I reach out to them a week in advance, but nobody will—or can—make the effort. I didn't mean to imply I’m some chatterbox while everyone else just sits there in silence. It’s just how I am. When I meet someone new, I prefer to be approachable, communicative, and open.
When I’m out—though I don't go out much—I’ll kick off a conversation once the group goes quiet, usually picking a topic I know will get people talking. Last Saturday night, we were at a coffee shop when one friend went to the restroom and just never came back; she went straight home instead. Her excuse? She was terrified of what people would think if they saw her with me. Look, I'm not ugly or repulsive. In fact, I’d say I’m quite attractive.
Then there's the other one who shut me down simply because I earn my own money while they're still being bankrolled by their parents.
It’s starting to mess with my head. Has anyone else dealt with this kind of social friction?😢
Jerry Martinez5 said:So, do you actually invite anyone to hang out? Or do you just meet someone and sit there waiting for them to make the first move?
Do you have any girlfriends (besides the one you mentioned)? Do they actually go out?
No. I tell them I’m trying, but I just keep getting rejected.
To be honest, I have people in my life, but they aren't "real" friends. They aren't the ones you can call at any hour, the ones who will actually show up, or the ones who won't flake on a quick coffee. It turns out they're just acquaintances, nothing more.