Posts by Noah Fowler87

Quincy:

says: Look, I genuinely love kids. I think babies are adorable, and I enjoy playing with them and just being around children in general. But having my own? That’s just not on the table. I don't want that lifestyle for myself; I simply don't feel the urge, and I honestly don't believe it would make me happy. In fact, I’d much rather adopt a child who’s already out there in need than go through the whole process of bringing my own into the world. I don't see the necessity or the point in biological reproduction for my own sake. That's just how I feel. To me, providing a home for a kid who’s already stuck in the system without anyone to look out for them feels like a far more meaningful way to contribute.

As a man, I find myself agreeing with most of what’s being said here.

Jane Doe, nobody is out here bashing parents—far from it. In many ways, I can only admire people who step up and become great parents. What really gets under my skin, though, is the subset of people who judge those of us who don't share that desire. It’s baffling to me that they view someone as "lesser" or fundamentally flawed just because they choose a different path in life.

Chris Watson3 said:Honestly, I’d start getting seriously concerned about my own mental state if I were thinking this way. Look, if you don't want kids, fine—that’s your business. But comparing children to animals? That is absolutely revolting. Besides, people with this kind of mindset should probably be legally barred from having children anyway, because it’s exactly because of people like you that our foster care system is overflowing with abandoned kids.

I think people were simply weighing different sets of interests against one another, nothing more...☕

If someone loves animals and keeps them, why should that be viewed as somehow less significant than someone having children? I mean that sincerely. To me, it feels incredibly selfish when I’m out with a group of parents and the only topic of conversation at the table is diaper changes or potty training mishaps. It’s exhausting. It’s like if I sat down at a dinner party and spent the entire night lecturing everyone on the nuances of sailing when nobody else cares about it. Why does everyone have to obsess over kids? Why is it that so many parents assume everyone else is dying to have them, or that it’s "normal" to talk about nothing else?

If you want kids, go for it; if you don't, don't. I don't see either path as being "bad"—I see it as a choice. Just as I don't believe those here who choose not to have children would be bad parents, I don't think parents who don't own a dog would be bad pet owners. It’s all about personal preference.

James Collins12 said:That raises a funny question, though—if a woman doesn't have a husband, who is supposed to sign the paperwork for her?

Nobody... but she’d better have at least two kids to make up for it. ☕

Gerald Scott4 said:exactly....
it basically boils down to either a woman having cancer and needing everything removed, or she can't just decide to go through with a procedure like that on her own unless she already has two kids and her husband signs off on it.🙄🙄
It feels like you don't even own your own body anymore; instead, the government dictates that we have to provide them with more children, and then on top of that, the husband has to give his permission.🙄
There's really no point in arguing about this.

This is utterly pathological. Is this really the government's grand strategy to boost birth rates? It’s essentially saying, "We don't care if you don't want children; we want them, so deal with it, and we'll just sit here hoping fate takes its course." How can anyone call that anything other than pure hypocrisy? What kind of laws are we living under? 🙄

I am about 99% certain that these same restrictions don't apply to men—I assume they can just go get sterilized whenever the mood strikes them, right? Where is the logic in that?🙄

Gerald Scott4 said:Which part exactly?

I mean, everything you just laid out! Is that actually how it works? I find it hard to believe there’s an American law that vague and nonsensical...🙄

Gerald Scott4 said:If the law actually let me, I’d have gone through with a sterilization long ago. But obviously, that's not an option since the rules say I need to already have two kids and a husband😕 who has to sign off on everything too.🤮

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Is this some kind of sick joke?? 😕

Jesus...