Posts by Joseph Bailey41

Predicting the future. 🙂

Lisa Green522 said:So, basically, what’s the move when life throws you a curveball? Like, how do you actually deal with being caught totally off guard? It's a bit of a struggle for me because—let's be honest—I am definitely not an expert at staying cool under pressure. If I have plenty of time to prep, sure, I can pull it together and look okay, but if something just hits me out of nowhere? Man, a little bit of panic starts creeping in, my hands get all shaky, and then I’m left feeling like I didn't exactly wow the person sitting across from me. I'm talking about work stuff. I recently got this sudden call for an interview—just out of the blue—and even though I think I did a decent job highlighting my skills, I’m pretty sure they clocked my nerves the second I walked through the door. My hands were shaking, no lie. And yeah, I'll admit it, I maybe took things a bit too lightly and wasn't as prepared as I should've been. But what happens when I'm actually on the job and something unexpected pops up? How do you handle that? It feels like I have this set path I walk where I feel totally confident, but the moment I have to take a sudden detour down a different street, I'm completely lost. I know, I know—it's basically just my anxiety acting up—but if anyone has some real-world experience or a way to fix this, please, hit me up! Seriously, I'm just not built for getting blindsided by stuff that comes out of nowhere. I really want to learn how to master the whole "expect the unexpected" thing.

For things that aren't totally unpredictable (like a job interview), you prepare. For everything else... you just focus entirely on the situation at hand. Don't dwell on what happened, what might happen, or how things will look... just focus on exactly what is right in front of you. You can afford to panic after it's over. 😬

swiftdrifter4 said:Once you start observing, you stop feeding them... or rather, you feed the "being"—whatever you want to call that consciousness🙂
Or maybe it's more accurate to say you're remembering who you actually are, instead of listening to what those passing thoughts and emotions claim to be. Sounds easy enough on paper, right? But in practice, they're always starving for attention—as you well know.
Feeding the thoughts really starts with identifying with them in the first place.

My inner being—my consciousness, or whatever this infinite thing is—is just too naive and completely out of its depth when it comes to reality. If it ever actually takes full control of my body, we're all screwed, no matter how many of us there are inside. 🤣

swiftdrifter4 said:That’s true, though I wouldn't really call it "control." It feels more like observing everything without getting tangled up in it... but fine, maybe it's just two different ways of saying the same thing.

I think that observation is just the starting point. The next step is deciding which thoughts you're actually going to feed and which ones you'll let pass by. From there, you go back to observing how that shift in your mindset affects—or doesn't affect—the shared reality around you. It's basically a continuous loop.

swiftdrifter4 said:Exactly... if we've identified ourselves with it, then sure.
I never said anyone should deny negative thoughts just to pick the positive ones. From what I've seen, thoughts are pretty much out of our control anyway.

From what I've gathered, it really is possible to manage both your thoughts and your emotions—you just have to stop identifying so closely with them.

Thomas Nelson25 said:So, what actually is true love?

(Maybe better to ask... from a woman's perspective... vs a man's)

And regarding jealousy... how do we explain why most "normal" people act that way then?

Then you've got the folks outside the norm—it's all over the map, from polygamy to asexuality, to those pathological relationships, or even that intense "artist" type of infatuation... or if I'm not mistaken, things like Tantra or spiritual stuff, where they view it as some kind of path to enlightenment.

Jealousy stems from a toxic ego that, in its childish neediness, views another person as just an extension of itself. True love will always be "outside the box," especially since we live in a world that tends to normalize emotional dysfunction.

Thomas Nelson25 said:Agape?

Eros is just about duality and polarity, etc...

Eros isn't quite "love" so much as it is a life principle—a driving force. It's passion. It can be directed toward anyone or anything... artistic creation, spirituality, mathematics... it doesn't really matter.

Thomas Nelson25 said:Unless you're some sort of polygamist guru, then sure, you could say "whatever."

Otherwise, being possessive is just a natural reaction—plus, partners usually share the same vibe.
It basically scales right along with how connected you are.

Most average people are pretty shallow (spiritually speaking, anyway), but the core truth remains the same.

Not necessarily. You could just look at a situation like that as motivation to finally walk away from a bad relationship, for instance.

Thomas Nelson25 said:Unless you're some sort of polygamist guru, then sure, you could say "whatever."

Otherwise, being possessive is just a natural reaction—plus, partners usually share the same vibe.
It basically scales right along with how connected you are.

Most average people are pretty shallow (spiritually speaking, anyway), but the core truth remains the same.

I really can't stand possessiveness in any form, though I don't have any issues with being deeply connected. People are just wired differently, I suppose.

Charles Collins4 said:In my opinion, one reason is that most people are incredibly subjective. They focus narrowly on the immediate moment and their own immediate feelings, refusing to look at the bigger picture. This is often how people with low emotional intelligence react, or those lacking life experience and a broader worldview.
I believe the core issue is an inability to remain objective. These individuals struggle to accurately assess situations, as well as the thoughts and reactions of others.

That's true. Especially the part in bold.

ironrider11 said:+6.66 🍿

(as long as it isn't one of those locked videos available only to "the big corporate sponsors")

And we definitely need to include sandblasting in the package deal. 😁

If we want to be politically correct, we could just pull brooms out of people's backsides instead. For the astrologers—that service is totally free. 😒

Jeffrey Ramos4 said:😂

A new business model... 😁

The Whisperer. 🙂

Andrew Barrett4 said:E.

