How to hold a normal conversation without it being awkward?
in Psychology ·
Jessica Wood96, I think you might just be shy, or perhaps you’re overthinking things a bit too much..
I feel the exact same way sometimes... and I've actually given it some thought..
I've realized that I'm incredibly talkative when I'm with people who truly get me—people I'm just on the same wavelength with. In those moments, I don't stop to analyze what I said, how it sounded, or if I've made a fool of myself. We just talk!
But then there are the times when I *do* overthink. Usually after talking to people who think they're the smartest in the room and try to talk down to you... or after conversations where the topics just don't resonate with me at all..
Try to be a little more confident. Just say what you need to say. Don't worry about whether someone finds you boring; does anyone actually spend their time judging you that closely? If you just act like yourself, you'll naturally find your tribe. As long as you keep pretending, you'll always have this struggle.
Sometimes, you just have to adapt to new people. You tolerate them, they tolerate you, and everyone moves on..
I feel the exact same way sometimes... and I've actually given it some thought..
I've realized that I'm incredibly talkative when I'm with people who truly get me—people I'm just on the same wavelength with. In those moments, I don't stop to analyze what I said, how it sounded, or if I've made a fool of myself. We just talk!
But then there are the times when I *do* overthink. Usually after talking to people who think they're the smartest in the room and try to talk down to you... or after conversations where the topics just don't resonate with me at all..
Try to be a little more confident. Just say what you need to say. Don't worry about whether someone finds you boring; does anyone actually spend their time judging you that closely? If you just act like yourself, you'll naturally find your tribe. As long as you keep pretending, you'll always have this struggle.
Sometimes, you just have to adapt to new people. You tolerate them, they tolerate you, and everyone moves on..