Posts by Chris Cooper5

I don't think one lifetime is actually enough... I just spend my time dreaming about wide open meadows and being surrounded by total weirdos. Like, I want to be able to wander around in my pajamas and just... yeah, just be as crazy as I feel like being. And not having to worry about making the bed or wasting money on stupid stuff.

so, yeah 🥳

Sam Hayes said:Dear Chris Cooper5, I suppose I’m a bit of an odd duck myself—and honestly, if I had to choose between having a friend like you or just being alone, I’d take the solitude every single time. I’d much rather deal with my own company than be called a "friend" by someone hypocritical and two-faced. It’s that whole... well, one minute I might feel some affection for you, and the next, I just find the whole thing distasteful. Normal, decent people don't play those kinds of games, you know? And from what I can gather, you’re definitely a master of them. 😁
Socializing hasn't exactly been easy for me either, especially after everything I've gone through—dealing with various mental health struggles and all that. But I try to make an effort every day.
Other people might certainly be different from you, but then again, they're only different because you're so uniquely yourself. You really shouldn't change who you are for anyone else, but that mindset of yours—that "people just get on my nerves" attitude—it tends to push others away. It's probably no wonder you feel like you don't quite fit in.

So now I'm the hypocrite and the two-faced one? Wow. Just great. It’s funny how people jump to conclusions about my entire character based on one single thread. Yeah, okay, I have my issues and yeah, people get on my nerves—but that’s something that changes. Besides, I already admitted I can be contradictory.
I mean, take you, for example. Either you've got some major issue you're dealing with, or you've never actually experienced an orgasm, or maybe you're just plain dim. And honestly, those are usually the types who breeze through life without a care.

Gary Perez9 said:Oh, the deep thoughts😲

honestly, just go watch Star Trek or something and leave me alone, god help us☕

Sophia Lopez2 said:....I’m dealing with much of the same here, so if anyone has any advice, please, by all means, share it.
...For months on end, my life felt like nothing short of a waking nightmare. My closest family members were hit hard by cancer, and they passed away... and when my father left this world for good, it felt like my entire social existence vanished right along with him. During those darkest hours, I desperately needed the people I used to grab coffee with—the ones I actually trusted—but they just evaporated. On the day he died, there wasn't a single phone call. Not one person reached out to ask how I was doing. It was just a string of "I'm so sorry" texts. And at the funeral? Of course, nobody showed up. It happened right around the holidays, too, which was just perfect, because that’s when classes at the university started ramping up again. I had to force myself to bury my head in my textbooks and focus on my lectures instead of sitting around having coffee... and eventually, I became someone people just didn't find interesting anymore. They’d call me to hang out once they were done with their own coursework, but I’d stay behind, stuck in my books. They drifted away from me, and now, I’m just alone. Since I ended up having to retake a couple of classes, those were the only people I really knew, and we used to stick together, but now? Now I have nobody. I sit there by myself, just counting down the minutes until I can get back to my apartment and finally have someone to talk to...
Please, tell me how to move forward... I need people I can actually trust. I feel like I've reached a point where I absolutely cannot afford to be alone and just let the grief swallow me whole. Believe me, sitting through six hours of college lectures without saying a single word to anyone... it is absolutely soul-crushing.

Hey! I totally get you. It's honestly terrible being alone, especially when everything in life feels like it's falling apart. That's just really sad. For instance, I spend a lot of my own time wondering what the point of it all even is.

Michelle Hall64 said:Curse it all! I tell everyone this, over and over, but nobody listens. It’s all about special interests! Honestly, it’s infuriating. Everyone just acts like a mindless bot, shuffling through these mediocre lives by following a set of pre-written rules, hating on anything that dares to be different. It's pathetic. You have to be an exception just to exist. ☕

A friend of mine is mostly driven by sex. I mean, I don't really mind that.🤷

lonegardener said:Well, let's start by addressing what you said above. What exactly is your motivation for wanting to "socialize"? You mentioned earlier that people really get on your nerves and that you aren't actually interested in hanging out with them. Are you trying to say that one casual hookup isn't enough and you need a whole crowd instead? Or maybe you were just exaggerating because you're actually lonely and don't have anyone at all. Apple... if that's the case, I don't really feel qualified to give you life coaching on that. My only suggestion would be to find a hobby that involves being around other people indirectly. 🤷

In short—find an interest, something you actually care about. But find it because it genuinely interests you, not just as a way to "socialize." If your only goal is meeting people, then the activity itself isn't the point, right? It becomes just a tool rather than the purpose. So, maybe start by figuring out if there is anything you actually enjoy doing. That might be the first step. Though even that isn't easy, since so many people sadly find themselves with absolutely nothing that sparks their interest. 🤷

Why do I want to socialize? Just so life feels a bit more fun, I guess. I mean, no sane person wants to be alone all the time. And the thing about people getting on my nerves... well, certain people get on my nerves, not everyone, but even that depends on my mood most days. I'm not saying one casual hookup isn't enough, just that he's not exactly good enough.

