My boyfriend is an addict
in Psychology ·
crimsonnomad29 said:You have to think about the end game here. What is the ultimate result? You'll just be stuck in a miserable cycle together, all because one person is too cowardly to make the hard choice to get clean. I personally knew someone whose mother passed away because he was high the entire time; even when she was on her deathbed pleading with him to stop, he refused. Everything is possible if there is actual intent.
Those who successfully recover are rare, but perhaps we should ask ourselves why they actually succeeded—it certainly wasn't because it was easy, but because they genuinely wanted to change.
Solid post... but it bugs me how the default advice is always just to walk away. You literally said it yourself: everything is possible if you actually want it. That means there's still hope, right? You shouldn't just give up so easily.
Lawrence Palmer3 said:Unfortunately, I have to side with most of what’s been said here, and honestly, once an addict, always an addict. It’s pretty rare to find someone who actually manages to kick the habit for good. I’ve spent enough time around people in that cycle to know that their entire world shrinks down to one single thing: how to get high and how to get high as fast as possible. They don't care about the consequences or the methods they use to get there.
Some of them aren't even around anymore...
Living life alongside people like that can be a total nightmare. You also have to remember that you're putting yourself at risk for all kinds of health issues just by being in their orbit.
So, keep your head up, turn the page, and just keep moving forward..
😕Those two points of yours kind of clash. But you're right, they're rare, but they exist. Leaving isn't always the answer... you shouldn't just dump someone the second things get messy. Sometimes you have to fight for a person a little bit.