them just enough strength to catch the wind, and then you just let them fly off toward whatever horizon they feel is right for them, chasing down their own version of what works best.👋
We all know our own path, it's just that sometimes we get stuck wondering if we're actually on the right one. 😕
You shouldn't just hand someone a fish; you really need to show them how to land one on their own.🤔
Hey there.🙂

Your comparisons are pretty weak and your logic is just totally off base.

If you’re really going out on a limb saying that everyone carries at least a little bit of pathology inside them, then honestly, none of these comparisons even hold water. It feels like you didn't quite catch my drift and were just looking for a fight instead of actually hearing me out. 😁

As for those points you laid out—1, 2, 3, and 4—I guess I’d just say that none of that really matters if you don't have any actual intuition, you know?
Look, regarding what you've been posting in the BPD threads, I’m really not trying to be offensive when I point out stuff that seems pretty obvious to anyone who actually knows even a little bit about personality disorders, let alone your "colleague" (and yeah, we are colleagues).🙄, look, I can tell you aren't really grasping the core issue here... This isn't just about us having different perspectives. When you say "BPD isn't like a broken arm that just heals on its own," it honestly just shows me you don't have a handle on the subject at all. I could sit here and list things like that forever, but I really don't have the energy for it. It’s hard to admit when you don't know enough, especially when you don't even realize how much you're missing 🙄 but if you actually looked through the massive amount of threads on the BPD topic, everything would be crystal clear

Anyway, I think my debate with you is done and 😉 👋 👋

Harold Adams5 said:😕
what a wild conclusion to jump to, and honestly, such a misconception... saying they're all "too mentally healthy"?!
look, I actually work in that field, and I can tell you for a fact they aren't any more "well-adjusted" than anyone else out there... plus, if you look at the psychology departments (like over at Stanford or Yale)
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it really speaks for itself..
so many people end up studying psychology just to try and make sense of their own internal messes..
..the end of your post actually lines up with what I'm saying, so I guess we're on the same page there👍

okay, I phrased that wrong. It's not that they're "too healthy," it's more like they've just never actually had to face their own stuff—their issues never got intense enough to force them into a psychiatrist's office to work through those conflicts.. so they never even realized they had deep-seated problems, which makes them seem "perfectly fine" from the outside because they haven't done the work to become self-aware...

I truly believe that if you've dealt with mental health struggles in the past and actually resolved them, it makes you a much better psychotherapist later on... so enrolling in school isn't necessarily a bad thing, it's actually worse to have that syndrome where nothing was ever diagnosed and you never even confront your own pathologies

if you've never personally felt what it's like to struggle, how are you supposed to know what it feels like for someone else?!
everyone has a little bit of baggage, so I feel like every single psychiatrist should go through that phase of facing the "unhealthy" parts of themselves

Carol Lee4 said:I’ve mentioned this before, but I really think choosing a career in therapy as a way to heal yourself usually backfires, because most of the people who dive into this field for that reason end up being pretty mediocre therapists—mostly because they actually need to be sitting on the other side of the couch themselves.

So, are you one of those types? 🙂

I totally agree that people who have actually wrestled with their own demons tend to make much better therapists, but there’s a massive catch—you can't just jump straight from your own crisis into someone else's head. You have to truly face everything, get a handle on your baggage, and reach a point of complete healing before you even think about sitting across from a patient. Honestly, I feel like you need at least a few years of solid stability under your belt after finding that peace. This goes for pretty much everyone, including those working with teenagers...😉

So, yeah, I guess I'm one of those people.🙂 Whatever issue I manage to tackle... if I can nail that one thing, it feels like I might actually have some leverage over everything else going on in people's lives too.

I honestly feel like the real issue is that most psychiatrists out there are just way too healthy, or they've never actually hit rock bottom themselves, so they can't truly wrap their heads around what a patient is going through.
I’ve noticed this pattern with quite a few psychiatrists lately, and even with one really highly regarded psychoanalyst. I get that her whole approach is built on the idea that she shouldn't be overly empathetic with her patients, but still... I honestly wasn't sure if she actually understood what it feels like to live with BPD.

Honestly, I gotta tell you... you don't even get what Borderline actually is. It’s honestly kind of shocking how little you seem to understand about it, or any other personality disorder for that matter.

Look, at the end of the day, having a degree doesn't mean much—not even if you've got a Master’s or finished some fancy internship—if you just don't have that raw talent or the natural instinct for what you do.

I gotta say, I was pretty bummed out by how little people actually seem to get when it comes to personality disorders.😲 👎