A little bit of vortexing ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ and it’ll be ‘brand new again, like that DC10 never even happened.’😬

That kind of swirling is just wild.😂

Honestly, this deserves its own YouTube channel.👍

Jamie Adams6 said:So the chat is locked, and somehow the two most interesting threads over at the Democratic Party are also shut down—seriously? Is there even any point in living after this happens?

Is there any beer left in the fridge?

silverheron91 said:I’ve always been drawn to people with actual grit. You know the type—the ones who can take a punch from life, deal with injustice without throwing a tantrum, and don't crumble at the first sign of trouble. They aren't fragile little flowers; they just shrug, take it on the chin, and say, "Well, that's just how the world works."

Try swapping out the word "injustice" for "the way things are" in that sentence. Sit with it for a second and see if that version feels more right to you. 😉

Carl Rivera43 said:Prophetess

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Chris Williams said:Personally, I feel a certain gag reflex at the mere mention of categories like "guru," "priest," "teacher," or "savior." When I see them surrounded by a crowd of devoted followers who mimic their every move—dressing like them or repeating whatever "wisdom" that hack spewed during some lecture—I feel an impulse to start shouting discipline and telling everyone to just go home; honestly, screw the followers, the cults, and those spiritual teachings, especially when that little magician from Oza is just as lost as you are.

You have books in your own homes; read them and actually practice something. Try applying even two or three things. Be your own light, rather than coming here to worship some idiot who turns himself into a circus act and turns you all into fools.

I suppose this reaction exists because, in previous stages of my life, I respected them immensely, so now the pendulum has swung just as far in the opposite direction. Now, perhaps unintentionally and more instinctively, on a deep, visceral level, I feel like vomiting whenever I hear someone praising them with profound reverence as if they were superhuman beings who possess some special insight into the unknown.

It seems there is something in human nature that craves authority, a force outside oneself, a magical savior, a powerful father, a nurturing mother, or even a benevolent Santa Claus. It’s something infantile, weak, and foolish that prevents people from discovering their own strength, leading them instead to hand it over to some self-proclaimed savior of souls who rambles on about what others should do (for themselves, and of course, for him) just so they can be exactly like him.

Me too. Though, apparently, there are techniques people use to work through that feeling. ☕

Betty Patel172 said:That goes both ways. If someone rolls up from a small town in rural Nebraska and starts preaching about Manitou, people aren't going to buy it. Every culture has its own internal logic; we can respect those traditions without necessarily being able to fully grasp them. It’s much like how a lifelong New Yorker views an outsider, or how someone moving to Chicago might struggle to catch the local rhythm. You can observe, but you won't always understand. 🙄

To be honest, I actually find the stories about Manitou much more compelling and meaningful than the stuff they try to sell us here. But hey, to each their own. ☕

David Vaughn75 said:Look, if you're some kind of fake guru out there manipulating, lying to, and bleeding your followers dry, then yeah—you're a psychopath.

A plumber talks about pipes, a gardener talks about the soil, and a man of God should be talking about God.

I’m not there yet, but I wouldn't mind getting the hang of it. Honestly, after being cheated and fleeced by people for long enough, I feel like it’s about time I balanced the scales a little. 😁

But thanks for the heads-up. If my plan actually works, I’ll make sure to talk about God constantly. Nothing else. That way, if I talk about anything else, people might actually try to fact-check me or prove me wrong... but when it comes to God, I can say whatever I want since nobody's ever actually seen Him. ☕

Betty Patel172 said:We were raised in a different landscape altogether, so there is simply no sense in attempting to force an American frontier mentality here.

Tribalistic? 🤔

David Vaughn75 said:One of the dead giveaways that you’re dealing with a legitimate guru is how they constantly bring everything back to God—it’s like their North Star, no matter what else they're discussing.

A total psychopath, though? They can't stand that kind of talk. If anything, they’ll go out of their way to avoid mentioning God altogether just to stay under the radar.

In that case, maybe I am a psychopath. ☕

nimblemarlin6 said:I once dropped by a community out in rural Montana. Their guru, this guy known as unknown, was there. The followers looked at him with this level of reverence that’s honestly hard to put into words.
They told me straight up: "You have to experience unknown."
After the lecture, unknown held a Q&A session. He sat on this chair that looked suspiciously like a throne, while whoever wanted to ask a question had to sit on a tiny little cushion right at his feet. I decided to step up and ask him something, but when I caught his eye, there was nothing there—just completely blank, vacant eyes. I didn't feel any sense of divinity or anything. To be honest, he just seemed like an ordinary guy riding a massive ego trip, fueled by followers who project deep meaning onto him—(and I suspect he's projecting something else entirely back at them).

I follow the whole self-help scene pretty closely, and frankly, I've seen this movie before. There are countless cases where the instructor is just a totally regular person—someone who isn't even teaching what they claim to be divine messages—but the followers start building this mystical aura around them... and then some of them quickly figure out how to, exploit the situation, (kind of like what happened with unknown).

Idolatry really gets under my skin. People try to turn a guru into a god; if they actually succeed for a moment, then what? In ancient times, they might have eaten him, but today... what happens? 🤔