Posts by Arthur Mitchell

Elizabeth Chavez33 said:Look, I have never understood this... how can they not know where things are located? They live in that house😕 and everything stays in the exact same spot every single day.....

I mean, fine, my partner can handle a few small chores while I'm out (seeing a doctor or whatever), but then he has to spend the entire rest of the day "resting" because he's just *so* exhausted😂 (and I've only been gone for maybe two hours)

It’s unbelievable! And the worst part is when he asks where something is—even though, mind you, he’s been living here for five years now—he gets the answer, and then ten minutes later, it’s like he’s never heard it before! He asks again and again and again!!! It drives me absolutely insane, and honestly, it feels pretty disrespectful too. He knows I’ll just end up telling him anyway, so why bother taxing his brain with useless information?
And sometimes, when I tell him exactly where something is, he’ll open a drawer, look right at it, and say, "It's not here." I swear, I lose my mind! I want to tell him, "Don't make me come over there and find it myself!" Once he realizes I'm serious, suddenly he manages to find that one tiny little thing tucked away in a drawer that’s basically the size of a coffee table. Like, hello?! It’s clearly a byproduct of having mothers who did everything for them, and now we’re the ones stuck dealing with the fallout because we can't exactly un-spoil them.
Don't get me wrong, I love my man, but this specific habit... 😠!
He absolutely loves playing with our little one, which is wonderful, really. But he doesn't seem to realize that I’d also love to have some playtime, provided he handles everything else. He gets home from work at the same time I do... I cook, we eat, he plays with the kid... then I’m the one scrambling, bathing the baby, and getting them ready for bed, while he uses that time to take a long shower so he can go straight to sleep. Then, of course, he has the nerve to ask me when I'm coming to bed or if I'll be much longer. 😠 If he played a little less, or spent less time reading the paper or watching the game and actually helped me with half the housework, we’d actually be heading to bed at the same time. Every once in a while, we do manage to crash together 🙏, but it’s incredibly rare.

Anyway, I know I'm totally going off on a tangent here, but he just pushes my buttons! 😉

Elizabeth Chavez33 said:Oh, please... they would all love to swap with us because... what exactly are we doing? We're just sitting at home, right? Just "babysitting" all day.🙄
But the second they actually have to stay home and watch the kid for an hour or two, they lose their minds. They're constantly glued to their phones, snapping at everyone and texting us to ask when we'll be back.😂
And don't even get me started on the physical pain. It’s been proven time and again that they're total wimps when it comes to actual discomfort. I’d really love to see how they’d handle labor.😂 😂

They can't even find their own socks without help. It's instant phone usage—"Which yogurt should I buy?" or "Is it time for the baby to eat yet?"😂
It's enough to drive you insane! Then I walk through the door after a long day, and the house looks like a disaster zone because he was supposedly "watching the baby," and naturally, I'm the one left to clean up the mess. And the physical toll? Don't even get me started... they act like babies themselves! Total wimps.😂

Bubbles said:I honestly think he’ll realize pretty quickly that it’s not all sunshine and rainbows. If he can, he should just take a week or two of vacation time to stay home with the baby all day—maybe then he'll actually get a sense of what we're dealing with. 🤣

But it shouldn't just be about the baby; it's about every other little "charm" of running a household. Let Mom go out and grab a nice coffee with a friend while he's on duty.☕
...And meanwhile, lunch needs to be ready, the house needs to be spotless, the laundry needs to be folded and hung up, the dishes done... you know, all that endless loop of stuff we women handle that everyone just assumes happens by magic. No husband ever truly appreciates or even realizes how much of our lives is swallowed up by it.
Anyway, sorry for the rant! This forum is such a great place to vent!👍