Posts by granitemason8

Look, I’m just gonna ask you one more time: when exactly did you tell this guy you weren't interested in grabbing coffee or hanging out?
No matter how I spin it, or how many times I re-read your opening post, I just don't see this dude as some kind of villain.
He was just asking questions—stuff friends are allowed to ask. He was poking his nose into things where he had a right to, provided you actually considered him a friend. And here I go again with the same question: since you never once told him you don't view him that way... instead, you basically despise him and then start threads about him using those rolling eye emojis in parts of the text where you think you're being especially "cool" (that bit about the bike is just overkill, honestly, it says way more about you than it does about him).

Are there annoying people? Hell yeah, there are. We've all dealt with them. I've got a perfect example from work: a coworker walks into my office while I'm absolutely drowning in tasks, trying to figure out how the hell I'm going to hit my deadline, and she just sits down and starts rambling about how she burnt her lunch. So, I TELL her, "Man, I'm in a total bind, I have to finish this in fifteen minutes because my boss is breathing down my neck for this report, I'm slammed." And she goes, "Oh, I wouldn't want to bother you, but about that lunch..." and then she just stands there talking for fifteen straight minutes while I fail to get my work done. Then, she finally glances at her watch and goes, "Oops, I have a conference call, gotta run!"
But I don't find any of that funny. Personally, I'd call that behavior downright rude rather than just "annoying."

Oh yeah, and about that question of yours on how to finally get rid of those absolute freaks for good.
Look, just be blunt and tell him he's getting on your nerves. Go ahead and insult him straight up and make sure he knows dead serious exactly what you think of his pathetic self.
I mean, I honestly don't know how you guys are even going to function without him 😉

And besides, let’s be real, there are plenty of annoying, soul-sucking people out there—trust me, I've run into my fair share.

Look, I don't mean to be harsh, but honestly, you two just hopping on your bikes while this guy is mid-sentence trying to talk to you? That was seriously pathetic.
It feels like maybe you weren't even the "cool kid" in your group growing up, or you were always trailing behind the popular crowd, right? You and your little sidekick. Now you’re both overcompensating by acting like jerks to some lonely guy who’s just trying to make a friend, all because you need someone beneath you just to feel like you're actually on top. Am I wrong?

Seriously, go back and read what you wrote. Do you really think a guy would sound that miserable if his conversation partner—you—had just said, "Hey, sorry, I gotta head out, got some personal stuff to take care of"? You could have even added, "I'd love to stay, but I'm running late." It's called basic courtesy, you know? It keeps people from feeling like total trash.
But hey, it works for you, doesn't it? You actually prefer him feeling like garbage so you can keep pushing him to ask more questions. It's twisted.

If you guys actually hate the guy, just be straight with him when he sits down: "Look, we're talking about something pretty heavy right now and I'm not really looking to share this with everyone," or something like that... he'll get the hint.

But whatever. I forgot you actually *love* having him sit there just so you can feel superior. 🙂

And that whole bike scene? I have to bring it up again. Did you honestly think you looked cool? Sorry to burst your bubble, but you looked completely classless. Pedaling away from someone you were literally grabbing coffee with fifteen minutes ago while they're still mid-sentence—even if they're just saying "uhh"—is just plain rude.

Henry Moore2 said:There are tons of maniacs out there who target girls they just met or even just people they spot walking down a street in Chicago or something—they'll start following them—but usually, it boils down to the fact that the person happens to look like someone they want to get back at.

So there really is that revenge element baked into it after all... I mean, we're definitely talking pure hatred here...

Man, I was really hoping to see more people weighing in here with their thoughts. But whatever. I’m still struggling to wrap my head around this whole thing. I mean, let’s be real—it’s not like random serial psychopaths are just wandering down a street in Chicago or LA raping every single person they pass by. It’s always specific individuals who know these women or have been watching them from the shadows... so what's the actual deal? Is it pure, concentrated hatred for women? Do they consciously wake up wanting to cause pain? Or is it some twisted, pathetic kind of attraction where they think violence is the only way to actually possess someone? Like some kind of sick, desperate greed for control.

Jamie Davis9 said:Control and power... those patterns were decoded by psychologists and tribal leaders ages ago.

Is this some universal craving for dominance, or is it just specifically targeted at a particular victim? Like, when a predator actually corners someone, why is the goal to exert that absolute control over *that* specific person instead of, say, someone they just passed on the sidewalk fifteen minutes earlier? What is it that makes a potential target stand out in their twisted mind?

Alright, I want to get your take on this, and if anyone has links to actual professional studies or psychological deep dives, please drop them because I know they exist.

I’m strictly talking about male attackers where the victims are women here. And let’s just leave pedophilia out of this entirely—if we start opening that door, there’s no end to the rabbit hole.

Look, obviously you've got planned attacks or situations triggered by circumstances (you know, that classic pathetic excuse where they claim, "well, she was dressed like that" or "she was asking for it"), then you've got career criminals, psychopaths, or just some one-time offender... what I’m really digging into is the actual feeling toward the victim.
Is it some sudden, uncontrollable surge of attraction in that moment? Is it a weird obsession with a specific person? Or is it some kind of vendetta... or even pure hatred? Does science actually know what someone is supposed to be feeling when a person says "no"—and they just keep going anyway?

I don't know if this sounds stupid, but I’m especially curious to hear from the guys on here... what kind of headspace or circumstances would even lead a man to go down that path? (I know most of you wouldn't dream of it and we all pretty much share the same moral compass, but still... just think about it... try to visualize it... what would you actually have to feel toward a person to do that to them?)