My boyfriend is an addict
in Psychology ·
Megan Barnes3 said:Solid post... but it bugs me how the default advice is always just to walk away. You literally said it yourself: everything is possible if you actually want it. That means there's still hope, right? You shouldn't just give up so easily.
😕Those two points of yours kind of clash. But you're right, they're rare, but they exist. Leaving isn't always the answer... you shouldn't just dump someone the second things get messy. Sometimes you have to fight for a person a little bit.
Fair enough, maybe saying "once an addict, always an addict" sounds a bit harsh, but the reality is that addiction lingers in the subconscious even after rehab, therapy, or some supposed "recovery." I'm not saying it's impossible to change, but escaping that hell is incredibly difficult. An addict needs to find something that makes them happy again—something that gives them actual hope and a reason to connect with people..
I agree with you that we should give people a chance, especially those we care about. And not just one chance, either. But like I said, they often have nothing else on their mind, so they really need to find a genuine motivation to live a life without all that crap..