Posts by rustyrider3

A lifesaver... thank you guys so much...
Honestly, being in this headspace right now? It feels totally isolating. Just lonely, you know? Like most of you, my husband is always at work and isn't around during the day, and all my "friends" are either single or in those relationships where you can't even tell they're trying for a baby... As for my in-laws, the news of the pregnancy hit them like a ton of bricks—it was like someone had died. Seriously, I saw their faces firsthand, and 🙂 can vouch for how grim it looked. I’m trying to laugh it off, really I am.
I've been lurking on this forum since day one of my pregnancy, and you all are just incredible. That shared sisterhood and empathy? It’s honestly what's keeping me sane.
My plan? I'm just gonna go ghost or keep things strictly minimal... at least until the baby arrives. 😲
Mah-mah 🙂

Hey there, mamas-to-be 🙂
I’ve been sitting here laughing and crying at the same time. I’ve read through so much stuff on here, but honestly? I just feel so incredibly alone in what I’m going through right now...
So, here’s the deal: I’m 21 weeks along, and my entire world has basically flipped upside down since I found out. People I actually considered "friends" started hitting me with those nasty comments way back in the first trimester—you know, the "oh, you're gonna lose your figure" type of crap. And now that my bump is finally showing? It’s almost hysterical how they react (seriously, WHAT?!?!?!). Especially when my husband is standing right there with me, they try to belittle me by pointing out how "thin" they are, implying that I’ve just "let myself go" or whatever. Like, really? Those are just the tip of the iceberg. Don't even get me started on the people suggesting my husband is probably out looking for someone else because I’m "unattractive" now... It’s gross. On top of that, my family is being so unsupportive it hurts. My own mother actually looked me in the eye and said, "Don't think for a second I'm babysitting once the baby arrives; you have no clue what kind of responsibility this actually is." Excuse me? I’m 30 years old, I’ve had a career for a decade, and I’ve been running my own life with my husband for years. So, yeah... I feel absolutely terrible. Maybe I should be talking to a therapist instead of posting on a forum... but if anyone else has dealt with something similar, it would mean the world to hear some actual advice (and please, don't just tell me to "ignore them," because that's easier said than done...) 😢 😢 😢