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Sophia Perez5 said:👍
And just imagine what it is like for me, navigating through this sea of teenagers. I truly find it difficult to comprehend how such a staggering amount of sheer stupidity can be concentrated in a single place. 🤣
If you only run into this much stupidity on an online forum, then you're actually pretty lucky 😁
So, I’m 24 now, and I’ve realized that hitting the clubs just isn't my thing—it's honestly not for me. I can go out occasionally if the situation calls for it, but doing it every single weekend? That feels more like a chore than fun. I don't really see the point in drinking every time we head out, and the smoke is usually unbearable for non-smokers—not to mention how exhausting the small talk can be. These days, I much prefer catching up with close friends where we can actually have a real conversation—sharing advice when things get heavy, or just laughing together. It feels like quality people are hard to come by lately; most everyone seems focused on themselves and avoids anything meaningful, which I suppose is part of why I tend to keep to myself... Anyway, it’s good to know there are others out there like me. Long live this forum! 😍
You managed to slip away somehow 😁
neonbear6 said:Neglecting oneself? I don't think anyone feels they are losing themselves if they manage to make a social circle laugh or if they feel genuinely welcomed within it. On the contrary, feeling like a likable, communicative person is actually quite vital for one's self-esteem.
Of course, my point assumes you are dealing with a standard social group that moves through various topics, rather than a crowd that fixates on the exact same thing over and over again.
The idea that I'm suggesting being a sycophant isn't accurate. We aren't talking about performing favors to get ahead; we are talking about social integration. Perhaps I miscommunicated when I mentioned tailoring your conversation to what others want to hear. I wasn't suggesting you walk up to someone and shower them with empty flattery like "you look amazing" or "this suits you perfectly." Rather, I meant sharing truths that happen to align with the interests of those around you.
But even so, it still seems to me—at least in my view—that this is just a form of pandering, or more accurately, acting. If you have to perform for others and present yourself in a different light, then you aren't being yourself anymore. When you consider how many people you have to accommodate, it's a lot of masks to wear. Do I really need to spend my life telling people exactly what they want to hear? And I wonder... do they ever stop to ask what I want to hear? ☕
I deal with something pretty similar 😵 I often feel like I just don't have anything to say to people—especially when I'm stuck in a group with someone I can't stand. It’s almost like I don't know how to initiate a conversation; everything just ends up being those mindless, small-talk questions where you give a two-sentence answer and then... nothing. It bothers me because I end up feeling like an idiot, even though I'm definitely not—it's just that I rarely, if ever, run into anyone who actually motivates me to open up. When that somehow happens, I turn into a pretty decent conversationalist—sometimes I can barely stop talking 😁—but the catch is that it doesn't happen nearly enough 🙄
I wouldn't call myself a chatterbox, really; I usually try to wrap up my own thoughts as quickly as possible, and it feels like I'm sinking deeper into this pattern. I suppose I might not come across as particularly interesting to others, but maybe that's just because most people seem mediocre to me—with their shallow ways of having fun and their tired jokes. Arrogance? Maybe 😍