As for hobbies, I actually do have one (something I genuinely enjoy)—college. It's where people with similar interests gather, but somehow I still haven't managed to make a single connection there. I feel like such an outsider, and honestly, I don't even know why. I think I'm a perfectly normal person. It also seems like everyone there is boring, but maybe that's just because I don't know them yet. I feel like I wouldn't have anything to talk about with them anyway, unless it's school stuff.🙄

quietheron6 said:Look, if you're convinced it's everyone else's fault, then trust me—it's definitely you.😁

Man... what kind of logic is that? 🙄

casualtinker30 said:Man, I totally feel you. Honestly, I moved past that stage a long time ago, but I get it. You just start feeling this intense disgust toward people. You can't stand them. They're self-absorbed, they're boring, they mess with everyone else, and they act like they're better than you? Well, let's be real—a lot of people actually are. But that’s not even why I’m posting.

Look, everything you just described sounds like classic symptoms of depression. I actually went through a massive depressive episode years ago because I just couldn't wrap my head around people. It wasn't that I had trouble socializing—I was always the life of the party, charming and engaging—but behind that big smile, I was thinking, "Ugh, what a bunch of losers. They're revolting." So, I started pulling away from everyone. I avoided social stuff and cut ties with friends, but that doesn't mean I didn't want them. I wanted their company, just strictly on my own terms. When I couldn't manage that, things would get tense, and they either had to back off or we'd have issues.

I really think you should go see a psychiatrist. Seriously, this is a real issue and psychotherapy is how you fix it. For me, I finally managed to build a few healthy, fulfilling relationships, and I feel great now. 👍

I don't have depression. That's really the one thing I don't have. It's more like I just don't know how to socialize or meet new people who actually seem interesting to me. And I don't think a psychiatrist would have anything to do with that.

Keith Jones76 said:Maybe you could try finding an outlet for all that suppressed anger—journaling, a hobby, hitting the gym, whatever works—so it stops bleeding into your relationships. It might actually make things feel a bit less heavy with people. What’s your experience been with stuff like that?

I mostly just hang out here on the forums. Honestly, my current plan is to pretty much stay holed up in my room until I'm feeling better. You know, avoiding any potential run-ins with anyone unstable while I try to get my head straight. Once I've stabilized, then I'll actually go out and try to find some friends. I mean, I've always been a pretty charismatic person—I sort of radiate this light, so people tend to melt when they look me in the eye. But the thing is, I'm just not in great shape right now, so I've kind of stalled out.

Eventually, I want to get back into the hobbies I let slide, mostly playing music. I don't really write songs very often, though; I think I'd need some serious inspiration for that. Maybe some sports here and there, too.

Rebecca Bennett41 said:Chris Cooper5, I can certainly empathize; my own life isn't just falling apart—it has already completely unraveled.

uffff.. I'm sorry. But maybe it's just how things feel right now?😉

Thomas Howard93 said:Yeah. ☕

come on, you could've probably come up with something a bit more insightful. my life is basically falling apart here and you're just messing around🤷

I guess what I’m trying to say is that I'm not really out here hunting for friends. It’s just... in normal, everyday life, I don't really know how to approach people, you know? So, naturally, those friendships never really seem to happen.🤷

At the end of the day, people just end up grossing me out because of stuff like this. It’s like this endless loop that just keeps spinning. Or maybe... I don't know, maybe it's just a me thing.🤷

lonegardener said:I’m not so sure it’s ever that simple, even when you have plenty of "opportunities" at your fingertips. Take my situation, for instance—I have a massive network of professional contacts. In fact, I run in circles where I could easily steer things toward something more personal than just business if I actually wanted to. Between current colleagues, former coworkers, and various industry connections, the options are there. But even with all that, I still think finding a true friend is nothing more than a total lottery. 🤷 It often starts back in childhood or during those high school years... and more often than not, it just gets darker as you go, much like it did in my case.
Honestly, it would probably be for the best if you found a hobby or something to keep you busy outside of this forum...

Pure nonsense (this last part). People who judge their worth by their friend count usually have what I’d call "strictly professional" relationships. I know folks out there with 450 'friends' on Facebook. You really have to wonder—what kind of 'friends' are those, actually? 😁

Just to be clear—I’m not trying to gatekeep how anyone chooses to define a "friend." If you have a specific definition in mind that works for you, then sure, maybe it really is possible to claim 450 friends. 🤷

But I’m talking about actual, real-deal friends. Some people really do have a huge circle of true friends. But honestly, having just one is probably plenty.

It’s not even just that, though. I don't even really have acquaintances. I'm just not great at the whole socializing thing. I wonder where I went wrong.

Why isn't anyone replying to this thread anymore? I don't know... is it just me? Am I being avoided? It feels like I can't ever seem to actually connect with people, you know? I keep wondering if the issue is actually me, or if maybe it's everyone else. But honestly, it's probably not that simple. This is... I guess you could call it a pretty serious problem.

lonegardener said:It's possible... 😬 - but are you really sure about that? 😍

well, go ahead then, walk me through it.☕

lonegardener said:😬 You say you don't want to socialize—so where is the actual issue with socialization then? Why even worry about it if you have no desire to be around people? It doesn't quite add up. 😉

man, you just don't get it at all☕

Gary Perez9 said:I’ve got 350 friends on Facebook myself.☕

Wait, whose photo did you even set as your profile pic back then?☕

quietheron6 said:What's the end goal here? You actually looking to hang out with people or what—is it even worth it? Honestly, you don't need a massive squad... just one real one is plenty.

Look, I have one damn friend and frankly, it isn't enough. I don't really feel like hanging out with people because, I don't know, most of them just gross me out.

A friend-->they'll bail on you right when you actually need them most. I guess everyone's just looking out for their own interests anyway.☕